How do I stop worring about her cheating (long distance relationship )?

[Anonymous]

We met three months ago on vacation and turns out we were living in their neighboring countries, and therefore we kept contact and became official and ever since we had a huge fight she has been distant. And even looking a bit sad or uninterested. We still talk every day for hours. We still laugh, but I feel like she’s not happy to see me as she was before the argument was about Her not telling the truth that she went out with another guy after I left vacation. but she actually told me that she didn’t tell me because she was forced into having sex, and still has flashbacks and told me she is feeling a bit depressed. Ever since I have been struggling to trust her fully. It doesn’t bother me because we were not officially together when this happened. The only thing that bothers me that she wasn’t honest, but I do understand why and I would probably do the same and her situation but I can’t help that I’m feeling very, very anxious all the time, and don’t know what to do. i’ve been feeling very anxious and weak and insecure and she told me that I would conversations haven’t been very fun because we only talk about sad stuff which I do understand but she kind of put me in that mood too, but I’ve been trying to make sure she can be there and talk to me and I will listen if she needs it. And I try to bring her mood up, but I don’t know what’s up with her. She told me it will be like this for a while, but she is there and reassure me that she’s my only one and she misses me and that she wants to be with me for the rest of our life, she tells me stuff like that and I do feel reassured, but after the anxiety comes back and I start to think that she might be cheating on me, especially now she told me she’s putting in a rod in her arm that is going to make her not able to get pregnant for three years And we are in the longest relationship so I don’t see the point of that if we don’t see each other very often and I don’t know I have trust issues.

[MzAsh]

She told you she was raped. Why is that not the main concern here?

[Asker]

She really doesn’t want to talk about it. I told her she I am here for her If she wants to tell me and I don’t judge. I think she doesn’t know how to feel and is angry at herself for letting this happen. I think she was too afraid to resist. So this is my main concern but she is not ready to talk. And I don’t want to push her. I told her to talk to a professional but I am not pushing either. I ask of she if doing okay but sometimes I feel like she says yes but is not okay. We don’t talk about that anymore. But I do ask everyday how she is feeling. She knows I am here when she is ready

[msss98]

You need to have trust, if you can't then ldr aren't for you

[Asker]

If I get hurt I will never trust anyone again. I have had experiences that gave me trust issues. She is starting to make me trust again, If she cheats i don’t see it ending up good for me. I might not be ready for a relationship but this is my first too.

[jahaims]

Why date someone if you don't trust them. That is moronic

[Asker]

I have trust issues, she is my first girlfriend too. And I am in my mid 20s. I will not wait until I am ready because that will never come. I have to learn to trust I guess.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of trust in a long-distance relationship can feel like steering a boat in a storm, right? First off, it's crucial to acknowledge the sheer courage it takes for someone to share a traumatizing experience. In your girlfriend's revelation, there's a stark vulnerability which, honestly, is a sign of trust in itself. However, your feelings of anxiety and worry are just as valid. Love, let's try turning the tide here by focusing on open communication and empathy.

Talk it out, but this time, let's sprinkle the conversations with more than just the heavy stuff. Balance is key. Share your day, your dreams, or that funny meme you saw. It's about rebuilding the fun that seemed to have slipped away in the waves of heavier dialogues.

Regarding the rod in her arm, it might simply be her taking control of her personal health and future, which can actually be seen as a positive step towards her self-care and not necessarily a red flag waving in your relationship.

Trust is like a muscle, my friend, it needs time and the right exercises to heal and grow stronger. Maybe engaging in activities together online could bring back the sparkle and help mend the trust issues bit by bit. How about a virtual date night or playing an online game together?

Remember, love isn't just about weathering storms but about learning to dance in the rain. Give it time, patience, and loads of understanding. You've got this! 😉

[Nikki1989]

You don't expect anyone to be faithful while being in a LDR, I hope.

[Asker]

I will be faithful, I am serious and not a cheater.