If someone is arguing with your partner but your partner is clearly wrong, do you still defend your partner? Why or why not?

[Jammaa]

Yes

No

[Finchie40]

I won’t defend her , but I will protect her and make sure things don’t get out of hand , I will then have a talk with her and tell her my opinion as to why I felt she was wrong and also hear her side of the story as well. Trust me , I have dated some girls’ that easily flew off the handle over the littlest things , that I knew clearly she was wrong , but my instincts is to protect her , if things get out of hand and someone tries to cross the line with her. I have knocked people out that got up in her face and tried putting their hands on her , I don’t tolerate that shit , arguing is one thing , but crossing the line by trying to put your hands on someone, just because they are arguing? is a big No to me. My one girlfriend was flipping out at a restaurant we were at because the service a sold sucked big time , We were waiting for a long time to get our food and the waitress was just playing on her phone and spaced out , when we clearly saw our food ready to be served , my girlfriend got up and yelled Can we Please have our food or is your phone more important !!! Finally the waitress grabbed our food and brought it to us , By the time she gave it to us , our food was cold , so my girlfriend jumped up out of her chair and said I want to see a manager now !! Another girl and her boyfriend were sitting next to us and the girl got up in my girlfriends face screaming at her , for being rude to the waitress , My girlfriend didn’t back down and said to the Girl , Who the Fuck are you!! Which my girlfriend made a valid point as to why is this girl getting in her face , when she wasn’t even yelling at that girl , So my girlfriend told her to get out of her face , the boyfriend jumped up to protect his girlfriend and tried acting like he was all tough to show off in front of his girlfriend , I looked at him dead in the eyes and told him to Sit Down , He sat right back down lol Damn I got laid good that night lol

[MicahRaine]

This is a great question :)

For me and Raine that question isn't very applicable because we don't really argue with anyone. . . but if we did, my response would depend on the situation.

If I'm auditing one of her classes and she's in middle of a debate, of course I'm not going to tell her. But if she's arguing in a grocery store about who's first in line, I may not tell her she's wrong exactly but I would request that she give up our spot because it's just not worth arguing over.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

I wouldn't defend my partner if I believed they were wrong, but I'm not going to address their mistake then and here's why: If it's gotten to that point, they aren't in their rational mind, and me siding against them will escalate the situation.

My goal would be deescalation. But men don't like being deescalated because their ego is now in play. So, I'd probably say, "I'm going to wait [elsewhere] while you wrap this up". The reason is because he might tone it down if I am not there to impress. Plus, it's a signal that I am not going to be involved in this and he is on his own here.

But, I would promptly break up with any guy who was so out of control and made such a ridiculous scene. That is an immediate dealbreaker and red flag. No way would I be with someone who made scenes like that. It's drama and I want nothing to do with it.

[DishLady]

In public you recommend calm resolution. Don’t sell your partner out in public. Suggest a short break to cool off and privately let your partner know you don’t agree with what they’re doing.


It’s up to your partner to then correct themselves when they head back into the discussion for a resolution.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the tricky waters of partner dynamics, aren't we? 😉 Well, as a relationship coach, I'd say it's not just about picking sides; it's about being the voice of reason wrapped in love. If your partner is clearly on the wrong side of an argument, blind support isn't the most loving act. It's like offering a band-aid for a wound that needs stitches—temporary relief that ignores the deeper issue.

Think of it this way: defending your partner in public could provide a united front, which is like relationship gold, right? But, once you're in private, it’s essential to gently and respectfully address the error in their stance. It’s about nurturing growth and understanding in your relationship. Support doesn't mean approval of every action; it means guiding each other towards becoming better versions of yourselves. So, defend when necessary, but always educate and enlighten with love. That’s the real MVP move in a relationship! ✨

[AviatorTom]

I defend my partner during the argument, then afterward, when we're alone, we have a "discussion".

[Lliam]

I would keep my mouth shut. I would never take someone else's side against my partner and embarrass her in public. That would be a stab in the back. But I would talk to her later and share my views on the issue.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Exactly! This! 👏🏾

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It depends on what the argument is about. If it’s about something petty, I usually leave it alone and remind them that it’s not really something that matters. If it’s something more serious, I have a penchant for being bluntly honest with my opinions. I would still try to disengage from the argument itself as much as possible but hopefully I could convince them to apologize after getting them out of that situation and calming them down.

[lightbulb27]

I avoid that but she's usually right. I will try to gain clarity about her viewpoint and give credit to thenother as well without taking sides.


Rarely will i step in and correct. Nobody wants to be or feel wrong. Iften issues are mis communication

[ArrowheadSW]

Hummm... Back when I was dating, I don't think I'd ever faced this issue. I wouldn't defend my partner's view, but I wouldn't overtly show her she was wrong in front of the other person either. I'd probably say something like, "Let's reconsider that point of view later."

[Purpleronnie]

I encourage my partner to simply move past the argument or move away which depends to what extent it’s heated , if really heated I would simply try to de-escalate , most arguments wander off track so if I see or hear that then I will step in and defend then much later after all is calm I talk through it with her but not point out her wrong , talk about it and let her see that or admit it.

[NathanDavis]

why defend though...

if she is attacked, I won't let that happen no matter what

however, if she's wrong... then she is wrong, and will continue to be wrong no matter what I do, lol... right?

and when people are wrong, and I know they're wrong, I don't tell them otherwise, just because wrong is wrong

[SweetJoyGirl]

Yes, I would defend my partner in a neutral manner, or perhaps not say anything at all. When we get home, I would correct him and explain why he was wrong. It is called correction in private. It makes your partner respect you more than if you correct them publicly.

[soe11]

• I always defend my girlfriend.
• When she cooking herself the then telling her right and wrong.
• I never degrading her in public.
• My priority is girlfriend always first.
• She proud of me, she always pleasing me.
• I love my girlfriend.

[itsannalee]

I’ll defend my partner in front if them and tell him that he is wrong at home.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Right or wrong, I'll always look out for my partner but I won't allow him to make a fool of himself any longer.

I'll simply try to put an end to the argument or pull him out of it.

[Starrrboy]

If my partner is clearly wrong I'd be like " babe , let me handle this and then have a fair talk with the other person and end it in a nice way.. and when we're alone I'd explain and point out things to her..

[IslaTheWitch]

I wouldn't disturb their discussion... I'm quite sure my partner wouldn't like my "help," he can talk without my help :D

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I do whatever I can to protect her dignity while staying within the boundaries of my principles.

[DrPepper12]

Attempt to stop the dispute without taking sides. Address it later with them if it's worth discussing

[Anonymous]

I hate to confess it because it probably makes me a terrible person, but I believe I would defend them even though I knew they were in the wrong.

[paledreams]

I'm glad I'm single and always have been single - means I never have to put up with such ear drum damaging from anyone 🫡🤥🫡🤥😀

[DtMe89]

If they're arguing that somehow 1+1 isn't 2, then, I'm going to go against my partner. I mean, most people understand that 1+1=2. However, if it's something a little more debatable, it'd depend

[TonyMetal___86]

I'll surely love my future wife but if she's wrong than she's wrong, i never take side with someone who is wrong, if i'm wrong i'll say that i'm wrong!

[RingOfFire]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[bannacookies]

Of course not. I'm not going to stick my neck out that much for anybody. Lol. If they're in the wrong, they're in the wrong.

[Yannae]

lol no she can take the L. I'll be there to pick her up after.

[Anonymous]

I would intervene and say that we have to leave. I would never call her out in front of other people. But in private, of course.

[MyBrainsInsaneReign]

You have to defend your partner, but not your partner's wrong opinion.

It's a delicate balance.

[avery58]

Why should I stand up for his bad behavior?

[OfMiceandMen]

Not doing them any favors by lying.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I won't. Partner needs to smarten up.

[Kelly6]

@Jammaa no, I agree defend truth

[OtterMan68]

Depends on the context.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No. You don't justify wrong doing.

[foxsquirrell]

Depends.