Am I wrong for this, for cheating when I told her countless times I needed sex and she doesn't care? (Page 2)

[bddddd]

As they say in Australian cricket: Tell your story walking. In this case walking out that door. Your relationship, based on your own words, is dead, buried and cremated.

[chocolatetwopointo]

men really use any excuse, talk with her or divorce, its not that hard

[Becky316]

Dude your both wrong. Just divorce and move on. But talk first, and listen. If you both can't work this out then divorce.

[Asker]

Yes I agree and we're not married. Just been together 5 years. But side note in the beginning we were open which I hated and I told her them or me and I was going to walk away and she stopped and she's been less horny since so I don't know. (Also they were paying her and giving her drugs) so I kind of feel like sex is transactional for her

[Becky316]

That sucks. She gonna need help

[Asker]

Yea I believe so and she has bpd and was raped when she was a kid... like 4 years old

[Becky316]

Oh fuck, she definitely needs help

[Wuai201]

Why don't you divorce her 1st
Instead of cheating

[Raphaëlle]

Cheating is never okay. Sit down and discuss. Is she stressed about something or is her mental health suffering? Then help her.

[Fireguy17]

you can try to rationalize it all you want, but cheating for whatever reason is still cheating.

[Asker]

Agreed I was just saying

[Staximus]

You should have just broke up with her, you were obviously not compatible. She does not desire you sexually, you might as well have just been friends

[SotiCoto]

Obviously. You didn't need sex. You were just horny and couldn't control yourself. Idiot.

[Asker]

Ooo so just like women dont need emotional support, to be protected , taken care of right? She's asks me for a million things I help her and I ask for one and get rejected?

[genericname85]

you absolutely 100% are wrong for cheating. the proper way to do it would be to break up first and then fuck another girl.

[jahaims]

Cheaters are trash no matter the excuse. You think like a child. "I don't get my way so I'm going to throw a fit to make mom mad"

[Anonymous]

I never give a guy anything if he’s just gonna be all on my case and selfish. The more he tries, the less I care.
This is her problem though and she should leave you.

[Asker]

I literally ask her once every few days and how is me asking her for sex being selfish?

[Opinion Owner]

Ur clueless. I’m not justifying my reasoning.

[SweetDripp]

I think you both have a right to be angry.

[Asker]

Agreed

[yelir]

If this is a deal breaker for you, why can't you just break it off and get into a new relationship?

[anon1903]

Why didn't you break up with her? Then sleep around as much as you like

[LiamJHayden]

Yes. You break up before messing with another.

[KostasKouvalis]

Yeah, it's still wrong. The right thing to do would be to break up with her

[seeyounexttuesday]

Eh, I hear ya. She's not holding up her end of the relationship

[Asker]

Like we both work and I clean everything in the house and cook. And she says she tired so I wait for her days off and she just makes excuses

[Arizona8]

If you can't tolerate it, you should break up and find another woman. Cheating is not ethical for any reason.

[JamesRandiDebates]

Not wrong at all. You did more than you should have by even talking to her about it. She should KNOW she has to put out to keep her man.

[Shamalien]

“Am I wrong for cheating…”

answer is always yes. Break up dumbass

[JesseP1nk]

Yes you are wrong. Why are you in this relationship when your needs aren't met?

[Amob79]

Cheating is wrong. Think about the damage that can be caused by that. Break up with her than. Be a man and treat her right

[Shygirl977]

If you have to ask, you already know.

[yuviii20012]

If you don't get what you need, everything is fair in love and war

[Anonymous]

Yes.

If you need another girl, why are you staying with her?

[Twalli]

You should have just left her instead of cheating.

[driven159]

go get counseling there are bigger issues there

[andreasderjuengere]

You don't ''need'' sex - you want it.

[WowGIrl4ever]

Asshole...

[Asker]

How did you even read what I wrote

[WowGIrl4ever]

Not you the robot... My apologies

[Asker]

Np lol

[WowGIrl4ever]

Can't stand those robots

[Asker]

Trust me same

[missindiana93]

Might as well dump her.

[Asker]

Yea I agree

[Anonymous]

Typical man. Any excuse will do.

[Asker]

What do you mean any excuse will do

[ihateTaylorSwift]

Everybody cheats nobody's innocent

[AmeerX]

If you are born in a Town of robbers you soon learn everyone is a robber

[AmeerX]

She doesn't have a right to be mad about it.

[Asker]

Thank you and why do you say that?

[AmeerX]

Why do we have relationships specifically marriage? It's for having sex and children. If someone keeps saying no means she is going to dump you

[Asker]

Yea that's very true and she needs to know that. She trys ro say she's done with sex in her life now or something. If that's the case why can't I get it from somewhere else then

[AmeerX]

I am not going to create a rift but I think her game is over. She was thinking of controlling you with sex but that has backfired.

Are you even married to her? If not then tell her that she can leave. Otherwise she should accept that you will need a second wife if she is deliberately denying you it to annoy you.

I hope she is not cheating on you and that's why she is tired all the time. Also, get her tested for STDs and yourself too

[Asker]

No we're not married and possibly.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Yes she does have the right to be mad.
You cheated on her. I don't believe in sex outside of marriage but why is sex so important to you that you're willing to be unfaithful? That is not normal. Did you talk to her and ask her what's bothering her?

[AmeerX]

7 months without it and they are living like husband and wife

[Asker]

@preetycrumblBb we spoke about it and she said because she wants a bigger house and to be married and we were in the process , so why still reject me if we're in the process od getting that stuff done.

[Asker]

Also should i go 7 months without me , working, paying the bills equally with her , not cleaning and cooking , looking after her , making sure she's okay and buying all the food?

[AmeerX]

She wants a house before marriage. Come on she is going to skip you when you marry and have a house. Better do a agreement where she won't get a house if you die from unnatural causes, accidents, and make it for your unborn children's name.

She doesn't even love you. She loves the things you possess. In your future you are likely getting a heartbreak.

Just do a stupid, "Babe would you still love me if I didn't have a house and lost my job".
And she is probably delaying marriage because of worst things imaginable

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Wow Ameer. He literally said she wants to be married. She loves him. Maybe she's tired of pretending to be his wife and wants to actually be his wife.

[AmeerX]

I think they are both in the wrong.

I think your point is indeed true. He is not giving her the things of a wife and he is also wasting her time by doing that.

[AmeerX]

She doesn't need to see a house bought before marriage. This is a messed up situation since they have fornicated

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Usually people here buy a house when they are engaged.

[AmeerX]

With the way inflation and prices in US are they can probably buy a Doll house at this rate. How about these two buy a 1 acre house in Argentina and live there in Alta Garcia or something?

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Or you let them do whatever they want?

[AmeerX]

Or you give them good advice and let them go their way.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

You sound judgmental

[AmeerX]

How is it judgmental if you give them good advice in best interest

[Malemajor]

you are not wrong

[UrsulaY]

Yes. You end a relationship you do not abuse it.

[shades777]

Hey it's either that or leave her.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Cheating is wrong. And it's sinful.

[AmeerX]

They are not even married. Why do you not say they are both wrong for fornication?

[PrettyCrumblBb]

@AmeerX I thought they were married

[AmeerX]

Okay

[Anonymous]

Why not just dump her?

[Anonymous]

Just don't let her find out

[TheKillerJason]

Why didn’t you rape her

[DrPepper12]

Yes.

[plundo]

Yes you are!

[jled44]

This is a tough one