Am I falling out of love or could this be resentment?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys, So first, Happy Halloween 🎃
My fiance and I have been together for 6 years. We got engaged two years ago. I haven’t felt happy in the relationship for a few months now and I don’t know if it’s because i am falling out of love or if im bored and resent him. Let me explain; at the beginning of the relationship he was all about liking girls pictures and following bikini girls on instagram. I asked him to stop and he didn’t. Until two years ago he stopped liking girls pictures and following them. I asked him why he did it in the first place and he said he didn’t know what he wanted but now he does so he stopped. I, however, still think about it and imagine that he still does (we don’t follow each other on social media for stalking
purposes) he says no but it’s hard for me to believe him because he lied before. i would ask him if he is still liking, he would say no and when I will stalk, I found that he did. So I feel like he is still doing it. I talk about him doing that for YEARS and I mean YEARS. We stopped going out on dates, we barely talk on the phone and we barely hang out. I’m very unhappy. I also don’t do anything fun through out my days either. I don’t work so I am home 24/7 the only time I leave my house is to go to the gym. I don’t have friends either so I get bored all the time. So I honestly don’t know the relationship is dying because of resentment or if it’s because we are falling out of love.

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but I don't know if it is boredom or if we are just falling out of love

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the tangled love web, my dear! Happy Halloween! 🎃 It sounds like you've got a cauldron of feelings brewing. Resentment and falling out of love can intertwine like a spooky tale. Trust is a foundational issue here, and it's haunting your relationship. Ghosting those old memories might be handy, but trust building is key, considering past actions.

Losing the spark by neglecting shared experiences can slowly lead to a fall in love. How about cooking up some fun, fresh plans together to reignite those flames? Let's wave a magic wand at boredom and distrust, addressing what's simmering, whether it's a communication gap or lingering feelings. Keep your heart open, and maybe seek couple's counseling for extra guidance. Your love story is worth a plot twist! 💖🔮

[Cripplingkingship]

I think you should do some work on yourself, before getting a relationships, sounds like you relying on men to make you happy and enterain you. I suggest you listen to these videos, I will give a better idea of how to handle relationships and men. If you are bored all the time, then work out why? also workout to be comfortable doing things by yourself without others. You should join social clubs like tennis, dancing classes, whatever you like doing as a hobby, also find a passion. Don't rely on others to help with your boredom.

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[Asker]

I don't know if it is really boredom or if we are falling out of love

[Cripplingkingship]

I think it’s important to focus on building a strong sense of self before getting into a relationship. Relying on a partner for happiness or entertainment can place unnecessary strain on the relationship. To build this foundation, I recommend listening to some insightful videos on relationships—they can offer a clearer understanding of how to approach relationships in a healthy way and interact effectively with men.

If you often feel bored, take a step back to explore why that might be. Finding fulfillment in your own company is key; it’s essential to develop hobbies and interests that don’t depend on others. Consider joining a social club, like a tennis or dance class, or pursuing any activity you genuinely enjoy. This is a great way to meet like-minded people while nurturing your interests and passions.

Ultimately, becoming comfortable with yourself—embracing time alone and finding your own sources of joy—will enrich your life and help you form deeper connections in the future. It’s a powerful step to take for your own growth and happiness.

[Cripplingkingship]

Remember, creating a fulfilling life doesn’t happen overnight, but the rewards are worth it. You’ll discover a powerful inner confidence that’s attractive to others and incredibly liberating for you. Take the time to build a life that makes you feel proud and excited each day—you’ll find that the right relationship will complement that, rather than complete it. This is your chance to become the best version of yourself.

[Asker]

i have a feeling that my boyfriend now will break up with me soon. our relationship is not the same anymore and it’s truly so boring

[Cripplingkingship]

Don't focus on the negative, and what is out of your control. Focus on what you can control. If he does break up with me, cool I can start focusing on other areas of my life. Stay single for while, and just enjoy doing whatever without someone else's permission. Sometimes when a relationship doesn't workout, we make the end of the world, but really its best thing can happen, cause allows other doors to open up for you.

Don't focus on the negative, you will just make your life worse. Focus on the positve and everything will happen for you.

[Cripplingkingship]

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