My boyfriend makes me feel guilty when I said no. I’m not sure how to handle this situation. Any advice?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a while now, and things have been mostly good. But recently, I’ve started noticing a pattern that’s really bothering me. Whenever he suggests something sexual that I’m not comfortable with, and I say no, he starts to act hurt or upset. He doesn’t get angry, but it feels like he’s subtly trying to make me feel guilty for saying no. It’s not like I don’t care about his needs, but I don’t think it’s fair to feel pressured into doing things that I’m just not ready for. I’m starting to feel really confused and unsure about how to approach this. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you deal with it? I love him, but I don’t want this to keep being an issue in our relationship.

[Makeushiver]

It sounds like you have good instincts. There is no right or wrong in this type thing; its more of a matter of different lives. I'd often get hit with yeah, that sounds hot but not tonight which yields the same net effect. Stay communicating. The hard part is keeping it from becoming the 600# sitting in th Maybe look into it just a little and see if there are not e room every time you do have sex- even the plain vanilla flavor is better than no ice cream. If you have any of that, a possible desire but not exclusively BDSM nor is it every time. If there is any of it that interests you or at ;east something you might be willing to check out buy a couple of cheap things on the internet. Next time he brings that up, tell him you want to peg him. More common with gay men and women; in this, you wear a strap on and gets fucked up the ass. Actually old girlfriend now b1- wanted to do it with me so I okayed. She wore a dildo that had a built in vibrator and she wanted to fuck me. I had never considered anything like that before but maybe because she's hot & we're still friends. It was a strap on which she used to taken my as cherry, get herself off and gave me a fun ride with a reach around.

Not sure why brought th8at up but I was suggesting a brief look to see if you can handle any part of it better than the rest and give him a Y/N on how you feel. Also find a safety word that works if you agree to stop everything. Everything. Something one of you is doing intentionally or not is hurting the other and when either of you use that word stop everything or at least what your partner needs fixed.
The word should be short, appropriate but doesn't need to be too obvious. I mean a word like "HARDER" could probably be confusing in this situation. Anyway. Good luck. If you at all willing to let me know, in as general phrasing as you want; how things rturn out I'd be fascinated in hearing results

[ohsheeT]

My first thought was I wonder how good he is at it he's manipulating you he's going to try to make you feel guilty because he's immature and he's only thinking of himself you need to just look at him when he starts at crap and just say really you're really going to go there we'll do it by yourself cuz I'm going to sleep LOL

Is pure manipulation and that's even worse than him acting the way that he's acting because it's all a big game to him.

Don't fall for it.
And here's the thing I bet you if he made it all about you and would give you double and triple orgasms that are so hot and intense I would bet you a dollar you wouldn't have a problem wanting sex

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the turbulent waters of love and desire can sometimes feel like steering a ship through a storm, especially when the waves of guilt start crashing in. It's essential to anchor your relationship on the shores of mutual respect and understanding. Your feelings are the lighthouse guiding this journey, and it sounds like they're signaling a need for an open and heartfelt conversation. Communicate your boundaries clearly and lovingly. It's like setting the sails for respect and empathy in your love voyage. You're not just the captain of your ship but also its guardian. If your partner truly treasures the map to your heart, he'll understand that love is not about guilt-tripping but about sailing together in harmony. Keep your compass pointing towards your well-being and remember, your emotions deserve to be respected, not negotiated with. Love should feel like the warm sun on your back, not a storm cloud overhead. 🌈❤️

[Summeroflove]

Imagine if you wanted to take a massive dump on his chest and he said no…. But you threw a massive fit about it…. Imagine how uncomfortable he would be in that situation.

If he cannot respect your boundaries then you need to just leave the relationship maybe you’re not compatible for one another.

The sad thing is these are the situations people get themselves into when an relationship is too based on sex without anything else going for it.

[Finchie40]

Sadly a lot of people have a hard time accepting the word No , so your boyfriend is selfish if he doesn’t take No for an answer , but as a girlfriend you should try to compromise with him instead of just saying No , depending on what kind of sexual things he wants to try on you? If it’s things you know for a fact you can’t compromise with him with , you are best to end the relationship

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It's going to be an issue and he needs to break up with you. This is going to be a defining moment in his life.

Either he breaks up with you and he becomes confident and find a a woman who he is compatible with sexually or you dump him because you feel objectified when you're around him and it will make him insecure and every woman after you will feel the same way because he'll keep making the same mistake.

[Anonymous]

Obey him unconditionally. Women should obey men.
Ephesians 5:22-33 MEV
Wives, be submissive to your own husbands as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head and Savior of the church, which is His body. But as the church submits to Christ, so also let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

[Juxtapose]

Do you really believe that nonsense?

[Opinion Owner]

@Juxtapose The word of God is not bullshit, man.

[Juxtapose]

And yet nobody can prove this being exists. If I tell you about a zebra, I can conceivably show you a zebra if I pay enough money to fly you over to see one.

Where is this God fellow? If he's so powerful why can't he tell perfectly communicate with me? Why did he stop making physical appearances when cameras became a thing?

And I'm supposed to devote my whole self to this creature without even having it proved to me? Without ever having once having had a conversation with it? I'm supposed to have my relationships dictated by this guy who won't even spend a second with me? Who can't even prove that he's real?

That's ridiculous.

[Juxtapose]

*why can't he tell telepathically communicate with me

[Opinion Owner]

@Juxtapose First of all, man, there are many reasons why God reveals himself to people, let me tell you one of them. If God came and spoke directly to every person like He did Moses, the world would invariably be thrown into chaos. Everyone would start telling everyone else that God told them something specific, and there would be no way to tell who was lying and who wasn't. God loves you, me and everyone. God must keep himself partially hidden from us, because if we saw Him in all His glory, we would all perish (speaking of those not redeemed by Christ.) Thus, it's because of His love that He hides himself He allows us time to repent
And as for whether you believe in God or not
"Matthew 13:50
50 and throw them into the blazing furnace, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth."

[Juxtapose]

Your diety is evil.

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[Juxtapose]

Incase that image doesn't work:

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[Juxtapose]

And by the way a basic wizard if they were real could put a hex on you that forbid you from speaking of what you were telepathically told. Yahweh seems weak by your description and not really worthy of being called a god.

[Juxtapose]

Like a Geas spell.

[ProbablyClueless]

It's a respect and boundaries issue. The way to address these problems is not give in and call out the behavior when you see it.

[morganherrel]

One possibility that you might want to get ahead of is that he questions whether you find him attractive. You can address this by reminding him how good your chemistry is (:

[DrPepper12]

He's being selfish and disrespectful and he needs to hear that directly.

[jahaims]

He can feel upset or hurt without the intention of manipulating you.

[EnjoytheDay777]

It's great that you set boundaries. If he can't respect that it's time to move on and find a guy who will.

[LiamJHayden]

He is trying to manipulate you. Manipulation is not love.

[Juxtapose]

You two obviously won't get along so just break it up already.

[noohair]

Is it weird stuff? You should be comfortable and have boundries. It sounds like he is grooming you.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations on being his cum dumpster his pump n dump

[slatyb]

Have you told him what you just told us?

[OddBeMe]

He's fucking with your mind. Dump him.