As a stay at home father, I have to say that I absolutely love my role as a stay at home dad. I find it ironic how women can say being a stay at home mom is a full time job and a real job, yet switch the roles or social norms around and suddenly it's considered unmanly or frowned upon and I lose masculinity or face because of it. Lol. Equal rights and feminism and being told women can do whatever men can do and not once did I argue the fact, but rather supported the ideas of women being allowed to prove themselves and show their strengths while supporting them and their beliefs without judgment. Regardless of what anyone has to say on the subject, I absolutely love being given the opportunity to be a stay at home dad to my girls because most dad's who go to work day in and day out, miss out on so much they wish they could have caught on to before their baby girls started growing up and resenting them and the absence of a father figure. Having a relationship with their dad on an emotional level that will later on in life ultimately shape the values and emotional support they will look for in a husband of their own, gives me confidence that they will be well protected and choose someone who will value their feelings and support their ideas because growing up they had a male figure in their lives during development. A male figure who was fair, understanding, took the time to listen to their likes and creative ideas and imaginations as well as play along with them and show them my goofy side as well. Teaching them how to fish right in our own backyard and exploring with them on our acreage, foraging for plants and bugs... helping with the chores and cooking and being excited to get a chance to show their parents that they are excited to do their part in the household and earn their keep through tedious actions all on their own. Most importantly of all, they see a man who supports his wife and greets her each day that she returns home from work with a hug and a kiss while asking her how her day went. While some might think that makes a man soft simply because he switches roles of what is usually normalized, just remember that I'm at least not one of those Individuals who has to worry about my daughters settling for some bum later on in life. They will know their value and demand respect from anyone who shows an interest in them without settling for less. Because they had a man who raised them early on and who carried his weight as well as showed them how a man should treat a woman through examples he set when watching interactions between their mother and me. Anybody who feels like this emasculates me in some way or knocks me down on the food chain somehow, I honestly don't care what your opinions are. I can guarantee that knowing my daughters are safe at all times and them knowing their self worth as they get older, and teaching them how to see through people's fakeness as a means to use others for personal gain... is something I won't have to worry about as they get older. I will gladly trade my masculine image and take some mean words and taunts from people I'll never meet let alone value their opinions of me, in exchange for my daughters and their security and them knowing their own worth. in a heartbeat. I will never not take that deal for the peace of mind knowing that they will make good decisions based on how I was always there for them and showed them what to watch for.
Many women nowadays tend to take a lot of pride in being a "strong independent woman" and a lot of them disassociate with cooking, cleaning, and raising children. Those types of women prefer to be known for their career, intelligence, and finances.
I've seen it so many times where girls in my high school and college would say "I can't cook" and they would take pride in that. It was an extremely distasteful personality that I avoided for partners.
While I don't think it's solely the women's job to cook, clean, and raise kids nowadays (especially since there are more women graduating from secondary education than men and dual income is needed in most households), it's still a turnoff when a girl refuses to do them outright.
And it is definitely a reflection of the shifts in society's mindset nowadays.
Society has evolved, and with it, the roles we take pride in. Women, like anyone else, learn to prioritize what they enjoy and what is valued in society. While I understand the traditional view of domestic roles, we also need to see the value in women choosing paths that weren’t historically open to them, like focusing on careers. I do cook and clean on the weekends, not because I love it (I don’t) but because it’s part of being a responsible adult.
It works for them. He is good at his task and she is good at bringing home the bacon. im a living proof.. hubby is a stay at home dad and I work. I love my job. I also love it when I get home, I can sit down with my hubby and kids to have a warm meal together. We sit and eat and have discussions/plans. he takes kids to school, takes care of the household stuff… at this point, kids are teens, so we talk about how to transition chores to kids. hubby doesn’t have to do all the cooking, cleaning… kids help. We also have our cleaning ladies… and lawn mowers so that he can take the time to go bike ride, play tennis and hang out with his buddies at the dirt bike track. He is really sexy and handsome in his gears that go zoom zoom 😂 doing the jumps on the tracks. we make sure we don’t get into a routine and make life fun by meeting up with friends, families, go travel, enjoy shows, foods… life is what we make of it.
At the end of the day regardless who is doing what… it comes down to how we love, respect, communicate, dedicate, appreciative towards our partner. same with raising kids… as long as we continue our family values, structure and understanding… our kids are succeeding.
I don't know I guess we have learn a lot of people have different ways and lifestyle what might seem to work out for you and your spouse will not work out for others. I guess now a days people say it's normal. I mean now a days we have actual grown old ass 30 year olds living with mommy and still taking orders from mammy instead of being the head of the house hold and spending time with their wife. But that's just typical millennials guys additue. Most millennial men are NOT husband marriage material they will put Mommy and siblings first before their spouse so why would a millennial guy even bother getting married.
Simple, you have various things that need to be done. Men with good careers need someone to look after the children and raise them well, they are to busy working. Now women have adopted those roles its logical that a successful career woman who prefers focusing on her career needs a man to look after the children rather than a career man because she needs that role fulfilled. There's nothing wrong with that if both prefer that dynamic, its just less common.
That arrangement works for some couples, and I say more power to them. But it will never work for most. Men and women will always gravitate to their strengths.
I do find it interesting that a certain type of women discourage other women from choosing to be SAH mothers while at the same time praising men who do it. Why do you suppose that is?
Some women may discourage others from becoming stay at home moms because they are concerned about economic dependency in an unpredictable world.
In advocating for women to have their own sources of income or a contingency plan, the intent isn’t to disparage the choice to be a stay at home mom but to ensure that all women have the autonomy and security to manage life’s unexpected changes.
As I believe, individual strengths and choices vary widely. I fully support women who choose to stay at home with their children, I also encourage them to secure their own income and means of transportation. This empowers them to maintain independence and readiness for any of life’s twists.
@Nikki1989 Just being Honest! The way the world works!..
We see it daily, It's not a fault in women..
Women depends on men for safety, security and resources (money). In today's world, our social structure provides safety and security, by disarming and implementation of law. And Women can make their own money.
However, social structure changed , but our brain is still hardwired the way it was for last 20000yrs..
Can you provide specific studies or sources that support your view that women find men repulsive sexually if they earn less, or that relationships strictly adhere to a hierarchy of dating up or down?
Bride always asks for a Groom earning more Money than her.. There is an earings quote for Groom, that Generally exceeds females earning..
I never said "strictly adhere to a hierarchy " .. I said it's in general. There are anomalies, but with Time they get fixed when relationship falls apart in 6 to 12 to 15 Years.. those anomalies Relationship that you consider Exceptions don't last long!..
Go Look up Divorce Cases Significant Percentage Happens because "She starts earning more" , which often leads to an affair or etc, which leads to Divorce, Tag on Divorce is of affair , but deep down the Cause was "Her earning more".
It's a cause but not a problem. Problem is He did not Up his Game and Pushed his Income above her's possible Income!..
These things are Generally Common News and sense. Unless you live under a rock, Go Google Social Researches on Divorce and Cause!.
A successful woman often has a demanding career and may need a partner who can take on a significant share of household and childcare responsibilities. This allows her to focus on her career without feeling overwhelmed.
This is not a bad thing. Gender roles are outdated and if the woman wants to work in the corporate world while the guy stays at home, that’s fine with me.
Fine. I'm saying i don't really know and i don't see the appeal in it. I'm not planning to be a househusband making 0€ per year and if i were in a woman's body, i wouldn't be interested in having one either.
No. Women quickly lose respect for a man who stays at home with the kids. Do a basic search about relationships. When is she most likely to leave? When he loses his job.
Respect isn’t lost when a man stays home with this kids. It’s lost when he’s not taking care of responsibilities at home when he is there all day. It’s lost when she comes home from work to a night shift of cooking and cleaning that he should have had taken care of earlier.
Well my apartment is small and the average time it takes to clean a place that is the size of my apartment is 1.5 hours. You can calculate how long it should take to clean a place by the square footage and how deep of a clean you want to do.
But yeah I figure I would be an awesome house husband if I got into a steady routine. Thanks!
I've met several "house husbands". With the exception of two, both of whom had retired, none of the men OR their wives were actually happy. Especially when children came up. Most ended in divorce.
Men are hardwired in our psyche to be the protector and provider. That's not being sexist, it's just how it is naturally. Little boys find ways to make games about fights and adventures, even if their parents are trying to raise them as "gender neutral" - another way to say "gelded". Girls lean more to tea parties.
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