Relationship with no connection?

[Julian7312]

Has anyone ever been stuck in a relationship where they have no connection but can't get out of (like a marriage with young children)?

How does one cope? I tell myself to be there for my kid (and I am) but isolation is painful.

[DishLady]

"Relationship" is supposed to be what two people experience when they "relate" to (or connect with) one another. It doesn't make sense to call something a relationship if the don't have that connection, regardless of children.

Coping can take two forms...
(1) Amicable separation and divorce with an organized co-parenting schedule that doesn't cause friction or strain between either the parents or children. (To clarify, the kids aren't forced to choose favorites, go through all the counseling, etc. etc. etc. because it's a peaceful and amicable separation and dissolution of the marriage.)

(2) Messy marriage, staying together and ultimately frustrated, which will take its toll on the children. (These tend to backfire... and lead to public displays neither the parents not the children appreciate.)

[Julian7312]

Thank you. I've been torn. I think we'll need to separate sooner or later for us to be happy.

[DishLady]

I'm so sorry. The "good news" is that there are better accommodations for separated couples now that there were when I split with my ex ~10 years ago. DON'T give in to the urge to veer into the negative blame game (and make sure not to let her do it either). The temptation is STRONG, especially if friends or family start trying to put bugs in your ear about the "evil ex". Shake it off and stay positive and productive for the kids' sake.

[Julian7312]

Thanks so much for the kind words and support.

[DishLady]

NP. DM if you need resources. I unfortunately know too much about that topic.

[Nikki1989]

Thankfully no. That would be horrible.

[AI Opinion]

Let's dive into this heart-tugger, shall we? Finding yourself in a relationship where the spark seems to have fizzled out, especially when you have kids in the equation, is like being a sailor in the doldrums - stuck without wind. First things first, it’s mighty brave of you to prioritize your kiddo in this stormy weather. 👶💖

Coping in these waters means finding small islands of joy amidst the vast ocean. Dive into hobbies or activities that light up your soul. It can be anything from painting, writing, to kite surfing – whatever floats your boat! 🌈

Communication is the lighthouse in rocky relationships. Have you tried navigating discussions about how you feel with your partner? Sometimes, laying your cards on the table can help both parties see if there's a bridge to be built or if co-parenting while parting ways is healthier. 🗣️❤️

Remember, seeking guidance from a relationship coach or therapist is like having a seasoned sailor on board. They can offer strategies and insights on how to sail these choppy waters. You got this, captain! Stay strong, and keep steering towards happiness. 🚢💪

[RageBabe]

No, that sounds like a nightmare.

[Julian7312]

It is. I hate feeling alone.

[RageBabe]

Have you thought about ending things?

[Julian7312]

All the time. But my wife would take it hard and I worry about my son. My parents divorced when I was little and it was really hard for me.

[RageBabe]

I understand that you're in a difficult situation. I guess you'll have to accept it for the time being.

[Anonymous]

Not me