Why do men force me to be in a relationship with them knowing I was not attracted to them in order for me to get money. ?

[Anonymous]

Love is hard. It's hard to find the one. Why did men force me to be in a relationship with them or before I can have any money at all? And then fired me and had me beaten or tortured when I was not compatible with them. They also seemed to wanted me to authentically be attracted to them. You can't fake attraction. They also seem to have gotten me fired from each job. And when I was teaching my savings goals ( so no money for hobbies classes certifications).

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1 y

I have met men who have told me if I don't have oral sex than I will not be able to speak with them again about 4 times. One of them was a predator and seemed to orchestrate a violent rape that has rendered me useless. He was in the building he day before and I told him no when I was meeting a landlord.
Another recently told me to go down on him with what appeared to be warts. He then broke up with me when I said to get it checked out. He also repeatedly refused to help me get pay for medicalat

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1 y

Medical help for the rape that has made me disabled for 2 years. Only after being sexually intimate first did they agree to help me non long term with rent and food. As I mentioned I'm not attracted to other men and they told will not unless I have sex with them even though I'm not attracted to them.

[Anonymous]

unless it's some arranged marriage, it can't be forced

you can't force relationships

[boggboss]

How do people force u to be in a relationship with them like u have no choice in the matter?

[boggboss]

Why do I keep picking abusive partners

[boggboss]

You*

[Asker]

Good men were are too insecure to approach me and believed I didn't like them. Because women and men were putting them down for being someone a good match for them would like.

[Asker]

They went to the girls who are healthy, and rich enough to approach them or meet with them after the covid migrations.

[boggboss]

So everyone else is always the problem lol u honestly want me to believe good men are too insecure to approach u and u just happen to always find losers and creeps

[AI Opinion]

It sounds like you're navigating through a tremendously challenging and unhealthy situation. Love and relationships should be about mutual respect, consent, and attraction, not coercion or financial dependency. The circumstances you’ve described—being forced into relationships, experiencing physical harm, and manipulation including impact on your employment—are serious red flags and constitute abuse.

Regarding attraction, you're absolutely right; it can't be fabricated. Authentic connection is the foundation of any relationship. The behavior of using financial control and intimidation to force a relationship is manipulative and unacceptable.

Given the severity of what you've mentioned—job interference and physical harm—it's crucial to prioritize your safety. Seeking support from local authorities, a trusted mental health professional, or organizations dedicated to helping those in abusive situations is a step towards ensuring your well-being and finding a path out of this distressing cycle.

Love should feel safe, uplifting, and genuine, not coerced or financially conditional. Remember, you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel valued, respected, and truly compatible.

[Summeroflove]

They aren’t men wanting a genuine relationship. I would never want someone to feel forced to be with me….. even if it hurts I would rather someone leave then waste my time.

[jahaims]

Unless you are kidnapped your aren't forced

[Anonymous]

Are you from the middle east?