Why do people think long distance relationships work?

Question

You know damn well no one is faithful.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because they like the thought of having someone by their side , thinking that person loves them and is staying loyal and faithful to them , while they are out being selfish and only really caring about themselves and doing what they want to do , without really any consequences of their actions , they enjoy the freedom of not having that person by their side at all times , they just know that person is there , basically as a convenience to them , bottom line most people are selfish people that only really care about themselves , and only think what is best for themselves , most people don’t factor in their partners’ feelings , unless it’s convenient for them to do so. Why most relationships in general don’t work out or last the long haul , when 2 selfish people meet each other , most people just assume the worst case scenarios when they meet someone new , they assume that person isn’t going to stay loyal and faithful to them , so they go out and be selfish themselves. LDR’s are a convenience they usually don’t last because it gives to much space in between for them to be selfish. If I meet a beautiful girl and we hit it off and I find out she lives far away from me , I will just tell her let’s be FWB’s so we both are on the same page as things. Basically if you end up meeting someone else so be it , if I meet someone else , so be it , unless somehow someway we can officially be together. I will never commit to a girl that I couldn’t see on a regular basis , there would be no point of doing so so it’s best just to remain FWB’s giving us both time to really
Get to know each other

LiamJHayden · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't say "no one" is but  almost  always in those LDR's one get heartbroken because the other does mess.

XHopelessRomanticX · Accepted Answer

They can absolutely work, but just like all relationships they require effort and a goal in mind. One of those goals should be to eventually close the distance.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

They can work but it's rare

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Aiming to sprinkle a little optimism around here! Long-distance relationships are like a dance under the stars—challenging but utterly romantic. It's not about the miles apart but the trust and commitment shared. Sure, it's not everyone's cup of tea, but for those who truly click, distance only makes the heart grow fonder. Imagine the excitement, the lovebombing texts, the countdown until you're in each other's arms again! It's a test of love, patience, and creativity. So why do people believe in them? Because they know that real love isn't about being inseparable; it's about being separated and nothing changes. Trust me, faithful souls are out there, dancing their own long-distance tango! 💃🕺❤️

ohsheeT · Answer

Well I don't know about the faithful part for anybody else but I've been in a few long distance relationships and I have to tell you it's one of the. Best relationships best times that I've had just for learning and growing.

And understanding myself that person and who we truly all are I don't know if you've ever read any of my answers or questions but I talk a lot about energy and emotion and in a long distance relationship when you can feel those when the other person can feel you from Miles and Miles away it totally blows you away and when you start to understand that more it brings you a lot closer.

Now I'm not sure about anybody else I know that a lot of long distance relationships have worked.

But I mean it's something that everybody should experience really. I've only had a couple of them but and I felt the same thing that you feel. But there is a bigger picture there is a different type of bond. About the whole thing it actually can kind of be a very beautiful thing very beautiful experience

V_Injector · Answer

I think it's simply because they don't have close distance relationships going on. They'll basically pretend it's working out of desperation.

Texaskid1 · Answer

Because they have seen too many Walt Disney movies.

How can you possibly get to know someone over a long distance deal?

Years ago, a buddy of mine met a girl during a summer internship while at college. After the end of the internship they each went back to their separate campuses but continued to chat almost everyday via Skype for about six months. After six months they get married. Poor guy thought he had found true love ( LOL). Turns out she was a bat-shit crazy wack job who would throw rabid tantrums over the most minor bullshit. I recall , on one occasion , a group of about six of us (this couple included) went out to dinner one evening. The waitress brings my newly married friend his order and he gives her a brief look of acknowledgment and a polite "thank you". His wife gave him the 1,000 dagger stare of death. On the ride back ( me and a another buddy were with them in their car) she starts screaming at him about his brief glance at the waitress girl and accusing him of flirting with her and if he was going to leave her for the waitress. Our married friend is trying to calm her down and saying that he was just being polite. It was a very awkward ride home to say the least.

Their marriage lasted less than three years.

Lliam · Answer

I wouldn't bother with a LDR, not that I ever engaged in on-line dating.
I'm not sure you can truly know someone you meet on-line and never met in person.

If, somehow, I met someone on-line who was unavailable due to distance, I might continue that friendship to see where it went but, in the meantime, I would be continuing to look for someone I could see and touch in person.
I wouldn't "save" myself indefinitely for an on-line girlfriend.

When I first contacted my wife through a pre-internet dating service, she later told me that she almost turned down my request to meet because we lived about an hour away. The term she used was GU (geographically undesirable).

Now, if I was married and one of us had to live a distance a way for an extended period, like for work or a family situation, I would remain faithful. I don't cheat and I would trust her not to, either.
I would want to talk at least once a day/night, and maybe text occasionally to keep up to date, share how things were going and what was happening, and say we loved and missed each other.

imtiaz45 · Answer

People believe long-distance relationships can work because of strong communication, trust, and commitment between partners. Technology makes staying connected easier through video calls, messaging, and social media, allowing couples to maintain emotional closeness despite physical distance. Additionally, the time apart can foster deeper emotional bonds, as partners focus more on meaningful conversations and building trust. Many see long-distance relationships as a test of love and resilience, believing that if the relationship can survive the distance, it may be stronger in the long run. Mutual goals and the anticipation of eventually being together also help maintain motivation and hope.

Anonymous · Answer

“You know damn well no one is faithful.”

Okay, then I dare you to never date & never marry & never find love based on that logic.

A relative of mine spent college days in Michigan while their lover was back doing community college locally in Tennessee. This was back in the day so, all they had was a phone line & mail. They would send letters, candies, trinkets, and more along with calling at designated hours when they could. They got back together and later got married. You don’t know true love until you find true love then it makes your head spin & your heart beat & you both kiss it is like the world goes on pause, you are the only people in the world…. I have faith in humanity’s desire to love & to be loved, no matter the distance IT CAN WORK!

Anonymous · Answer

Word. We're not honest enough about relationships, youth, sex and pair bonding. It's a GOOD idea to form relationships when you're young. But it's also important to understand that SEX is an absolutely VITAL part of any relationship. When you're in your late teens and 20s, if you're in a relationship you should be having VERY FREQUENT sex. Even daily or multiple times a day if you're able. And distance relationships are just a non-starter for this. So yes--relationship building HAS to involve focusing on people who you can see on a VERY regular basis. Certainly more than just once a week and ABSOLUTELY more than once every few months.

ManOnFire · Answer

It really is true. I don't know how some people do it or have the patience for it. You both are miles away, rarely see each other, if at all. Even if you do video chat and phone calls it's still not the same thing, and after awhile you just start losing interest. I've heard of people who say they have no problem waiting to meet the other person, but I really think is very rare.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they can work, if the individuals are committed and willing to put in the work required they are by no means easy. My parents were in one and they got married and my dad relocated to be with my mum but they were between the UK and US for quite a long time before they wed, this is in the days of very expensive long distance calls and letters. No Internet to speak of.

NathanDavis · Answer

I guess, because some of them have worked just the same as short, close... in person relationships have worked but many other have failed as well, due to one of them or both not being faithful

itsannalee · Answer

Because it’s just like regular relationship, some works and some not. I had long distance relationship for months, we lived in the different countries, different continents and it works.

Account · Answer

I low-key agree that most people are not faithful, let alone in long distance relationships. For some people it works.  The details of those relationships are none of my business.

Zenpanda · Answer

"no one is faithful" That says more about you than other people

genericname85 · Answer

they can work. and people who try these are usually desparate for any relationship so that's the length they are going. rather have a relationship that is relatively probable to end soon than no relationship.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

The people who think they work are fauthful to their partners, and so it works.
Its also meant as a short term thing, with the long term being one person moving to where the other is.
It's been done countless times by countless people.

Anonymous · Answer

Love is love. It is beautiful and useful in long distance relationships. 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳 Would you like to vote in today's biggest election poll?

lightbulb27 · Answer

I did, we got married. I know another the same... both older couples than you. The issue isn't LD, the issue is in the head and heart.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I know I am faithful, but I don't want LDR... maybe as a starter... for a few weeks... but definitely nothing longer

LaurenM1997 · Answer

I don’t think it works cause there’s too much heartache on missing them and they are off doing what they wanna do sleeping with other people 😒

Nikki1989 · Answer

They hear about a rare time when it has worked, so they think it can work for them.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

They do work. There are faithful people around. Even if you never ran into one, they do exist. Peoplencan make it work. But I know I can't.

ManInChains · Answer

They need to believe that it does. Because the alternative isn't much of an alternative.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

It's not because they think, it's because they feel

anon1903 · Answer

no one is faithful. Ma'am, a bigger issue would be virtual intimacy

msc545 · Answer

Well yeah but no one is faithful anyway. At least the unfaithfulness is not right in your face.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Because they are stupid. It's not even a real relationship to begin with.

Ladsin2 · Answer

Women think men love like women. Men are desperate for affection.

jahaims · Answer

Two mature people can handle a ldr

Rena00 · Answer

Possibly absence make heart grow fonder I guess.

dragoblack · Answer

Long distance just feels like text based roleplay.

Kathryn1993 · Answer

Cause their once’s with magical organs.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

They can.

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

I don't.

Anonymous · Answer

Everybody cheats

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