How do you feel (would you feel) about a prenup (this hypothetical prenup)?

[Anonymous]

I've been wanting to ask my girlfriend of 3 years to marry me. But as anything as you get older (you older G@Gers understand), our differences and life situations become greater and greater. I've been fortunate and have amassed significant assets in comparison to my girlfriend. To be fair I've been single my entire life she's raised kids (most the time by herself) something that is not lost on me. It would only be prudent to protect myself.

I understand the knee-jerk response to a prenuptial with a lot women is hostility. But this is not just for my protection. It's to assure she is properly compensated for time and potential lost wages if (heaven forbid) it doesn't work out.

She makes about 40k a year. I'm fine if she continues to work. I'm fine if she doesn't want to work. It's totally up to her. But I was considering something along the lines of her receiving 50k a year from the agreement for every year that we're married. So in other words if for example we're married for 10 years. She recieves a half million. I figure this is greater than she makes. And this is just a starting point. We can refine this to include pay increases. I think this fair though considering her income.

What do you think? Fair deal? If you were in her position how would you feel about the arrangement?

Please only serious responses.

[LiamJHayden]

You need to do what is right for you, but also be aware that the prenup has to abide by the standards where you live. For example, if you are pulling $1M+/year and try to limit her support too much, a judge can just toss it out and go by the then current laws.

[KrakenAttackin]

Absolutely you should ask her to sign a prenup. Look what she is getting with you: security, safety, and someone to take the load off of her. The very least she can do is give you a little peace of mind.

[Asker]

And not that I want equate love to money. But you can't put a price on what I get from her. So I think we're both winning here.

[KrakenAttackin]

There is nothing wrong with equating love/money. Would she be with you if you flipped burgers at McDonald's?

[Asker]

One would hope so. There's no way i can answer that with any certainty. But that's not my reason for doing it.

[KrakenAttackin]

I assure you, if you flipped burgers she would not be with you.

[Nikki1989]

I would have signed one if it ever came up, but it never did and never will.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach on Girls Ask Guys, I'm here to help you navigate these tricky waters. 💍 Your approach seeks balance, which is commendable. Prenups can be touchy, but when framed as a mutual safety net, they can be less intimidating. Communication is key—share your intentions and assurances with her. In her shoes, I might feel valued by the transparency and forethought. But remember, it’s crucial to involve both emotional care and legal advice. Love and security can coexist smoothly! 💑 Just keep talking and listening to each other.

[BonzoInBitburg]

Transfer your assets to an offshore trust so that they can't ever be listed in a divorce. It's better than a prenup because your house, car and investments become untouchable and she'll never know unless she files for divorce.

[PeachyPie93]

Seems fair..