Do you really want your partner to be 100% honest about everything?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I think everyone should work on themselves to the point where you can hear the honest truths. Like if you really care about someone else and what they think and how you fit into their world, you’ll be ready for truth and maybe even be willing to adapt, if needed.

I hate feeling like I constantly need to tiptoe around people. My friends were like that during covid and its really strained our friendships for a long while. Now things are much better, but it’s like mannn, can you guys just stop being so sensitive and taking everything so personal? Always wanting to argue and go on the defensive about literally everything, constantly throwing backhanded shade. I honestly don’t know what got into them.

You know a lot of times, when someone is being honest with you, it’s not to make you feel bad or put you down, it’s because they care about you. They see something in you that you’re not seeing in yourself, or are choosing to not address or ignore.

I think if someone came up to me right now and said, hey man you should start hitting the gym, you could be in much better shape, I would just simply say “dude for real, I know” and agree with them lol. Like it’s nothing personal, and it’s facts, so why would I be upset? 😆

[MrOracle]

Yes. I can handle honesty. Unfortunately, my girlfriend cannot - and she admits it. She would rather hear kind white lies about certain things than hear the truth. Thankfully, I'm not terrible at walking that fine line.

Most men (and there are DEFINITELY a few exceptions!) are pretty grounded in reality and can handle criticism and truth, at least if it's not said in a mean way, because our daily reality is such that we are faced with difficult truths all the time. Most women today are not, though. Women constantly lie to other women, because it's far more important to them not to hurt someone's feelings than it is to talk about a difficult truth, PLUS there is the political aspects of it - the moral relativism and the victim Olympics have taught women that they're never responsible for anything and it's always someone else's fault (again, there are a few exceptions). As such, a lot of women today simply cannot handle the truth. There's a reason that 60% of women are in some kind of therapy and 25% of them are on anti-depressants.

[Agape93]

Only about what matters. I don't give a fuck if they wanna lie about eat McDonald's before dinner or what store they're in or if they drank from the carton.

[Simslover92]

I think being honest about everything makes the relationship stronger imho.

[AI Opinion]

On Girls Ask Guys, I've seen honesty create magic or mayhem!✨ Do you *really* want to know about that questionable haircut they loved or every ex who've come and gone?😜 While 100% honesty sounds amazing, some things are best left as mysteries. Balance and trust are key players in the love game. Ride the truth wave wisely, lovelies!💫

[AviatorTom]

No, I want her to be honest about whatever she tells me. That isn't everything. She has secrets, as I do, and I'm not going to invade her privacy.

[Asker]

I think there is this fine line of when it really matters like, "are we okay" vs. "do you like the soup." I don't want or need to know every little thing with such honesty that there is nothing behind the eyes left.

[Matt_M]

There are other more consequential questions that I still wouldn't want to know the answers to. "Which of your exes were better in bed than I am" would rank pretty high on that list.

[HawkPerception]

Yes I do. I've asked my partners to tell me if they've been with dudes bigger than me, if there's anything bothering them about me, etc. I want them to share it all.

[Matt_M]

Damn, man, you must be a masochist. Have a little compassion for yourself and let her have her secrets.

[HawkPerception]

Or maybe I just have the emotional maturity to handle the truth and the more honest a girl is with me, the closer I feel

[JustMeQ2]

@HawkPerception is it a curse or a blessing to you, this way of thinking?

[HawkPerception]

@JusyMeQ2 I personally think of it as a blessing. Others might think the opposite, but I'm genuinely feel proud to have this perspective.

[JustMeQ2]

@HawkPerception then cheers. That makes two of us

[imtiaz45]

Complete honesty in a relationship can be valuable, but 100% honesty about everything might not always be ideal. While honesty builds trust and fosters deeper connections, there’s a balance to consider. Brutal or unnecessary honesty, especially about trivial matters or things that could hurt feelings without benefiting the relationship, can lead to tension. Compassion, tact, and timing matter in how honesty is delivered. Many people prefer honesty about important topics like values, feelings, or major decisions but may appreciate discretion or kindness when it comes to small details that don't impact the relationship. Balance is key.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/0M7PGvDHMio

[blueonblack22]

Just don’t ask questions you don’t want to hear the answers to.

There are just some things we sense and “know” about people already. Unless it’s something that directly impacts your relationship then what’s the point of bringing it up? Don’t.

[Jmmmfi4]

I HAVE TO AGREE

[blueonblack22]

@Jmmmfi4 everybody has skeletons in their closet. The problem is the other person might not view the past incident (s) the same way as you see it.

As long as it isn’t a current problem there is no point with bringing it up.

[michalpl00]

Yes!! My girlfriend told me she slept with another guy before we were officially and she told me I was the only one from the start. When she told me she slept with someone it hurt me bad. It was 2 months into the relationships. I stayed with her because she was honest and transparent. And we were not official yet. I was still hurt but I would have been more hurt if I found I some day in the future. Always 100% honest

[shu2905]

There should be fine line what other person wants sometimes very small thing becomes big issues wheress it would be easy to communicate. I think honesty is more about how is your communication within the relationship.

[dkvern]

No. I don't care about the past so it is what it is... But when it comes to the present time and forward, then yes. If you are in a relationship with someone you should ne 💯 with them. That way if something comes of anything that can be questioned by anyone else, you know that your partner has your back because they know the truth and they aren't being blind sided by anything that someone who is hating has said.

[Anonymous]

I want to say yes but in actuality it is probably like 99% of things. Maybe 99.9%. Most things I can handle, even some of the uncomfortable or disappointing things. But I know there are some things I'd prefer to not know. Though if she insisted I wouldn't stop her since I think honesty and openness in this regard leads to resolution more quickly.

[NathanDavis]

yeah... we were 100% honest and open, and it was never a big deal, nor an issue, lol

[PeachyPie93]

Yes I love honesty.. but maybe not so much about how you feel about me unless you are gonna leave me because of it LOL

[Squatting_Slav]

While I love honesty, too much takes away from the mystery and fun of things and it can become robotic

[Nikki1989]

Within reason. What happened in someone's past is none of my business, so I would never ask.

[DrPepper12]

No. Everyone is entitled to things that they only "discuss" with their conscience & memories. There's ALWAYS stuff that is just for you.

[Asker]

Yes, I don't think being in a relationship means you have to be totally transparent about everything all the time.

[SugarSugarplum]

"Total honesty" is just another way to say "thoughtless and rude".

[Account]

Not realistic. People are unable to be honest or accept honesty. I found that the hard way.

[chilldude33]

Yes, it's possible to be both honest and compassionate (if they are talking about you) or honest without oversharing (if they are talking about themselves)

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Yes. Secrets are secrets and don't ask don't tell, but if asked, then be honest.

[Hulk30]

That's a hard no ill tell ya why in reality that's Pandora's box something's ya don't need to know something's ya really don't wanna know and something's you'd just self-harm if ya actually did know

[MoonFace2]

Absolutely. Without trust, there can be no relationship.

[soe11]

• Absolutely yes, peace and prosperity depending upon honesty and trust.

[AGAM1]

I used to think so, now I'm not so sure about everything

[Anonymous]

That partner's still supposed to be a woman right?😆

I don't think that possible for someone to NEVER lie. But she does need to be an honorable person.

[Knightwatch27]

Honest yes, but that's not the same as her telling me everything that is always on her mind at all times. Which I think gets confused.

[Anonymous]

yes and the world would be so much better if everyone is honest

[kaucky1]

Mostly they not truthful tend up telling on selves anyways

[Stella1990_]

Yes cause you know they trusting without we don’t need to be together.

[Goodloven]

It is difficult for me to know how to act when somebody is hiding their thoughts.

[BadApple69]

Sometimes it’s better to withhold some things.

[JimmyBgoode12]

yes otherwise how can you trust them.

[Purpleronnie]

Nope , just about the things that matter

[DannyUk2017]

Not always! Sometimes i Take White lies!

[MemeSupreme]

no some things are better left not said

[paledreams]

Totally 😁 my woman ♀️

[Asker]

Does anyone really know that though?

[paledreams]

I have not met her yet it seems lol to know lol 😆

[PLLisa_]

Yes honesty is best

[jojouzumaki]

No. There are things that’s better left unsaid.

[Alex-Snow]

I think so it sounds heathy in a relationship

[Thot_Stomper]

Trust me... he doesn't

[Ladsin2]

If I ask a straightforward question? Yes.

[Kayleigh2005]

No way, Lol

[Kayleigh2005]

Let him say something bad about my hair 🤬

[fantasticass]

YES!!!

[jahaims]

Duh.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yep.

[Slim57]

Yeah

[Jmmmfi4]

PROBABLY NOT