Yes, you are wrong, period. When you say you're in a relationship with someone, that means, you're in a relationship with that person unless you have an agreement that you can sleep with other people which it doesn't sound like you did. Now, you are trying to justify your actions and make this into her fault without taking any responsibility. Just because you need something, doesn't mean that gives you the right to cheat on someone. You have always had the option to tell her, the relationship isn't working out and you want to break up if "the need" for sex was destroying you such that stepping out on her is justifiable "in your mind." You said she doesn't care, that you've discussed this over months, so why are you staying with her if she's ignoring this and you are so unhappy that you were okay with cheating? At what point did you think CHEATING was the solution here that would make everything better???? Let me repeat: at what point did you think CHEATING would make this relationship better??? Make it make sense!
Break up. She deserves better. Also don't be surprised when someone cheats on you in the future. Can you imagine them sitting there and telling you, well, it's your fault that they cheated??? That's a pretty audacious thing to say. Own up to what you did. It will help you grow in life.
First off we were open in the beginning and when I closed it. That's when she started giving it to me less. Also she has in the past. Never said it was right , but if she needed something and I ignored it for months and didn't even try to do what she asked then yes I'd deserve what she did. Anything she asks me I do it , she has to worry about nothing I take care off it. I ask nothing of her but to have sex once a week or even every 2 weeks. So again never said I was correct with what I did. But also her blantly ignoring me and not even trying is wrong as well. If she at least tried I would never do that. She also said she wants to be raped in order to have sex but when I do do that she still whines so
@Animalvan he should just breakup if he's so unhappy. She definitely has some issues
Do not cheat, and don't dump her. Explain that you hate mowing the lawn and painting, so you're gonna farm it out to a third party. Tell her that you've been thinking that it's not fair of you to keep pestering her for sex, because you know she hates it. Tell her that you've decided to farm out that horrible task to a third party.
Don't listen to the crap about counseling or spicing things up. Some things can't be fixed, and it's no one's fault.
I'm not against prostitution, but don't drain your bank account on that. And I think Tinder is way too much work for the reward. Stay away from the cheating sites, because the last thing you need is your head blown off by an angry husband.
What you need is a nice, single mom. Maybe help out with the groceries. Put her on your Netflix account. Be totally honest about your situation. She might just be looking for the same thing as you.
I'll end this with a light-hearted riddle.
If raw oysters are an aphrodisiac, what food has the opposite effect on women?
(I heard this at a comedy club) :)
Thanks for the advice
Whoa, that's a lot of wholesome advice!
Lets be clear , sex is not a need , that’s just fact. Threatening you will fuck someone else would to me sound like an ultimatum and in her shoes I would not respond well to that. How privileged she must feel to be with a ‘man’ who just needs sex so bad it doesn’t even have to be with her , how romantic and truly special I honestly don’t know how she could resist your charms for all those months.
Yes , in case my subtlety and sarcasm goes over your head , you are wrong in cheating , you called it cheating so on some level you must agree. If you want a clause in your relationship contract with a woman that because you NEED sex your allowed to find it elsewhere when she can’t or won’t provide it then be up front about that with the woman from the start , I’d love to know how that discussion goes.
Your actions have basically just said to her “ all you are to me is a vagina , my love for you and devotion to you only extends that far “
So you really expect to have a future with this or any girl by these actions? Can you honestly say that you would be ok with it if the situation was reversed?
But I've been telling her for months and had many conversations about it ans she doesn't care. I never threatened her I said I feel like stepping out because for me it is a need. Just like she needs to smoke weed. I do everything for her , pay half the bills , clean the house and cook. And the one and only thing I ask of her is to have sex once in a while? So no she's not just a vagina.
This is not something I need to debate with you. This is my opinion , for me there is no justification in “stepping out” if you feel that your needs are not being met generally in a relationship then you communicate , work on overcoming together and if there is no way forward you exit the relationship. There is NEVER a justification to cheat by definition. If you can’t keep it in your pants then don’t be in a relationship it’s just basic respect for yourself and the other person. All you have succeeded in doing ( apart from the obvious ) is proving to her that for you sex is transactional for you. The only thing left for you to do is apologize and end the relationship. No more discussion or debate required.
The truth is you are both wrong , she is wrong for constantly rejecting intimacy and affection from you , and you were wrong for cheating on her , so the right thing for you to do , is end it with her and tell her the truth that you cheated on her , don’t go back to her acting like everything nos ok , the damage is already done , the right thing for you to do is tell her the truth you met someone else and you want to end the relationship.
I did tell her the truth and she got upset and we did break up. I was just wondering if I was wrong for it but yea your right
Unfortunately cheating is always considered wrong, because it’s a selfish act period , mainly because you have a choice , so your choice was to pursue another girl to get what you were after instead of trying to fix what was broken in your relationship with your partner , so the right thing to do if you were unhappy in your relationship , is end it with her first , before pursuing someone else , just by you pursuing that other girl , already made you a cheater, because in a sense , you were weighing your options and keeping your partner on the back burner while you were doing so. Basically stringing her along , thinking if things don’t go the way you wanted them to with this other girl , you could go back to your partner like nothing ever happened. On the other hand , your partner was cheating as well , by withholding intimacy and affection from you without giving you valid reasons to do so , by making lame excuses as to why she is no longer in the mood. especially if it was never an issue before. So she was selfish as well by doing so, because she chose to neglect your wants and needs in the relationship and chose to ignore your feelings as well. So that’s why I said you were both wrong. I been in your shoes before man , and I made the same decision you did, when my ex was withholding intimacy and affection from me and ignoring my feelings as well, I ended up meeting another girl that treated me better than my partner was so I ended up in bed with her and right after I had sex with her , I immediately ended my relationship with my partner and told her the truth that I met someone else and I want to be with her and I slept with her , my girlfriend was sad and upset that I cheated , but I was honest with her that I did and told her why I did , my girlfriend wanted to have another chance with me and I was shocked that she did , but I told her No , that she deserves someone that won’t cheat on her. I did feel bad for my selfish actions and since that time ,
Word of advice man , never tell your partner you are going to go fuck someone else especially since you aren’t getting your way , those words are like a knife stabbed through your heart , and their instant reaction is going to distance themselves even further away from you , in a sense it tells them you are only with them for sex and nothing more. How would you feel if your partner told you those words if you were neglecting her wants and needs? So the best thing to say when a partner is not compromising with you , is tell them you are sorry that they no longer want to be close to you for whatever reason , tell them you no longer want to be in a relationship with someone that treats you like a convenience, my wants and. needs in this relationship aren’t being met, it feels one sided to me , , so I think the best thing for us to do , is to go our separate ways , I’m sorry it come down to this , but I can no longer be with someone that doesn’t consider my feelings as well , that makes everything about themselves. So I am leaving you and doing what is best for myself. Then walk away , give your partner sometime to think about the words you just said to her , if she doesn’t come to you and apologize for the way she has been treating you? That’s your answer to end it with her and leave , if she does come to you and apologizes for her selfish behavior and wants to fix things with you , then it’s still up to you on whether you want to or not. Sexless relationships suck man , trust me I know the feelings of frustration, but it’s always best to try to fix what is broken before running to someone else to save you. If you want your partner to respect you , you have to be respectful not them back , if my partner told me she was going to Go fuck someone else , I would immediately show her the door and tell her to not let it hit her in the ads on the way out.
I probably worded it wrong but I was telling her I'm feeling like seeing someone else because my needs weren't being met. Also saying I don't want to see someone else but it's a need of mine and she didn't care. Like if she at least tried to give me some intimacy then I would of never ever done that. But the fact that she didn't care or even tried , why should I? When I do so much for her. What If I decided not to help pay the bills for 7 months , she has bought groceries in years or cleaned the house in years or cooked in years. What If I stopped doing that?
Hey, love doctor now in session! 😏 So, here's the deal—relationships thrive on communication, compromise, and loyalty. Even if you're feeling neglected, turning to someone else isn't the way to handle it. Yep, she has a right to be mad, because it’s a breach of trust for sure! 🚩 Maybe try discussing your needs and her feelings in a more understanding and patient way before making such bold moves. It's all about finding common ground without stepping on a landmine! 💥
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Did you ever think about asking her why she didn't want to have sex because there has to be a reason
Or ask her what is going on with her instead of making it all about yourself
And then why didn't you just break up with her instead of say something like that to her and make her feel worse
I doubt you've ever been to trust you again because she's always going to think that that's what you're out doing which she has that right now to do so..
There's a reason for everything in this world if you ask the question or be patient you'll find the answer not manipulate her or try to manipulate her or threaten her yes she has every right to be pissed off at you
So when we first started dating we were open she was seeing other men for money and drugs and I was seeing other women. Then when I closed the relationship she got less horny and started rejecting me. She's saying until she gets a bigger house and marriage she's not putting out anymore. As well see cries when it's time and sits there like a log so I just gave up on that and just jack off
Also it's been 6 months of me trying so
She's not literally crying she's whining
u You left out a few details like
1. Are you married, engaged, living together, in an exclusive relationship?
2. Did you actually find someone and have sex with the other girl or did you just threaten to do that?
3. If you are not getting what you want and it is that important, why haven't you broken up with her/gotten a divorce?
4. Do you have any children with this woman?
5. How long has the no sex been a problem?
1) no were not married but we are living together yes
2) first I threatened it for months she didn't care and then she got mad when I did
3) yes your right might as well, she said she wants a bigger house and to be married is why
5) no we don't
Every cheater has a reason or justification for cheating. You having a reason doesn't make you different. If you promised her an exclusive relationship and you want to have sex with someone else, just break up first. Doing that the right way is better for your soul. YOUR soul. It's not a matter of what she deserves; it's a matter of maintaining self-respect.
I understand your frustration but the right way to go about it is to dumb her. Now if you cheated then this woman will always hold a grudge and will never forgive. Honestly, you guys don’t sound very compatible.
Yea your both right I agree but I do love her and wanted to work it out.
You knew that cheating would not help you save the relationship.
It's so sad how shallow people are these days. They move intogether and access reproductive functions, but there is no commitment. When a problem occurs, they run... to someone else. I talked to some 80 yr olds... whom are now 90. I asked about their relationship and they said "what relationship? It's a marriage!!!". The concept shifted over time... they were fully committed and knew they had to work through problems.
If theyd' worked the problem, maybe they had survived. Instead, they were selfish, focusing on their own needs, not understanding their emotional drivers... and just blew up. Hopefully they both learn, but history shows... may take multiple repetitions. Sadly, there is no training for young people and they learn int he school of failure. Their offsprings... to suffer if they don't learn fast enough.
such is so much of humanity now...
Yes. Cheating is never the correct thing to do.
I usually find myself on the side of the girlfriend in situations like this, but let's be real: if you've brought up your need for more intimacy and you're still not getting it, it's likely she’s finding it elsewhere.
For me, if I let my partner know that I'm not satisfied with the level of intimacy and he doesn't step up, there better be a good reason. I'm pretty understanding, always looking for ways to resolve issues together. But if nothing changes, I'd be straightforward about it. If he’s not interested in sex, that’s his choice, but I’m going to take care of my own needs.
If I’ve expressed that my desire for intimacy is making me look elsewhere and he stays inactive, that’s on him. I get that it might sound harsh, but if it’s been communicated that I might seek fulfillment elsewhere and nothing’s done to address it, it can't really be called cheating.
This perspective comes from someone who’s experienced being married to someone who cheated regularly. In that case, it all happened behind my back, and he never talked to me about what he was missing in our relationship.
Thank you I've literally communicated for months how I feel and jacked off for months. I asked can she just suck it for 2 mins and can't even do that. Then she gets mad when It happens and we're broken up now. She keeps saying when she gets a house when we literally have one she just wants a bigger one.
Yea your right thanks a lot for you kind words and help. You seem kind and understanding so I hope so for you as well
My friend you are absolutely right, in a relationship sexuality is important, satisfying each other is essential.
If despite dialogue you don't understand this, and there are no serious health reasons, it seems normal to me that you have the temptation to cheat on her, however wrong it may be, it is understandable.
In a relationship you have to be complicit, the woman has to please the man, and the man has to do the same, if you have kinks, fetishes or other desires, they have to be satisfied no matter what.
I am not saying it is right to force it, but in a relationship it is right to compromise, this is to avoid betrayal and unpleasant situations.
Yes exactly and that's what I mean she never compromises
Sure, she can be mad. She can leave if she wants. Who cares. If she withholds intimacy or tries to use sex as a weapon she can cry herself to sleep every night. I don't give a damn. I'm gonna go take care of my needs. And I'm not gonna lose any sleep over it. I went through this with an asexual wife. And I handled it like I said. Life is short buddy. Don't settle for half a relationship on her terms. If she doesn't care about you then you shouldn't give a fuck about her. At that point why are you together? Buy her a cat and call her an uber.
From experience…. I too wasn’t getting sex and I didn’t cheat. I was a good little boy, frustrated as hell. Had several girls offer me sex and didn’t take it. In retrospect, she didn’t suffer, I did… and for what?
Honestly if I had it to do all over again I would bang every girl that offered me sex back then. If the wife/girlfriend doesn’t want to give it to you then someone else will. Take it. Ring without doesn’t help anyone.
See exactly, that's what I'm saying women are throwing themselves at me and she rejects me constantly
Well, in all honesty I wished I could have gone back and did all the girls who were throwing themselves at me. Why not? If one girl doesn’t want you other do
Exactly then gets mad at me even though she literally doesn't want to like wtf
NO. Absolutely not.
When your wife won't sleep with you thats abusive. And you flat out told her and gave her time to correct the behavior. So no. But, just go get your set then come home. Its not a date.
Side note. : your wife more than likely is fucking someone else. Just my opinion
Thanks exactly
Also your maybe right smh
You both are wrong. You need to talk about it. Maybe as a woman she's going through something in life. Woman do go through things like menopause and that kills there sexual feelings. They don't want to be touched or they are not sexual at all. If you love her you would wait and be a good man. But you cheated and that's seriously screwed up. Trust problems now.
Yea your right and we talked about that and she's way to young for menopause
Sex is necessary in a sexual relationship of course. I don't think it was the best way of dealing with it to cheat. I think it would be more forthright to say if there is to be no sex then I am out and it is over between us.
She has been clearly aware of this problem and been unwilling to address it so I think she has little justification to be mad.
Thank you I tried and I did warn and tell her, and she didn't care.
Going to concerts but not wanting to sleep with you? How often are these concerts? these could be indicators she may have already been having an affair herself. It's speculations but simply put your relationship has problems. Any way you slice it no sex in six months shows an unhealthy relationship so if she's doing this something is going on I just don't know what. It's 100% wrong to cheat but if this pattern continues or your relationship isn't already over then you need to talk about this and if you can't come to some kind of consensus, I think it's time to break up.
It's like once a week for the concerts , even if she's tired she will get energy out of no where to go. Possibly yea and I told her this is something I need. She complains when it's time so why should I constantly beg her for something other women will happily give me
She's trying now and maybe once every 2 weeks now if that
Yea weekly
It sounds like you both going through a tough time. I’m sorry to hear.
I see it this way, anything can be solve by communication an open and honest one. The intent is not only putting our woes, needs, wants on the table but at the same time we compassionately try to understand the other person as well. I hope soon you both find ways to compromise since it’s not you vs her or her vs you…. it’s you both vs the problem.
Agreed thank you
U are 100% wrong here. No sensible person will say u are right.
If u like sex and she don't then pls divorce her. She don't need an a$$hole.
Divorce is a better option than cheating.
It's been months what if i just stop paying stuff or cleaning the house and cooking for months? We both work and I'm the only one that cleans and cooks
Nope divorce her asap. She'll be happy with her next husband. She don't deserve you. She don't need you
Thanks I appreciate it. Also I've been trying asking her massaging her everything and nothing
What a bunch of cucks in this thread. Lol. You both signed an agreement, yes? Your marriage contract. Sex is necessary for a healthy relationship. So in a sense it's a contractional obligation. If your partner cannot communicate why they aren't interested and work on the relationship to get to a point where they are interested then they are in violation. Pure and simple. Should you cheat? No. Should she see it coming from a mile away after refusing to meet her obligations? Yep. And before any of these crazies come after me... he must meet your emotional needs otherwise he is also not following the agreement.
Yes she has a right to be mad.
i 100% understand your frustration. It’s important to be sexually satisfied in your relationship. But there are other steps to take instead of just jumping to cheating..
You could sit down and simply ask her if there’s a reason other than her being tired. It could be health related, whether physical or mental health. Health can affect your sex drive.
Or she could even simply of lost her sexual attraction to you or you’re not satisfying her in bed so doesn’t want to bother.
These are discussions that y’all could have but instead you threatened her with cheating. Which is super disrespectful
Cheating is never right. You should break up with her if you want to fuck someone else. Maybe she just has a lower sex drive than you do.
Yea possibly but 6 months of no sex is crazy and she uses excuses like get me a house and she doesn't want to work anymore then she'll give it to me she says
You should just break up with her. It sounds like she’s using you.
I’d say yes partially. Rather than threatening her you could have just ended the relationship then did what you wanted to. To me that’s childish. It’s like ok wait if she did have sex w you was she doing it cause she really wanted to or cause you threatened her w whatever? Meaning was it from the heart or not? But at the same time for whatever reason she’s not into you like she used to be. Women tend to need to feel connected w a man to have sex. Men usually don’t we can go out, have one night stands, not worry about why she didn’t call us back after that. Yes some women can too but a majority of the time women need to be emotionally involved to have sex w a man. I’m wondering if she’s just using you for finances. Do you split rent? Bills? Etc? If you kicked her out, assuming you could, would she have somewhere else to go?
Yea we spilt the rent and I pay for all the food and I clean the house and we both work. Her reason was because she wants a bigger house
lol so her way of getting what she wants is manipulation? Nice girl you got there man. Move on. What happens when she wants more things? She’s going to do the same? See what she says if you say if you want a bigger house I want more sex. She won’t like it more than likely.
Yea basically smh
Move on man. Not worth the headache. Imagine if she locks you down w marriage?
I know night mare
How long have you two been together?
5 year but this only started happening last a year and a half ago
Maybe she wants to get married? But still using that as leverage is wrong. A lot of women do things like that.
Yea that's what she says when I marry her and get her a bigger house then she'll want lt and not to work
You need to dodge that bullet like that matrix man. Then she will divorce you one day and take over the house while you’re still making payments. Don’t do it. Kick her to the curb
Yea your probably right
I am right. This is pure manipulation. She’s going to use that whenever she wants something.
Two wrongs don't make a right. Are you justified in being mad that she completely disregards your sexual needs? So she's also justified in being mad that you're telling her you're going to go fuck some random girl. You should have just broken up, why haven't you?
We live together and it's been like 8 months of me telling her and she just whines and cries
Tbh sounds like there's more to this situation than she's saying. What that is I don't know, but I think you should ask her the real reason she doesn't want to have sex. If she doesn't want to be honest or work on it, then it's better to end the relationship and find someone that will be what you need in a partner. It's harder when you live with the person but I don't see that relationship going far under those circumstances
She said she wants a bigger house then she'll be more into it
Thank you and I said that material things shouldn't lead to sex. If your into it then you into it
Dude, you are really a moron. If your girlfriend, wife or whatever she doesn't put out then you BREAK UP, not cheat. Now you have double the problems. Enjoy.
Agreed thanks for the input
You should had just broke up with her instead if you she’s driving you crazy to not sleeping with her. Maybe, she was waiting till marriage. She has a right to be mad, but it’s her fault. Why avoid having sex with your boyfriend?
Some women have sex with their boyfriend who they don’t know have any sexual diseases. If some women would rather sleep with their boyfriend who they don’t know have any sexual diseases than women who wouldn’t have sex with their boyfriends who don’t have any sexual diseases, then I don’t know what bad choices women choose in men whether they have sexual diseases, or not.
Yea your right and she just makes excuses and cries and whines when it's time. Also it's been 6 months of me trying so
Sorry to hear that. I hoped you get a girlfriend who does wants to sleep with you.
These things are complicated. I love my wife but we had problems too. We both could have cheated but handled it a different way.
Somehow I loved her, but not that I wasn't attracted but didn't feel like having sex. We talked about it and once she noticed that I was turned on by a woman that we both know. So she asked if we could try inviting her to bed with us and if that would help.
It did and worked out great because it helped me get over my intimacy issues with her and helped her trust that I love her no matter what even if I might find someone else attractive.
We've always discussed stuff and now we're great. She even suggested sleeping with my coworker when on a 6 month work trip.
I told her that I don't know if I'd be comfortable with her sleeping with someone and I know it's selfish but she tells me that all she wants is us to be happy together and all the rest is just to be figured out.
So talk it out and work it out, be honest. It's that simple.
You are both wrong. You want to have sex. That is your right. Your spouse has to have sex with you. Marriage requires that. But that does not mean that you can cheat on him. Then you will never divorce him.
I fully agree with you and I've had so much conversations for months about how I felt and she doesn't care. I didn't just get up and do it. It's been 6 months on top of that she has a toy and I'll help her get off and she never reciprocates. Her excuses is the toy takes 2 mins and sex takes 10 and she has no energy for that
Ditch him and move on
Yea your right
Leave her, have some self respect, she goes hour long concerts but can't give you 10 minutes of good time. She has no valid excuse not to, periods is a valid excuse, sickness. Leave her whats the point of this relationship, either she has a really low libido or lost attraction for you but either way even if she has a low libido a good women will still consider your needs, Leave her.
Thanks man I appreciate it
Do yourself a favor and get a new girl. You will have anything but drama with her. It's convenient for her to be with you, she doesn't satisfy your needs (needs are fundamental for every human being - another examples of needs are eating, drinking, using bathroom, etc), as your needs are not important to her it means that you are not important to her. In this case is no longer a relationship, because in a relationship partners are important to each other. Even if someone is not important to you but hungry you would give that person a sandwich. Because that is their need. She is just using that you are in love with her. Look for what is good for you, as she is disrespecting you.
To answer your question - she doesn't have a right to be mad. She cut you off from your needs. Cut off yourself from her.
That seems less like cheating and more like you telling her its over before going with someone else.
Just dump her before you do anything. She obviously isn't attracted to you if she's been refusing for months, no sense holding on to her.
I don't blame you for cheating in that case, however what are you doing maintaining being in a sexless relationship? At this point its only friendship.
I would simply explain we are obviously not compatible due to the different libido and let her know we will need to discuss separating and seeking partners that better suit our individual lives.
This isn't just about sex but an obvious difference in what each wants out of the relationship.
Both are wrong.. she is wrong for not providing her duty as your girlfriend and you were wrong for not just dumping her and moving on.
Yea agreed
Just end the relationship then. The cheating is pointless.
Yea I gues so
It's still wrong. I get it, you made an effort, she ignored you, you think then X are the consequences.
However, I still believe that action of cheating will be a decision you made with the intention to hurt or get back at your partner. That's not productive, nor does that help you grow.
Breaking up with her and openly telling her why, in a calm, respectful dialogue would be best if it's realistically possible.
Is she Your wife or Your girlfriend? I'd never condone cheating (or any extramarital sex, for that matter), but if she's just a girlfriend, You at least did nothing wrong to her. If she's Your wife, though... While her behaviour is beyond suspicious and it's likely she's being manipulative, You should have stayed faithful anyway. That's how a marriage works. Unless it's only the state-sanctioned parody of marriage, but in this case You've got the courts to fear... At least until January.
Months? And you are early 30s? I’m assuming she's 25-35 too, if she isn’t pregnant thats basically estrangement and abandonment, also if no one is seriously ill or working far from home, thats a serious problem. You should l’ve ended it though - if you don’t have kids together already.
Yea I'm 32 and she's 28 and she's not pregnant no. Her excuse Is that her feet hurt but then want me to help her cum with her toy and I get nothing. No she literally works down the street from our house and no kids
🤮 use your feet to put on that nice pair of olathe cowboy boots or gucci house slippers and leave
Your right it's fucked up
Yes she has a right to be mad. You admitted to adultery. (USA based) Grounds for divorce and depending on your state you could get screwed with a reach around.
If you are that unhappy then divorce for unrecognizable differences. Life's short live it up safely without harm to others.
Well you shouldn't have said you're gonna have sex with someone else. I mean anyone would get mad if their SO said that, so that's a screw up on your part.
That being said, she also screwed up by not taking your wants and feelings into account and it looks like she is being selfish. If that's the case, and she is disregarding your wants altogether, then dump her and THEN find someone else. But don't cheat dude. That's a POS move.
No. Fuck her emotions. She didn't give a shit about yours. Didn't even *TRY* to accommodate you.
Lol I guess so thanks
Reading your comments on other people's replies, it's clear to me that she's been having sex behind your back too. A woman doesn't just go from having such a high sex drive that she has an open relationship to not having sex for 6 months.
Both of you two have been cheating. Just end the relationship.
Yes she does. If you cannot live without something in the relationship, and your partner can't provide you with what you need, the right thing to do is to break up, not cheat or threaten to get it from someone else.
she's avoiding, but why. that needs figured out. She at that age would be in her prime... something is wrong.
don't cheat, break up and move on if it isn't going to work. Do things right way.
She said because she wants a bigger house that's the reason
I wouldn't take that at face value but would be part of the answer. Girls are nest builders... like a bird... if doesn't like the nest (environment), she will fly elsewhere. Why would she mate and reproduce if don't like the nest? She's strapped in for 40 years of hell if so.
But she's not doing her part to work together to solve the problem, instead she's running. So sounds like fear to me. She's not mature and that means pain for you if you don't understand her. On other hand, you are being selfish wanting sex without a commitment. You want access to her reproductive chamber without submitting emotionally and without long term commitment. You are heading for misery you don't know exists. So it's a good stopping point to chart a better course.
You either work through it together or you blow up and start over with someone else, hopefully... wiser.
Yea very true
She kinda does. Would counseling help? Maybe try giving her some oral orgasms to get her in the mood or buy her a nice vibrator? Are u married or just living together? Is she suffering from depression. Hopefully a lot of masturbation is helping you deal with no sex?
First, are u any good at sex?
There's another post saying how bad most men are bad in bed.
On the other hand go cheat if she isn't do it for you , this I'm marrying my best friend is for when ur 70, Lol
She said she loves the sex when it happens. And I'm the only one that's ever made her orgasm, other than her toy. She just complains that her feet hurt
She has the right to be mad, you have the right to want sex. You told he what would happen. So she can piss off.
Exactly thanks man and I told her like I've been begging you for months and your mad at a girl giving me something you literally don't want to give me. And she said nothing
if you don't have kids, just leave her.
Hopefully this is your live-in girlfriend and not your wife. But either way, just get out.
You can worry about whether you were right or wrong while you're enjoying all your newfound freedom and peace of mind.
If you have kids, though, you might be stuck.
You are cheating, so you are wrong. If you don't like the relationship, then break up and then you can fuck who you want. But as long as you are still in the relationship, you are cheating.
Do both of you a favor and break up.
Don't cheat and become a low quality person, but you should end the relationship since she obviously doesn't care about you by denying you intimacy.
Agreed thanks for the input
For months? Omg she must be cheating or something
Yes months and anytime it's time I ask she says she's tired and then whines or cries
You are wrong for this but even if take the time to explain why, you won't give a shit and you won't understand.
Explain it , I'm open to all sides I'm trying to understand
She has the right yes. Cheating is cheating. Break up with her if your needs aren’t being met and she’s not into compromising.
Yea that's true , also we live in a basement apartment and she wants a big house and to not work. So she said until she gets that she's not doing it
While she sounds kinda douchebaggy that doesn’t make the cheating any better. Just end things. If she wants a big house and no sex then she can do it alone
Yea your right man thanks
Yes.
You're not wrong for sleeping with another woman. You're wrong for not ending your relationship for doing so. Your needs matter! But so does your honor. And when you cheated you sacrificed your honor.
Not to mention it's a d*** move.
You're wrong for it, never will a cheater be ever in the right if the relationship doesn't satisfy you you should have dump her not cheat on her.
yes... if you are unsatisfied with your relationship, you break it up, not cheat...
Well depending on how long and how many times she has rejected you. It's considered abuse to withhold physical intimacy completely for a long time and not tell you why. Cheating is never the right option but Its somewhat understandable. If she doesn't want to be with you anymore she needs to fess up.
She’s fucking someone else obviously. Since you can’t control her, you go on and fuck every girl in town starting with her closes friends
Don't sure if you cheated just to have the satisfaction of getting back at her
But yes I would e just left. That way you leave being in the right
I don’t think you’re wrong, if she doesn’t like it she can leave. Tbh she doesn’t seem
into you anyway 🙈
You are wrong. This is not an excuse. Dont you remember the "sickness and in health" thing?
Two wrongs don't make a right. Get a divorce and then you can bang anyone you like.
Yea your right
You are wrong because if the relationship isn't working, you should break up with her instead of cheating.
m cheating is wrong, period.
Agreed
Why are you still with her? Do you have children together?
We live together and no no children but your right
Well what the F are you waiting for? What do you think is going to change? Get the hell out. If you are joint lease-holders, then if you can afford it find another place until the lease expires. If you are the sole lease-holder or the property owner, tell her that it's not working and she needs to find another place in say six weeks. If she becomes destructive, then have her removed.
I've been in your situation. Stop wasting your life. The reason I'm here on GAG is to help others from making the same mistakes I did.
Thanks a lot man maybe your right
Is this your wife? Yes, it's wrong. However, she needs to fess up that monkey or that's grounds for divorce.
If this is your girlfriend, cheatin don't count. Just dump her.
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