Should you apologise to your girlfriend if she cheats on you?

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Aethereal · Accepted Answer

Hold on; I'm supposed to think that the person that did such a horrible thing, showing me what a faithless, inconsiderate, and selfish person she is deserves an apology because I "lacked something"?
It's nice to see that some people not only want to dodge taking responsibility for their decisions, but think it makes sense to shift the blame as well. Perhaps we can look forward to the day when murderers walk free because it was their victim's fault for getting killed. Maybe the rapist or child abuser is innocent because their victim deserved it. The arrogance behind this statement is unbelievable, absurd, stupid, I can't even think of a word! The person who makes such a statement truly deserves to be called trash.
If they decide their partner "lacks something", break up with them and get together with the person who has what he/she lacked. But no! You see the reason they are cheating is because deep down, they know that no one is perfect, and they'll never find the person that has everything they want. So they try to feed their greed instead of compromising or seeing the value in what they have by being with more than one person.
No! apologizing to the person who cheated on you is an assertion that what they did was right. Cheating is never right. Do not be deceived by trash. I can't believe such absurd ideas ("I cheated, it's my partner's fault that I cheated on them, and they ought to apologize for making me decide to cheat") actually enter some people's heads.

Chadnelson1973 · Accepted Answer

Cheating is wrong weather it's the girlfriend or boyfriend , husband or wife it's just wrong on both ends and should not be justified by saying something is lacking or someone was not doing their part in the relationship that's 💯 percent bullshit !
Cheating is about being selfish and not being respectful of the relationship and your partner.
If you cheat you're hurting your partner and relationship. And you loose the trust and you might not be able to regain that trust or repair the damages in the relationship.
There's a right and expectation and trust to know and believe that you will not be cheated on.
Also if there's kids in the relationship they have a right to believe that their parents won't cheat on each other. And if you do cheat then you have also cheated on the kids. And you will have broken their trust as well
So you will have to try and fix something that might not be fixable.
Also if you choose to cheat what are you teaching the kids? That it's ok to cheat and to break someone's trust !
There are no winners if someone cheats only loosers it's not worth the risk of getting some ass
If you have to cheat you're better off telling them before you cheat and end the relationship
I've never cheated and have never thought of cheating nor have I been cheated on.
So to say cheating is caused by someone not doing their part in a relationship is nothing short of a poor excuse and just crap and a lie

DestinyElizabeth04 · Accepted Answer

Absolutely not. Dont ever apologize for someone cheating. I made the mistake of doing that once and it resulted in him cheating more and blaming me for it. Stating that I wasn't giving him what he needed in the relationship and that is why he needed other people to fulfill his desires in the departments that I was lacking. In the course of 7 years he cheated more times than I could count and he always told me that if I was a better person he wouldn't have to cheat. If I gave him more oral sex he wouldn't have cheated. If I got dressed up more he wouldn't have cheated. And my favorite, if I hadn't gained weight he wouldn't have cheated (this was 2 weeks after I had our daughter; our second child). I constantly tried bettering myself and it took me forever to realize that he was the messed up one. Not me. So 7 years and 3 kids later, I stopped apologizing to him and started apologizing to myself instead. I packed up my stuff and all of the kids belongings and left him standing there yelling the ever so sweet "Good luck finding someone who will want a single mom of 3, bitch". Guess what? I found someone who wanted a single mom of 3 just a year after and here we are 2 years later, still going strong. Not once has he cheated or made me question his loyalty to me or my kids. Dont apologize.

Lily_Pi · Accepted Answer

I would say no but I think that really depends on your situation. If you were a terrible partner who treated your girlfriend badly and constantly cheated on her I'd say you had it coming. I don't think it should ever be okay to cheat on your partner (unless they are constantly cheating on you and you for some reason unbeknown to me decided not to leave their sorry ass. Then I'd say they reaped what they sow). I can also see if you completely refuse to be intimate with your partner and they feel rejected and undesired by you than they may end up seeking that somewhere else but again, I feel like this shouhave been dealt with in another way. While I would say that people do cheat because they feel like there is something lacking in the relationship that's not always the case. Some people are just shitty people who don't like monopoly but choose to get into a monogamous relationship. Depending on the circumstances you could need to apologize to your spouse, but more than likely that's not necessarily true.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

This is a standard cheaters' justification to avoid responsibility for their behavior. Perhaps if I kicked her sorry ass out the door and I kicked her so heard that it made her nose bleed, then I might apologize for that. Otherwise, there is no apology. SHE was the one who violated her promise of faithfulness.

victoriaxoxo · Answer

No, wtf bro. by the way that post is a reaction to some other posts made by guys. You know the ones that say something along the lines of ‘if your man cheats that means that you didn’t this or that’ or ‘women say men are like dogs but a dog will remain loyal if you treat him right’ or ‘ keep his belly full and his balls empty’ or ‘20 things you should do to ensure your man doesn’t cheat on you’. It is mocking the outdated believes that it is the woman who is responsible for maintaining the relationship, she is to blame if her husband cheats and therefore she should reflect back on her behaviour and understand that perhaps she was lacking in something for him to stray. I have genuinely met guys who believe in that by the way. That they have a right to stray if their spouse doesn’t satisfy them in some way, they even assert that it isn’t cheating. Some even claim they are doing as a favour to maintain their marriage. Of course, without their spouse knowing. I’m yet to meet a woman who thinks that where she cheats it is for her husband to make amends and apologise.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Ahh haaa haaa, what a twat! Someone should apologize to make them feel better for being a cheater? Now I've heard everything. She lacked something too, it's called integrity!

Emmalouise03 · Answer

what the hell, if someone cheats, girl or boy, u dont fucking forgive them for it. that will make them think its okay to cheat and they can just do it whenever and get forgiven. the girl who wrote that is most likely a cheater who blames everything on others than herself, fucking whore. u should never apologise for being cheated on. u should apologize for being a bad boyfriend, but not for her cheating on u cause thats her own fault. if someone isn't happy in a relationship anyway, they shouldn't cheat and consider their relationship after wtf, they should just break up then... people are so fucking dumb it pisses me off

winterfox10 · Answer

You shouldn't have to apologize for someone else's decision, but the most important thing to do in a situation like that is to learn from it. People never cheat for no reason, there is always some way that the relationship was lacking. Sometimes that failing is the cheater's fault, other times it's the cheated on's fault. In my parents' case, my mom stepped out on my dad, but there were a thousand obvious, obvious, obvious moments where he could have done what he needed to, to help her feel loved and validated; but he didn't, and he only reinforced her loneliness instead.

So was my mom in the wrong? Yes, technically she IS the one who committed the adultery, but I can also tell you beyond a shadow of doubt that my father emotionally pulverized the hell out of that marriage a long time before she stepped out.

Billlewis · Answer

Absolutely. Every time, every day. It's not the woman's responsibility to continually share with her male partner that she's dissatisfied with their lovemaking, in my opinion. What's more, if she's considerate enough to admit she's engaging in extramarital intimacy, she is, in effect giving her husband another chance, so yes, he should Absolutely apologize for failing to properly please her.

SincerelyAnon · Answer

You should leave her. No words needs to be said after someone does that. They knew what they were doing. You owe that person nothing further.
Goodbye & good luck!

The picture -Lmao - no one got the fact that this is what's said to women.
She basically just reversed it.

Loving_Husband · Answer

I used to feel this way so I totally understand why some people would say yes. I felt like it was something I wasn't providing to her and because if that it forced her to cheat on me.

I have apologized to a girlfriend for her cheating on me. I feel stupid for doing so now... but just being honest.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Any girl who thinks this way is a cold dead-inside bitch. And I would drop her dead-weight ass faster than she can say "I snorted coke off a bartender's dick in a nightclub toilet stall". GTFO with that broken AF logic, I have zero goddamn tolerance for trash like this.

Somebodyelse2018 · Answer

You shouldn’t stay with a girl who cheated on you even if she apologized. You can forgive her, but it’s a bad idea to give her a second chance. A girl who cheats on you is a girl who doesn’t respect you. Respect is fondamental in a relationship

jackdaw2345 · Answer

What's that supposed to mean if she or he is not satisfied or happy they should talk to their partner and let them know how they feel so that she/he knows how their partner feels and they try to satisfy them. If you don't get something from your partner he/she doesn't have psychic powers to read your mind and serve you. You gotta communicate. Majority of relationship problems can be solved with proper and effective communication.

genericname85 · Answer

nope. that's the typical female "not taking responsibility for shit" attitude. cause hey by that logic, men can cheat all they want, cause it would be the womans fault. but the man cheating is of course also the mans fault. it's always the mans fault no matter what's wrong. delusional bullshit. they need to get real.

JackofSpades · Answer

I agree with the idea that if your partner cheats on you there's some role in your relationship that you are not filling.

But fuck no I'm not apologizing.

If there is a "need" that your partner isn't satisfying, its your responsibility to speak up and tell them so thetwo of you can try and fill that "need".

If you're giving up on us at least have the common decency to leave me before looking for someone else.

utterlyconfusedXD · Answer

absolutley the fuck not! that BITCH tried to pull mental gymnastics to make herself look like the victim! i fucking hate cheaters! I've been cheated on twice and let me tell you it is never EVER the fault of the person who got cheated on! the person who does the cheating is just all in all a SHITTY FUCKING WASTE OF SPACE PATHETIC EXCUSE FOR A HUMAN BEING! and i wholeheartedly believe that!

Anonymous · Answer

No women are just bullshitters don’t ever take anything a women says about relationships seriously ever when it comes to relationships women are straight assholes they just try and play the victim all day long

Savage_Wisdom · Answer

If you're not happy about something in your relationship, then talk to your SO about it like a mature adult. If your answer to relationship issues is cheating on your SO, then you're not mature enough for a relationship.

normalice · Answer

Seems like the sort of thing a Russian troll would say to start an argument over something no one would have ever thought to argue about, because it's ridiculous..

SOARER_ · Answer

No, you should just accept the fact that you were lacking as a man in some way and leave her in the past. Apologizing is a bit pathetic.
Sometimes women are insatiable, these women need to be avoided.

clampfan101 · Answer

There is never an excuse for cheating, but there are times the couple needs to make a mutual apology. For example, cheating because he hit her - both have something to apologize for. But cheating because he couldn’t please her - that’s not his fault.

Unit1 · Answer

Pure degeneracy. Kick her to the dumpster and let the dumpster cap hit her arse.

But to be fair, there are cases where their boyfriend/husband didn't satisfy her (emotionally most prominently), so she went to cheat.

Deydey12345 · Answer

Well if you're not compatible, you're just not. No need to apologize..

InfobotsMom · Answer

Yes, you should apologise to her for making her have to ride the cock. Buy her some feminine hygiene wipes as an apology.

Browneye57 · Answer

While you cannot blame the victim of cheating, there is generally always culpability for the failure in the relationship.  Happy couples in love don't cheat.

R_Cakes91 · Answer

That is a really dumb thing to say. Toni Stark obviously cheats all day long with no regrets.

WhiteShoulder · Answer

Of course not. Same goes if you're a girl and it's your boyfriend who cheats on you.

Hey_uoy · Answer

The one who posted this is so insecure it smells xddd

C7fig · Answer

If your girlfriend cheats on you, leave her. If your girlfriend cheats on you cuz you lack something you're unaware of and expects an apology, she lacks a lot more than you and she should be lacking you as well. ✌

TadCurious · Answer

I don't agree with her on that. And I could put it more strongly.

bimmy5000 · Answer

Uhm FUCK NO. If there was a problem you fucking talk about it!

pleasestopthis · Answer

Sounds like BS to me. She has a damn mouth to express herself if she dislikes something about the relationship.

adolescentswede · Answer

I am all for finding ones error depending on what the error concerns i would evaluate an apology or singel life accordingly

Likethecity · Answer

Is this bitch for real?

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Wow... pours yet another drink. GaG is in rare form tonight.

LogicBomber · Answer

Apologize for being dumb enough to think shit was date-able when you are tossing her garbage ass to the street.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

I don't care about the excuses that THOTs use for their whoredom. She cheats and I dump her, end of story.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, like "I'm sorry for expecting you not to act like the whore you are".

FatherJack · Answer

No !! You bin her instantly , and tell her to fuck right off !!

ChefCurry · Answer

ill vote for any presidential candidate that promises to put women back in the kitchen.

Anonymous · Answer

The word 'cunt' should be reserved for very special girls and should only be used for those girls who truly earn the designation. This Tomi Stark definitely has earned it.

PrinceOfAljazera · Answer

this is how i will apologise to her

Anonymous · Answer

Just long enough to fuck her best friends and throw that whole "you were lacking something" shit right back in her face

Ultrainstinctman · Answer

Well if that's the logic I guess I can force cheat on my girl with another girl who has better ass , cooks , goes the gym and who has better sexual appeal  I guess she owes me an apology

Surely · Answer

Does that go both ways? Or maybe I should say, Shouldn't that go both ways?

GreenGold1992 · Answer

fuck no! wtf would I have to apologize for? she betrayed me

YHL6965 · Answer

Never apologize for someone being a piece of human garbage to you.

oncpl · Answer

I believe that girls cheat when they don't get enough love, sex satisfaction and respect from bfs.

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

What a bitch. I wonder if she feels the same way if he cheated on her. I doubt it.

Exorcist_Rampage · Answer

No. Men shouldn't apologize to a woman if he wasn't in the wrong and vice versa.

Iamagoodguy · Answer

Bold of you to assume anyone would find me attractive enough

Anonymous · Answer

If women apologises men for cheating on her. Even dumb whores needs to understand that.

Anonymous · Answer

Not a f#ck. Mine did it because the guy was giving her money.

MissChasityL · Answer

I feel sorry for the people who voted yes

Agape93 · Answer

Hell no. That’s victim blaming and deflection.

YoungBuII · Answer

I’ll murder her and the guy with my bare hands.

omgjassy · Answer

My man always apologises as he should

DaNeZ · Answer

I would no longer have a girlfriend.

DrugsForMyBrain · Answer

No? He should say sorry to me.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Before or after an "unfortunate incident"?

Tim-loves-it · Answer

No. I forgave her though

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