My relationship feels like hell and I feel so stuck?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend is hot headed, and literally lashes out at me, what feels like every other day. But its the way he talks to me when he does. He swears at me, calls me names and does not feel bad because he says I cause him to react like that. Its been like that more recently, the verbal abuse For example, falling asleep without saying anything and not making enough time for him. I’ll wake up to him cussing me out. I tried to communicate that its been hard to make time because we always argue, and then dont want to be around each other. He’s always, blowing up on me and talking like shit, and doesn't stop when i ask him to give me some space or just, not swear and call me names. He says i dont listen to him. I have been begging for better communication, because i refuse to stick around and listen at all if someones calling me names. And the thing is, im not even asking out of hopes he stops talking to me like that but for the sake of this relationship, and thats so fucked up. He always tells me he wants to kill himself when we argue and that he’ll just drink or take drugs if I leave.

its a hellhole and i dont know how to get out of it. I feel like im breaking down and I know I am, I know I am but I feel stuck responsible for him. I dont know what im fighting for anymore? Someone who says they love me but doesn't respect me enough to watch what he says to me? But I don’t want him to cause any harm to himself because I have loved him for a long time and really, just want the best for him. But I just, don’t want this. And I know I shouldn’t feel responsible, he entered this relationship with his problems and this way of behaving, but when you already feel so bad about yourself and then your partner tells you they hate your guts…i don’t think I can convey the words to write how that feels.

but I know, i need to have a conversation about the future of our relationship? I know I have my own problems, but never talk to him like that.

[ohsheeT]

Okay you need to stop take a deep breath look in the mirror look into your eyes and say I love you I love you so much and I apologize to you for allowing this to happen it's not going to happen anymore it can't happen anymore because this is not who I am this is who I'm not supposed to be it's that simple you have to make a choice..

Your choice is to stand up for yourself and say enough is enough I don't know what your problem is but quit taking it out on me I'm not going to do this no more is what you need to tell him he's going to have to make choices but first you have to make your choices... You have to believe in yourself and love yourself so much more than anything else in this world in order to do this because if you don't you're going to stay right there and just brain rot heart rot that's not who you are.

Just by asking this question proves it to me you deserve to be loved you deserve to be talked to and communicated to with respect if that cannot happen you cannot be around that person no more because it's changing you and it's hard to get yourself back after you've gone through it for so long don't allow that to happen..

There is nobody in this world that is worth living that life I mean nobody I don't care what you think there is nobody..

You afraid that you could not get into another relationship are you afraid that you cannot handle a house and bills on your own..

What is it making you stay there and think that that guy actually loves you because he doesn't that is not love that is self-hate he does not like himself he does not like you whatever reasons and it's not going to work and you already know that

The best thing for you to do is walk away right now just walk away from it and if he comes after you and says he loves you that he will change you tell him fine when you change come find me..

We can start all over but we're not going to start all over like this and need believing in you because it's not going to work that way either you need time away and he needs to prove himself to you if he wants you back he will get help he will do whatever it takes to prove himself to you if he really loves you but he does not love you because he will not treat you that way and you know this down deep you know this..

Wasting time quit messing with your life quit taking the abuse because it's not worth it you already know all this everything I've just said you already know it I guarantee it find yourself love yourself and protect yourself you change and he might change you love yourself he might love himself after you walk away but do it you have nothing to be afraid of you didn't

Sign up to be in a relationship like this you want happiness and it's out there for you waiting for you quit wasting time because you won't ever get yourself back if you don't do it soon you will be angry at the world and then you'll start treating your next partner just like he's treating you you don't want that either walk away now be strong the independent be the person who you know you are

I can tell just by your words that you are a beautiful person with a beautiful heart and any guy would love to be with you because the way you feel about things don't stay in a relationship that the guy doesn't like you or want to be around you and he treats you like that because that's what's happening right now walk away sorry I feel so passionate about it but I felt every single one of your words walk away please it's your choice and only your choice but walk away

[Anonymous]

You're not responsible for him. He's a grown ass man. He's just doing the suicide threat to guilt you. You need to leave and whatever he does after, that's not your fault. He needs to learn to grow up and deal with his problems like an adult and he can't do that if you stay to be verbal punching bag. You're doing the opposite of helping him by allowing this to continue. You both benefit by this being over.

[Lowiu]

Dont have a conversation he aounds realy abusive towards you its vetter to leave if you talk to him about that it will just make him angry and be even worse

[Asker]

I know things started to get abusive. But admitting that literally wants to make me cry. Just to even label him as that.

[Lowiu]

He is if you can get help from family and friends to leave but people you trust so he doesn't get any information from them

[AI Opinion]

Darling, let me put on my relationship coach hat and give you some love-soaked advice wrapped in honesty. What you're living through sounds more like a heartache symphony than a love song. It's like you're dancing in a room that's on fire, trying to put it out with a water gun. Here's the thing: love, in its true form, doesn't shrink you; it makes you bloom. It seems like you've been wilting instead, and that's a red flag larger than any parade banner.

First off, you're not responsible for his happiness or well-being, especially at the cost of your own. The manipulation and emotional blackmail—threatening self-harm if you leave—are tactics designed to keep you tethered in a cycle of guilt and obligation. True love doesn't chain doors; it opens them.

You've been a warrior in a battle that seems endless, trying to fix what's beyond your repair. Communication is a two-way street, and it sounds like you're the only one walking it. Sweetheart, it's time to put on those sneakers of self-love and run towards a happier, healthier you.

This relationship sounds like it's serving more heartbreak than happiness, and you deserve so much more. A conversation about the future? Absolutely. Know this: it's okay to choose your well-being, to step away from someone who dims your sparkle. You are not his keeper, and you can't set yourself on fire to keep him warm.

Gather your support system, lean on friends or family, and consider seeking professional advice. Leaving a toxic relationship is tough, but staying in one is tougher. You've got the strength of a thousand suns, and it's time to turn your face to the light. Let yourself love and be loved in a way that brings out the best in you. Remember, in the garden of your life, you get to pick the flowers. Send those red flags packing and plant some roses instead. 🌹

[DishLady]

“Stuck” is bs. Just leave if you’re unhappy.

[sirderpsalot123]

Break up with him

[NOTHINGEVERHAPPENS]

Lol just leave him?

[Asker]

I know.

[scott04sa22]

Red flags!!