Should you tell your partner everything even if it will mess the relationship up?

[apa4488]

To make this sound a little bit better should you tell your partner everything or wait and tell them when the time is right?

[TheorionMage]

"When" is the 'right' time? If you're in a serious relationship, you NEVER want an outsider to be able to threaten to approach YOUR Significant Other exposing some past/current indiscretion privileged knowledge that could derail your present/future together.
When my present wife & I began serious courtship we sincerely granted one another a 'blanket amnesty' from ALL our PAST live's foibles and starting 'fresh'. No one can come to either of us touting damning secrets to create a schism of trust.

Ideally, neither of you still IS... that person YOU once were.
Hopefully, older=wiser and smarter, ... less gullible. If not, your relationship is a fraudulent cosplay! Are you living a 'role' and just acting? OR are you GENUINELY working toward a FULLY shared future?

[Summeroflove]

Later on in the relationship if there is deep trust. I’m not sharing my deep secrets with someone I might be worn forever.

All it takes is a nasty break up and… if you get smeared it’s not pretty

[melanieeeB]

You don't have to tell everything! Not to your family, not to your friends, not to your bestie and not to your partner

[Drumlin2001]

Not sure it's entirely necassary. Never lie. But is they don't ask then you don't have to give information up freely. Having said that if there is something you feel maybe a deal reader it may be best just to get it out there, better to not waste your time and theirs

[Andres77]

not everything needs to be said. if its stuff that happened before u were together then its none of his business, and vice versa. if its legal stuff he'd find out about eventually anyway then i'd tell him before he found out from others. your past is YOUR past. no one is entitled to know everything. u can tell him if u want but it might open up a can of worms. and in the end he might not reciprocate.

[FilmGuy93]

Timing and phrasing is important in relationships.

[cootjuhh]

normally yes. but some things you better keep for yourself

[Mafia24]

No ma'am I'm lier I don't tell anything...

[Brando10222]

Just be honest

[Snedger____]

Tell everything