I need some relationship advice. Is my girlfriend cheating on me?

[keegen]

So i feel like my girlfriend might be cheating on me with my friend because her behavior has changed and she seems happier around him, she has now started to call him a kinda weird nickname she has never in the 2.5 years of them knowing each other called him a nickname, and i feel like a third wheel when im with them and im able to walk off for about 20 ish minutes before they realize that i have left

I have more details if you want them

[ohsheeT]

Okay so first things first you have to be straight up with her and just ask her

The second thing is when you get into a relationship and you like that girl so much and then all the sudden if she stops liking you you have to acknowledge it and accept it there's nothing you can do about it you have to let her go

And the thing is you can be hurt because of that pain for as long as you want to be

Especially if you find all the negatives about it

But if you turn it around and say hey I was the best guy that I could be with her

So I'm glad that she did what she did because the sooner the better because now she showed me exactly who she is and there's no way in this world that I want to even date a girl like that they could just change in a heartbeat because she wants something different you have to thank her for doing that because it could be a lot worse I mean just think if you're married and it happened so look at all the positives don't look at the negatives

And now that you have it in your head that she's happy more happy around him

That's what you're always going to see because now you're down and out and mopey and grumpy and want to show her that you're down and out well she's not going to like that she wants somebody like your friend that is a upbeat whether she likes him or not because she doesn't know why you're in the mood you could just be in your own head that's why you can't do what you're doing because first of all you look like a fool second of all you're allowing this girl to affect you on something that might not even be true and third of all don't be a little baby about it stand up and say you know what if that's what she's doing more power to you guys see you guys be A Man about It Don't pout about it.. look at it this is your first girlfriend you're going to have a lot more experiences just like this so you have to start picking your girls a little bit different a little bit better

Advice do not pout find out the truth in a good way do not accuse her or him you just need to know the answer the straight up truth that's all and go from there

If it's your friend you need to ask him too because you don't need friends like that if that's what's going on

I think you just have a little bit of a jealousy thing going or a little bit of a butt hurt because they seem happy and they get along good when they're together

So then your mind's going to think all different kind of weird things don't go there dude get back in the game
And find out the truth first of all and if it is happening say more power to you guys later both of you though do what you got to do because all that means is that they're not even meant for each other they're both going to break up again or sometime but the reason why it's happening is because there's somebody better for you out there you have somebody watching over you this is no no no no you don't belong with this girl she's going to hurt you break up find yourself again and you will meet this girl soon as you like yourself again and quit whining it and moping there's no reason for it take the pain as they say but you will find out if they are seeing each other you will find out is one of the best things in the world that it happened because she's not meant for you there's somebody better way better for you out there quit thinking negatives think positives only don't be angry be happy show that energetic person of who you really are and chalk it up for experience so it doesn't happen again it's part of life and I guarantee it you're going to go through all kinds of stuff with girls you need to prepare your mind right now for it all this is one way right here so snap out of it wake up be happy you're the only person on the inside of yourself that can make you happy or sad so quit beating yourself up and start having fun you're at the right age to do that

[keegen]

this isn't my first relationship this is my 5th and my past 4 ended up with them cheating on me and im not out here looking for "fun" and i have not changed my behavior around them i have stayed the same as i have always been.

[ohsheeT]

Maybe try dating a different type of woman

[Anonymous]

The first question is does she consider herself to be your girlfriend? The easiest way to find out is to go radio silent with her, no calling, no texting, no social media contact. If she thinks of you as her Boyfriend she will notice the lack of contact. if there no contact within a week you have your answer, Its time to move on, I suggest that you DO NOT chase her, as if she does not try to contact you in the first week she has placed you in the 'friend zone'.

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[PeachyPie93]

It's sounds fishy, if you feel you can't trust her do some investigating they always leave evidence on their phones.. then if she is just dump her. Then don't let her know the reason why because she doesn't deserve closure.

[Nikki1989]

If you can't trust your girlfriend, it may be time to reconsider the relationship. I am sure she will meet someone else.

[JesseP1nk]

"I am sure she will meet someone else"
Wtf you doing trowing salt on his wound? I hope someone will shit on your relationship when its on crisis.

[worldsugliestmanNo1]

This response is absolutely vile from her. What the fuck. His girlfriend is treating him like absolute dog dirt and needs to leave her for his own mental wellbeing’s sake and she’s there basically gaslighting him for not liking her shitty behaviour

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to sprinkle some guidance on the subject of the heart. A sudden nickname or feeling like a third wheel can indeed stir those worry vibes. If your girlfriend is dancing under a different light lately, it can be an emotional red flag. However, jumping straight to conclusions could lead to awkward conversations and that's never fun. Try having a heart-to-heart chat with her about your feelings. Open communication is like the cupid for your relationship and might just bring the clarity you need! 🕵️‍♀️💕

[beefcakebradybatson]

She's a broad, and broads often operate differently than we dudes. Monitor her actions and intentions re. the other chap and if you're wary of her interactions with him, discuss them with her and if she's really defensive and/or continues, you may have to find another lady.

[Finchie40]

If you are asking this question , then yes she is cheating on you , if your gut instincts are sensing something is off then you should go talk to your friend and tell him to back off of your girl , if he is your friend he will understand , if he isn’t a friend he won’t be backing off. That’s when you knock him the fuck out!! Lol

[AviatorTom]

I don't know if she's cheating, but it sounds like she has found a new boyfriend. Move on. Find someone else.

[coachTanthony]

she is clearly not into you so recognize that and make a decision. Don't allow your ego to try and keep something that isn't a right fit.

[OlderAndWiser]

Why don't you ask her if she would rather be with him?

[ManInChains]

She won’t admit to having cheated and will claim she doesn’t want to be with the other guy. They all do this. Stay and she’ll keep doing it

[lightbulb27]

that's quite a record of 5 girls cheating on you...

I feel like I've now got 5 pieces to a 1000 piece puzzle. There is always two sides... your side and hers. People at this age can be flippant. But Ill tell you when I was in HS... I saw a few people date until married and stayed married. Most did not.

Is she really your girlfriend? You need to learn about yourself, about girls, and society... and find a solution that gives you both what you want.

There's a lot I could say. You have to defend relationships, but that doesn't mean control, but communicate and protect. You need to trust her, but also trust that she is a human and can fail. That should encourage you to engage more, understand, love... embrace the challenge that she has a very distracting environment... guys all around, she doesn't know herself, her hormones swing all the time... maybe she doesn't know where you stand in her life? It doesn't take much for a human to fail and we are in a very polluted environment.

The other part of this is breaking up, being honest, having high values and morals... which requires training and repetition. That is... if a person is going to cheat, then breakup... take the pain... and move onto next person instead. That is what an honest person does.

You can succeed, but you must be awakened and embrace the challenge... in a positive, loving, considerate way to both. Learn about boundaries. Is it really appropriate for a girlfriend to be hanging otu with other guys and talking like that? Nope! Communication. And if a girlfriend/boyfriend won't adapt, then you have to move on and find someone that will work with you.

A LOT of people are immature. Even adults. Our society lacks good training in relationships. How many semesters of relationship education have you gotten? I bet zero!

I'm married, I see lots of people married. It takes some work... time to learn...

[DrPepper12]

Could be treating could be losing interest. I know this is not what you want to hear right now but I hope you will take it from where it comes - A place of concern and experience. I taught high school for 20 years and if you are 16 and have been together for 2 and 1/2 years this might be a wonderful development. My unsolicited advice is that you're too young to be tied down. WAY TOO YOUNG!! Date widely and often or not at all. High school and college is meant for you to meet your groomsmen, not your bride.

[ManInChains]

If you think she is cheating on you she most likely is. Trust in your intuition. I did and turned out 3 out of the 4 girls I’ve been with in the past cheated on me in different ways. I’ve chosen to remain single ever sense. My last relationship was 10 years ago.

[keegen]

this is my 5th relationships and the past 4 relationships have all cheated on me

[ManInChains]

Then she is most likely cheating on you, man…

[ManInChains]

This is why I told myself to stop seeking relationships after the 4th one. When I dipped my toes back into it I ended up falsely accused with an ex parte PPO tapped to my back. 🤷🏻‍♂️ That was the sign telling me to give up. That they’re all the same.

[Selene1600000]

It could be nothing, but the combination of a new nickname, acting noticeably happier around him, and you feeling left out makes it understandable that you're concerned. Try focusing on specific behaviors rather than assumptions and have an honest conversation with your girlfriend about how you've been feeling. Before jumping to conclusions, see how she responds and whether she's willing to address your concerns openly.

[mattthefatbat]

Yeah most young relationships during 16 or 17 just aren't very committed, im sorry to say this but you usually would find a more committed partner when you're older. Not saying there aren't some exceptions but from my experience people I met tend to cherish and be more smart about the relationships they have a bit more when they are older.

[SuchSightsToShowYou]

This is JUST a guess, and I could very easily be wrong, but I'm going to say that your friend and your girlfriend recently f**ked, or at least made out, or something, and that's why the dynamic between them seems different now.

But I could be wrong. But it does seem like the two of them are connecting emotionally, and there must be a reason...

[JesseP1nk]

Pffff dump her. They are even doing this under your nose... That shit is just disrespectful. She wanna go for this loser who has no job - go ahead. Just focus on yourself and on your career and get into the air force academy. Im promise you will find a WAYYY better relationship. And she will be a bitch who fucked her "little brother" (whatever the story she said "he is like little brother to her")

[Anonymous]

what are the differences between you and your friend?

is he taller? is he better looking? does he come from a better background i. e. his family is richer?

[keegen]

both of our parents work in the military and do the same thing so the both of us are broke. i have a job as i lifeguard for the military and he dose not have a job tbh I'm better than him in almost all of the categories except that he is funnier than me and he has a lot more free time than me due to work and me trying to get into the air force academy.

[Opinion Owner]

I was referring to superficial traits like height, looks etc. I hate to break it to you but superficial traits do make a difference in perception including by those closest to you

[RavVid]

I like to say that if something seems odd it usually is because it is odd. In your case I would think so.

[Unit1]

She's not yours. It was just your turn.

[Staximus]

If she seems happier around him than you, the magic is over. If she's not fooling around with him yet, she will be sooner or later.

[FunkyMonkee]

it's possible. I've seen similar traits in my own relationships.

[DextroShade]

She is definitely cheating, sorry bro. This is why I would never take a girl seriously if she was hanging out with dudes.

[msc545]

She might be cheating on you. Or not. More details will help.

[keegen]

she will try to sit next to him if she can she also has been buying him a bunch of candy and giving him lots of food for no reason at all ( she has done this the entire time i have known them but she only does it to him) oh and she always says that he is like a little brother to her.

[keegen]

everet and her are close friends but something has been on my mind i think that they might have something going on between them so the first thing is like a few months back she grabbed me and everet and told us that she had something important to tell us and what she told us was that she doesn't like se* and the thought of it grosses her out and that's fine that's not the issue the issue is everet seemed like he already knew and why was she so comfortable telling him this? And the new thing is she has never called him any kind of nickname before and now she is calling him "evey" and she will ditch me to hang with him and she normally puts about half a foot to a foot of distance between people when she walks with them but now she is walking within like 3 inches from his shoulder and for some reason now all of the sudden she is terrified of his parents.

[Luopio27]

If he is your real friend, he won't even flirt with her. He would give you the heads up!

[Anonymous]

How could you feel like the third wheel when you're with your girlfriend and your friend? That's bizarre!

[spartan55]

They are doing it right under your nose bruh.

[nik0102]

What happens when you two argue?

[boggboss]

Sounds like it

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah. Sorry if she’s a little looser now

[Ladsin2]

Sounds iffy. I'd recommend leaving it.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

dump her

[keegen]

What makes you say that?

[keegen]

What i mean is why do you think i should dump her do you think something is going on?

[Ariesman81]

Yeah... your gut is trying to tell you something. Listen to it!