I’ve been with this guy 6 months. I will hold my hands up high and admit I am a co-dependant person and I do have a lot of trauma in the past and I find it difficult to control my emotions. It’s like my mood depends on a person. I also have hardcore abandonment issues.
Anyway, Whenever the guy I’m seeing dosent answer the phone or call me back I get really wound up, for instance I’ve been waiting for him to call me back for 2 hours and he hasn’t yet - this has really wound me up. I understand people are busy but what else could he possibly be doing- my first thought is - is he with another woman?
Sometimes we make plans and he gets busy so he can’t see me this one here I don’t think I’m being dramatic - he literally will stand me up and say he had things to do- from the beginning of our relationship I will admit, he’s ALWAYS been this way. I just thought it would change when we got official, it seems he puts his friends first and I get mad about this I get so angry I have breakdowns.
If he dosent answer me at night time - this freaks me out? How is he not on his phone past 11pm he’s always awake it makes no sense. His job is all night but he can still answer the phone to me?
Some of his stories just don’t add up? And I just keep asking him if he’s seeing other women, he says no but I just feel like he does? He disapeared constantly sometimes. Am I clingy here? He disapears so often it makes me wonder where he is, he hasn’t seen me in 1 whole week. 1 week.
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As a guy who actually likes clingy, obsessive girls. I can confidently tell you that yes, at least conventionally, you are clingy and have some ordeals that might need to be overcome for most relationships to thrive.
Personally, I wouldn't take as much issue with that behavior. But many, if not most, guys would. And it very well could cause issues between you and your boyfriend.
I'm sorta like that. A lot like that. It's rough dealing with these types of insecurities.
I believe my LD ex was the same. She use to stay up late at night, just to wait on me; despite the 8 hours difference.