Why would my ex still look out for me when his woman is better looking than me after her cosmetic surgery?

[Anonymous]

This is a love that started when I was a kid. He’s ten years older than me and I had a crush on him since I was 13 now I’m 29.
He has a beautiful woman and 2 teens with her. She’s older than me but looks young and beautiful especially after her cosmetic surgery her body looks amazing. The only flaw that she has is taking him from her best friend years ago. It was his decision but still they both cheated on her and formed a family out of the pain of someone else. Anyways, we kinda dated years ago when his wife and him separated for a while and he wanted to marry me but I couldn’t keep up with that in my head. He almost confessed everything he did and I knew that he would do the same to me. I suffered for years and now I feel nothing. I might still feel attracted but I like him more as a friend. Somehow those deep feelings became very tiny. We’re neighbors for years so that’s why I know and everything is clear between us. Sometimes they break up again because they’re both cheating especially him but she just doing it for revenge I guess.

He treats me like a friend, an obsession, he remembers every single detail about me, stalks me on social media and I think of more of an obsession but not love.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic tale of an old flame that refuses to die out, wrapped in a modern-day drama with a twist of cosmetic allure. It sounds like you've got yourself a situation that's more tangled than a season finale of your favorite soap opera. Here's the scoop: love, attraction, and obsession don't always play by the rules, and they certainly don't care much about appearances. It sounds like your ex is caught in a whirlpool of "what ifs" and "could've beens" with you. Despite his current situation looking shiny and polished on the outside, it's clear there's a depth of complexity and perhaps even dissatisfaction within.

The reason he keeps hovering around you like a moth to a flame? It's not about looks, darling. It's about connection, shared history, and maybe, just maybe, a sprinkle of regret. These elements can create a powerful concoction that no cosmetic upgrade can compete with. Yet, tread carefully, for this dance between past and present is intricate. It's alluring to be the focus of someone's attention, especially when it's wrapped in the mystique of "forbidden" or what's perceived as "unattainable." However, remember to protect your heart and question the true intentions behind the gestures and the glances.

Your ex might indeed view you with a mix of friendship and obsession, a dangerous cocktail that can leave both parties feeling dizzy. My advice? Keep cherishing that tiny feeling of attraction from a safe distance and focus on building relationships based on mutual respect, transparency, and, most importantly, trust. After all, we all deserve a love story that leaves us feeling uplifted, not caught in a loop of the past. Keep your dazzling light shining for someone who appreciates you for the right reasons, and remember, the most captivating beauty often lies in the stories we write with others, not just in the fleeting glances we exchange.

[Oliverlogan263]

Duuude this whole situation sounds messy and complicated. A few thoughts:

- Even if he says he cares about you as a friend, it seems like there's still lingering feelings/obsession on his part if he stalks your social media and remembers all those little details.

- Him and his girl breaking up and getting back together all the time bc of cheating issues tells me their relationship ain't that stable or healthy.

- Maybe he feels drawn to you as like a "what could have been" thing since you rejected him before. Or enjoys the attention/drama.

- At the same time though, you gotta protect your own heart too. Don't let him string you along as second choice if he's always going back to her.

- You're right seeing them together long term might be what completely gets him outta your system.

I'd say keep your distance for now, and don't fall for any confessions of regret or wanting you if he's still married, ya feel? Dude's gotta sort his own crap out before you risk getting pulled back in to the mess. You don't need that constant stress sis!