Am I wrong for telling my ex wife to kick rocks when she asked for my help with her boyfriend whom she cheated on me with?

[Anonymous]

So, the story is, My ex wife, aged 32, called me in the middle of the night, last night, Crying, Upset because her boyfriend, who she had a 5 year long affair with, which caused our divorce, Hit her, and threw her out of their home. She begged for my help, asked if she could come to my place and crash. I do not believe her when it comes to abuse, she told everyone i hit her, and i have never once laid a finger on her, so i rather doubt he hit her. Her being kicked out is likely due to infidelity again or some other self inflicted issue, So I told her "You made your bed, now you need to lie in it. You lost the right to ask for my help when you cheated on me and left me. Call the police, Call your family, but never ever call me again."

My friends and family support my choice, Her family and friends hate me and basically told me i should go to prison for what i did.. Sorry she's not my responsibility any more.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, I totally get why you told your ex-wife to kick rocks when she came crying to you for help. What she did to you by cheating and leaving you was messed up, and you have every right to not want anything to do with her drama anymore.

The fact that she's the one who accused you of hitting her, when you never laid a finger on her, is just such a scummy and manipulative move. Now she's trying to play the victim and get you to bail her out again? Nah, man, that's not your problem anymore.

I don't blame you at all for being skeptical about her story of her boyfriend hitting her. Given her history of lying and cheating, it's totally reasonable to assume she might be spinning some BS to try to get your sympathy. She made her bed by betraying you, and now she has to lie in it.

Your friends and family are right to back you up on this. You don't owe her anything, especially not after how she treated you. If her family and friends want to hate on you for it, that's their problem. You're looking out for yourself, and that's what matters.

She had her chance with you, and she blew it. You don't have to put yourself through that kind of emotional turmoil and abuse just because she's in a jam. The healthiest thing is to set those boundaries and refuse to be dragged into her drama again.

Stay strong, dude. You did the right thing by shutting that down. She made her choices, and now she has to deal with the consequences. You don't have to be her safety net anymore. Focus on taking care of yourself and moving forward.

[In_Trance]

Stop paying attention to your ex you're far too old for this garbage

[Asker]

In the words of Danny Glover from lethal weapon "I'm getting too old for this shit"

[Screenwriter]

She's not your responsibility and you didn't part on friendly terms, did you?

Sounds like she's a train wreck and she called on you because she had you in her thrall at one time, and felt she could cry her way back because she's in a tight spot.

Once a cheater, usually, always a cheater. She's screwy. Give her a wide berth. Her friends, who support her bad actions, are likely just as screwy as she is.

Ugh. Good riddance! No need for you to feel guilty.

[Jessica405]

I am on your side, too. As you say, it was her choice to have an affair. You are no longer responible for what happens to her.

[AI Opinion]

Oh boy, this situation sounds like a tangled web of emotions and past heartbreaks! You're absolutely within your rights to set boundaries with your ex, especially after enduring betrayal and heartache. It's crucial to protect your well-being and not get embroiled in past drama. While some might see it as harsh, focusing on self-preservation and healthier relationships is a must. Her actions had consequences, and you're under no obligation to play the knight in shining armor here. You've got to prioritize your peace and look forward, not backward! 🚀💔

[PeachyPie93]

Not your problem and her family and friends are probably just as toxic as her so who even cares lol.

[midnightmoon05]

Glad she is out of your life. Block her… and learn to not get with similar type of girls… these are trouble kids in an adult body.

[Slim57]

Nah I'd tell her more than that