Is it wrong to emotionally withdraw from a relationship without explaining why?

[HawkPerception]

Yes

No

[Crimsyjo]

OMG yes. I'm quite an emotional person tho. But I have shut down before. In my marriage I'd get upset but I didn't like conflict so I'd go quiet instead. And bottle it up and I either exploded of until I decided that if I didn't want to end my relationship I'd have to just deal. In 12 years my ex husband and I never once had an argument.

On the surface that seems super! But it really wasn't.

I'm much more vocal now about what I'm feeling and what my needs are if I feel someone is disrespecting my feelings or impacting me negatively. I still bottle some because I think it would he unhealthy to vent every little thing. But I'll analyse what is wrong and if it needs addressing and find a good time to bring it up. So it's more controlled I think.

I've heard so many men telling me their relationship problems where they don't even know what's wrong or what they did wrong because the woman has emotionally withdrawn or shut down instead. Maybe (from the womans perspective) he should know!! But haha this is a thing us women do all the time. We hint at displeasure or dissatisfaction and hope our guy will notice and step up. But it's a bit like a dog peeing on the carpet and then telling it off 2 days later. It's not gonna have a clue. It's just gonna think your in a bad mood and lay low for a few days!! 😂

[HawkPerception]

Honest communication is definitely key in relationships 👍🏼

[TheRealPepperPotts]

For the most part, yes, assuming it's a normal-ish relationship.

However, I'd make an exception when discussing a co-dependent/narcissist dynamic. Emotional withdrawal without explanation is a necessity in that case. The trouble with a co-dependent is that if they do try to explain, they can't withstand the narcissistic bombardment that follows. Basically, they must cut ties cold-turkey and flee, no explanation. This generally follows years of manipulation and abuse, so I feel zero sympathy for the poor shocked narcissist...

[Garud]

yes if the person in front argues a lot.
no, if the person in front genuinely has a soft space so that you can tell your mind

[IslaTheWitch]

it's always wrong to change things in relationship without explaining what will change and why... it's one sided action and relationship by design is an union of at least two people... so things should be at least discussed and explained if your partner has no say...

it's cruel... it's better to break up and let your partner to move on and find someone who would like to communicate and share feelings with them...

[Dongie]

At that point you gives a shit?