Do you think healthy relationships need arguments and controversies?

[Itsmeirem]

Is it better to ignore small conflicts in your relationship or argue and solve them?

[normalice]

No. It's entirely possible that two reasonable people would figure out objections the other person would have before they even think of them, and so not do the thing - or weigh it on some impartial balance the other person should be smart enough to work out on their own, so long as it is truly impartial (which doesn't mean unbiased so much as the bias is appropriately part of the weighing). I do that all the time for pretty much everyone. If I'm not with a girl who trusts me enough to attempt such puzzles with the assumption that there is a solution and, at worst, ask for that solution ifmshe can't figure it out on her own - and i can, in turn, trust her the same - then that's a glaring personality conflict and we need to see other people (or at least I do).

Granted, that's just me and mine. I suppose others may not suffer from having their empathy on constant full blast so can get away with a little thoughtlessness from time to time. In which case yes some conflict to keep the boundaries from moving is healthy.

[Summeroflove]

I think that people need to be able to work through problems. Some of these are dealbreakers while others make it stronger over time.

However, once it crosses the line of name calling for the sake of hurting the other person, resentment, fighting over stupid things, and the list goes on. It’s time for things to be over.

I do however feel that once people are married they should fight for their marriage. The exceptions are if they’re both just miserable, serious abuse, and cheating.

You can work through a lot of things. Cheating isn’t one of them.

[sage2021]

When I was married to my 1st husband we got along very well, there was nothing to argue about.
I think maybe once a year we exchanged words, but didn't argue.
If I did want to discuss something that may have sounded like it could turn into a heated discussion, he would just look at me and kinda laugh/smirk and tell me to go comb my hair.
In other words he wasn't having any of it.🙂

[thatshydork]

Every single relationship has some arguments, romantic or not. I can’t name one person in my life who I haven’t argued with or been at odds with at least once during our time of knowing each other and that’s ok. Arguing or having a problem or two with someone is fine so long as you work things out. That’s the same for any kind of relationship, not just the romantic kind.

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to sprinkle a bit of relationship wisdom here! Arguments and controversies can be the spice mix in the recipe of love, believe it or not. They're not just inevitable; they can also be incredibly healthy. Think of them as the relationship's gym - a place to flex, grow, and sometimes sweat a bit. Ignoring small conflicts is like skipping leg day - eventually, it'll catch up with you. The trick is to argue right. Make your communication clear, respectful, and always aim to solve rather than to win. Lovebomb alert – navigating through the stormy weather together brings you closer. So, pull out those boxing gloves, but always remember to fight fair and with love!

[ohsheeT]

No not even I mean you can disagree to disagree and still have that respect and that love towards each other there doesn't have to be a right or wrong there has to be you have your opinion I have my opinion and that's just the way it is we don't need to battle to say who's right or wrong or what we believe in even that's your belief that your opinion and I'm going to respect that and I want the same thing with a smile and then a kiss

[DishLady]

Challenges will happen regardless … that’s normal … but no, ARGUING is a waste of time and energy. Better to just discuss things calmly and logically.

[kylee2437]

That depends. If arguments aren’t leading to anything, then it’s not healthy.

[imtiaz45]

Healthy relationships don't need arguments, but occasional disagreements can be beneficial. Conflicts often arise from differences in perspectives, and addressing them can lead to growth, deeper understanding, and stronger bonds. The key is how these disagreements are handled—constructive communication, active listening, and mutual respect are crucial. If both parties approach conflicts with empathy and a willingness to resolve issues, they can strengthen their connection. However, constant or unresolved arguments can be harmful. A healthy relationship thrives on trust, support, and open dialogue, where both partners feel heard and valued, even during disagreements.

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[MisterWack]

Disagreements, small conflict, pick up the pieces once the damage is done and make up is all healthy.

“Which one do you like better, blue or pink?” Pink… “Hmmm I pick blue”. It is normal to disagree, if you want to make your point as to why your decision is better / you are up to compromise then go for it and deal with it in a healthy open forum way which will give you the best of both words.

Just avoid a lot of major conflict though don’t be afraid to voice a differing opinion is all. Both sides in the relationship don’t need to get their way all the time, just need to work out anything that comes their way. At the end of the day it is important you love eachother and want to be together so, keep it that way through healthy discussion.

[HawkPerception]

I think that's a big misconception people have... that for a healthy relationship, there need to be arguments and disagreements.

I entirely disagree. The more compatible you are with someone, the more you will agree on and obviously less you disagree on. If all your views are the same and the way you think is the same, there will likely not be any arguments when it comes to those. Same as having similar interests, willingness to try new things, fulfill each other's desires in bed, having a similar destination envisioned in life, way you want to raise kids, sense of humor, sexual compatibility, etc.

The more similarities, the less arguments. There are relationships that are very close to perfect out there because each partner is extremely compatible with each other and genuinely agree with and respect each other's views and have tons of other similarities to make the sailing smooth.

[LazerBean]

Need them? Certainly not. A relationship may be healthy despite having those two things on occasion. But a perfect ly healthy relationship would have discussions and understandings, not arguments and controversy. If a couple argues over small things, their relationship is surely screwed and a pain in the ass.

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[EmyyWolf]

A healthy relationship shouldn’t have too many fights and conflict in between.

If you’re constantly arguing and fighting. Something isn't right. You’re not compatible in your beliefs and values.

If one of your isn’t very smart, or one of you is too emotional. Yeah. There’s gona be more problems. Compatibility is the way to go. Or you won’t have a good time

[Guy82939499]

Well it depends on what small conflicts mean to you, but generally in my opinion it's better to talk about them and solve them, I don't think there's any need to argue, if talking things over mean a argument will start, it mostly means one or the two of you need to work on communication, also maybe something may be a small conflict to you, but it may be a major conflict for the other person, so you have to be considerate as well, if my partner has something that annoys her or bothers her, no matter how small, I will always talk things over with her, because I know even tho it may not seem major for me, it may be for her

[Damaged00]

I believe disagreements and controversies are a must. You need to be challenged and keep learning new perspectives, it's the best way to not just grow individually but as a couple.

But that doesn't mean it needs to be an argument. People can have healthy debates.

[NathanDavis]

I don't think they "need" them

they just go through them, because that's the very nature of any relationship, including the healthier ones...

and I also think this is a better term... healthier relationships, more or less... and rather than just healthy/unhealthy... lol

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Yes. Even the healthiest of relationships will have fights, arguments, disagreements, etc. once in a while. It's normal and doesn't mean it should be the end of the relationship itself. Plus, you'll be able to figure out and know how to handle those problems better the more you have them.

[Skinhead-1979]

"In every good marriage the pots and pans fly through the kitchen once and a while"

Arguing in a relationship is not a bad thing; it shows you care. You are not going to argue with someone over something if you don't care.

[DannyUk2017]

Imagine everything being.."pink" and Perfect! Try that for 1 month, and tell us how it went? I'm sure you'll Explode with... anger, rage, moaning, shouting... because... That happened, this happened.. etc, etc...

[mobiusforniner]

I’d say conflicts and arguments are inevitable. But healthy relationships don’t need it. If your relationship needs conflict, that’s more a reflection upon one’s own character

[BCRanger10]

I wouldn't say they need them. They can benefit from the sense of renewal that comes after, but there are other ways that can come about as well.

[alice55]

Is it definitely healthy to have argument and be able to solve them, not having it mean a bitter relationship in the years to come. Of course the relationship should usually not be more argument than peace

[snowboarder720]

It isn’t the arguments that make a relationship healthy, it’s how each person responds to being in an argument and how they grow from it is what matters.

[MrOracle]

I think things can be discussed without there having to be an argument. I also think it's better to deal with issues as they come up rather than putting them off and letting feelings fester.

[Anonymous]

A good banter is good from time to time, I assume. Having different views on somethings are fine as well.
Arguments are only healthy if the two can mutually come to terms on respective grounds, I assume again.
Conflict is around us all, it’s a dynamic that people can exchange with one another. Being mature and being able to let go should they butt heads is steamed from their overall strength and coping ability as individuals, again I assume.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Relationships need conflict in order to grow. But if you’re just intentionally starting drama, that's a problem 😂

[Agape93]

No but you do need ways to deal with conflict in a beneficial way, and a respect for boundaries and decency.

[slatyb]

You can either tell your partner how you feel and ask for change, or you can decide that it's not important.

[_Senorita_]

Healthy relationships need communication, understanding and mutual respect... And to grow and change for someone

[getpucksin]

Ignoring little problems festers and becomes bigger problems as they add up. Better to have small arguments you can handle than to get into one too big to fix.

[DtMe89]

It's unhealthy to agree on EVERYTHING. But it's also unhealthy to DISAGREE on everything. Pick your battles!

[BrassRaven]

Argue ans solve them.

It pisses me off more when my wife has an issue with something but doesn't want to talk about it. Makes me feel like she's afraid to talk to me. Or does not feel comfortable enough to talk to me

[Nikki1989]

No, nobody needs that in their life.

[I_am_a_human]

Argue and try to solve them. Don't bottle things up and pretend everything is fine and dandy. Communication is an important skill to develop/get better at.

[Anonymous]

No they don't need them.

Small conflicts can be solved without them.

If a woman thinks she needs them, beware, she's a drama queen.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I wouldn't say you need it but if it happens, you two Can grow closer from it.

[paledreams]

For my particular type of approach, no, I like constant peace and constant compatible 💝😊

[clampfan101]

A long term relationship is going to have controversies. It’s good to try to talk them out calmly and respectfully before they escalate.

[Vegasrunner]

If your women feel entitled enough to argue with you, then the relationship isn't going to last anyway.

[LiamJHayden]

Need, no, but they are generally unavoidable so what is needed most of the time is good conflict resolution skills.

[Empery]

They haven't hit rock bottom to get realistic about things they don't see eye to eye

[Unit1]

Not necessarily. At home i want peace, not yet another "war".

[itsannalee]

Yes because communication is the key.

[serious]

According to me. No.

[_SillyShoes_]

ALWAYS solve them. Always.

[jahaims]

That is a part of communication

[noohair]

Just don't let things fester.

[RossyBoi]

No they don't.

[Anonymous]

Need arguments and controversies? No.

[Bovrilbaby]

Oh yes

[firenine909]

Obviously lol