Boyfriend tickles me and it excites me but also makes me feel helpless?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend recently found out that I'm very ticklish and he uses it against me! I squeal, shriek, scream, make ridiculous funny noises, and I literally fell off the bed just trying to contain myself :P I have zero control over it and it's so triggering because he can literally ask me to admit anything when he does that.

As an example, he got me to admit my biggest secret to him because he said he wouldn't stop until I did. And he's a lot stronger than me so I can't push him off or make him stop. I totally trust him and we've been dating for a little over a year but it's so frustrating that he takes every opportunity to do this. It drives me crazy and part of me wishes he didn't learn about my ticklish reactions.

Now whenever I'm being cheeky, annoying, or purposely provoking him, he resorts to that weakness. It kind of makes me attracted to him because he's so pushy with it but also makes me sad because I feel helpless when he does that. Conflicted emotions about this but wanted to see how I can turn this into a mutually fun activity. I do enjoy it a lot in the first few minutes but then it becomes almost painful from all the laughing.

And as a side note, it makes me so annoyed because he tickled me so much that I farted :D I'm blushing just thinking about it but I really couldn't help it and it was my first fart in the relationship. It's because I was laughing so much and it just popped out and surprised both of us! I wanted to die on the spot from embarrassment! We just laughed all the more and he loved seeing how embarrassed I got and he kept kissing me and just poking so much fun at the incident. I hate when I can't control my bodily functions because he tickles me so much :D

Do any of you guys engage in tickling your partner? How do you draw the line between playful tickling and when it gets triggering?

[Julian7312]

Everyone farts but you need to set boundaries. That's not cool of him. Don't be embarrassed about farting, I've been there

[Asker]

I didn't intend on doing that! If he hadn't tickled me, never would have happened! He broke my year record of not farting in front of him :P With previous boyfriends, I have always avoided any and all of those bodily functions :D

Ahhhh I'm still so embarrassed even just typing it. Girls are just not so easygoing with farts and being so human in front of the person they like and are into. He had such a blast making fun of my reactions and wanting to provoke more of them :P Thanks for saying it's not that big of a deal and trying to get over it!

[Asker]

I don't know... what would you do if your girlfriend farted when you tickled her? :P Would it be something you constantly make fun of and bring up or would you keep quiet about it and just brush it off? I wanna know lol

[Julian7312]

I've had more than one girlfriend who farted and knew I heard it. I told them it was fine. We've all been there I bet and girls are human too. I shared embarrassing fart stories of my own so they knew I was totally cool with it and that I knew what it was like to be in that position. Believe me, there are more embarrassing fart situations to be in than just being tickled. 😊

[Asker]

Yes I know there are far worse stories out there lol! It's more that it was unintended, unexpected and drove us into a fit of laughter! But these are the moments that make couples closer and he didn't judge me for it :P Only said he would not forget it :P Anyway, the bigger issue is finding that tickling is fun for us but with limitations ;) I appreciate that! Only problem is that he is not ticklish AT ALL so I can't even retaliate or try to get him back :(

[Julian7312]

Haha, you never know where someone might be ticklish 😊. But you maybe try telling him funny stories or jokes that make him laugh just as much 😉

[Asker]

good plan and I plan on taking my revenge on him in some way or another lol :P

[Julian7312]

Haha I wish you the best of luck! 😊

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the ticklish dilemma! It's like being in a romantic comedy where laughter leads to love, isn't it? The thing about tickling is that it's all fun and games until someone farts. 😂 Now, that's what I call "breaking the ice," or should we say "breaking the wind"? It's absolutely adorable and hilarious that you've shared such a vulnerable and genuinely funny moment together. It shows how comfortable you both are with each other, which is a great sign of a healthy relationship.

However, the knight in shining armor shouldn't always use the tickle torture as his sword. It's key to communicate your feelings about feeling helpless when the tickle monster goes on a rampage. Setting boundaries is sexy, believe it or not. It's about finding that sweet spot between being playful and respecting each other's limits.

Why not turn the tables and make it a game where both of you can participate on equal footing? Maybe establish a "safeword" for when it's time to stop the tickling. Or better yet, explore other ways to channel that playfulness and physical connection. Who knows, maybe there's another secret ticklish spot on him waiting to be discovered by you!

Remember, the best relationships are those where you can laugh together—yes, even if that means an accidental fart here and there. Keep the communication lines open, and you'll find your perfect balance between giggles and romance. 😉

[spartan55]

Not since I was about 8 years old.

[Asker]

Same until this happened :P

[spartan55]

You seem okay with it for some reason.

[Asker]

I am in a way because it's fun being silly with your partner. But also annoying because sometimes it gets to be too much and that's why I'm conflicted about it

[spartan55]

Tickle fighting is for grade schoolers. I mean are you fucking kidding me? Grow up.

[Danny_dan92]

Helpless? That’s sad