Is infidelity or cheating a sufficient reason to end a relationship?

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Maybe the reason some people cheat and others don't is that some of us consider cheating to be a horrible and unforgivable breach of trust, while others might think, "I won't get caught but, if I do get caught, it's not that big of a deal." So, two questions: 1. Have you ever cheated on a partner to whom you had promised faithfulness? and 2. Would you end the relationship if you discovered that your partner was being unfaithful?

EzraIsShy76028 · Accepted Answer

I mean, USUALLY it's a good reason to end a relationship. It's usually a sign you have zero respect for your partner and their feelings. But at the same time, the human mind is very complex and mental health issues can completely cloud your judgement, especially if you suffer from mental illnesses/disorders, so it's possible to cheat because you're not in the right mindset and you're desperate, delusional, and not sure what to do with your life; while at the same time still genuinely loving your partner.

Aka mistakes happen, as long as you don't make it a regular thing I don't believe a mistake you made while you were in a dark place should define you for the rest of your life. After all it's not like cheating is as crazy and severe as something like murder, rape, or pedophilia. Not to excuse cheating, but it's far from the very worst thing a human could do.

As for your two specific questions:

1. No I have never cheated on a partner.

2. It depends. If they only did it once while in a dark place mentally I might let it slide. But if they start to do it regularly then I'll definitely end the relationship no hesitation.

ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

Never cheated. Would break up with partner if I found they were. Taking them back is essentially Oliver Twist saying "Please, Sir, may I have some more?"

TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

Yes . There was a time when I'd have given a different answer, like "have grace" and "work through it" and "win him back". But I have more life experience now. :) I mean, he  could  decide to have sex with a man. He could have sex with prostitutes. That's  his choice , but  my choice  is that I don't want an STD, like AIDS. Ever.  His decision affects me and others . It's not an independent and "personal choice" decision anymore. Someone who is willing to risk my health and security (and that of others) because they want to have their cake and eat it, too is not someone I can trust or keep in my life. Because they have broken their word and put me and any children at risk for their own selfish reasons, it's over. Look, if he wants a divorce because he wants to move on, that's one thing. But if he's lying to me about his fidelity,  what else has he been lying about ? Dealbreaker. Zero tolerance. There you go. :D

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

It ended my marriage the second that I found out he was cheating and I had just given birth to his son only a few months earlier, and he stole my Chevy Nova which I bought before I ever knew him! And he didn't ever pay his child support either.
Nice guy huh?🤪😎

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

As a relationship coach, let me dive into the rollercoaster of love and trust! 🚀 Cheating can definitely be a deal-breaker, kind of like accidentally ordering pineapple on your partner's pizza when they're clearly a "pepperoni-only" person. It’s an intimate issue and many see it as a red flag 🚩while others might try to work through it. Personally, I haven't cheated, but it sure defines your boundaries and expectations. Ending a relationship due to infidelity is a personal choice. Trust and communication play crucial roles in deciding whether to mend or end. Remember, love should feel like a safe place, not a battlefield! ❤️

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Finchie40 · Answer

Yes it is , cheating is a selfish act that breaks the trust and respect that you shared with your partner , so whoever cheats in the relationship, is the one that is breaking that trust between them. So yes cheating can be a valid reason to dump someone , Shit, people break up over silly things all the time , that don’t even come close to cheating lol I had a girl dump me because I talked to another girl that asked me a question at the Liquor store and different styles of beer. My girlfriend bat the time said I was flirting with her when clearly I wasn’t , she was just asking me a question about beer , and I was being nice and respectful, but apparently in her eyes I was hitting on her. I was like Wow , ok you crazy insecure weirdo , See ya

ohsheeT · Answer

It's one thing that your partner cheats but what's even worse is they cheat and then they come home everyday and act as if nothing has happened they still put on that pretend phase and that pretend voice of telling you how much they love you and this and that and they just play you like your big dummy and they do this day in and day out not knowing that you already know that they're cheating and it's just the way that they go about it and how they can carry on they're almost normal routine with you but they're still going out and cheating that's the worst part that's grounds for get out of my house lol I could care less about the cheating it's the line and playing you as a dummy that I don't like

AviatorTom · Answer

Cheating would not automatically be a relationship ender. There would have to be important other negative things in the relationship to end it.

Anonymous · Answer

Dating, yes. Marriage... eh, I don't know. I can see multiple sides, so I don't know if I'd be ok sticking around someone who didn't respect me... and I think I'd be too freaked out about getting an STD to remain sexual, and too easily hurt to want to get physical) so it might be a sexless marriage, and divorce could probably destroy me, so I'm probably not too eager to initiate divorce).

I don't think I'd be likely to cheat, unless it was a technicality, like the wife just abandoned the family and no one knew where she was, so the divorce or anullment papers could not get signed.

I know I dropped one girlfriend for cheating. I dropped another girlfriend, partly because of her wandering eye and sniffing around other dudes more than I was comfortable with, though there were many other reasons why I broke up with her. I just knew that there were too many red flags all over the place (her jealousy, her accusing me of constantly cheating - but her sniffing around and pining for other dudes WAS a problem, even if she didn't officially mess with another dude.

So for a non married situation, I think I'd break up with her quickly. Marriage, I don't know. I think it'd be easier if it was a marriage with no kids (or grown up kids) to divorce. With kids, I might have to think about it.

texascollegegirl · Answer

I cheat on my partner every day and lie to him, and he loves having to bend his mind to accept the "reality" that I'm not cheating with big dick Blacks. We have compatible kinks but not the same kinks. I love him so much and I'd love to tell him all about the big dick Blacks I have sex with and what it's like, but he can't handle it, so he needs the signals I'm cheating for BBC to be very clear but deniable. He fantasizes about them and me and about being me. A lot of SPH guys are like that. I don't have the same fetish in reverse, so I would dump him if he cheated on me. I don't mind if he fibs a little sometimes to masturbate about BBC and what I'm doing with specific Blacks he's met or ones he knows about. Still, I lock him up sometimes. He's really hot and smart and funny and a great catch even with his tiny dick. He wouldn't be without his fetishes because then I have the freedom to lie and cheat knowing I won't hurt him. If he cheated, I would be hurt and want vengeance. I wouldn't take vengeance, but that would be the end of us, with no possibility of discussing it.

RavVid · Answer

In a long term relationship both sides are investing in the couple side rather than the me side. So someone woulds stay putting resources into the couple component when the other side of the couple is clearly not?

It really does not make sense. On the male there is the strong possibility of a child that is not related to you. On the female side resources leak to another female. In both cases it is hurtful emotional betrayal.

If a used car dealer cheated you, would you keep going back for more bad deals? Why would keep to a bad deal in a far more important aspect of your life?

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Yes, it's a very valid reason to end a relationship.

I have never and would never cheat.

And if I was in a relationship and my partner cheated on me, I would leave.
They would have shown me what they think of me and the relationship and I'm not going to stay for that kind of thing.

Wouldn't be worth my time to be with someone who didn't truly want to be with me.

jazzy34 · Answer

Yes. If a man put his dick in another woman, bye. People are nasty and the other woman may have STDs or something. Maintaining good health is important to me and I will be DAMNED if he passes something to me that he caught from another woman.  Hell  no. 👋🏽✌🏾

Quigly · Answer

Marriage is a Sh$t institution. Modern Marriage is about Real Estate, it's a leftover archaic institution from the days of Imperialism. It's not, nor has it ever been, about love. Many get married and stay in the relationship simply because they need a place to live and they have no other choices.

The expectation of love is the problem. Have no expectations of love and it isn't a problem. If your partner is cheating, Keep the marriage certificate and find another partner yourself. It really is that simple.

Natasha1995 · Answer

As per your update, that would sum up what I feel as well. You either put all your effort into your relationship, so cheating is out of the question, or you might as well not be in a relationship and just sleep around with whoever you like.

Unit1 · Answer

1) Nein 2) Ja

MarjorieJ · Answer

Cheating is the worst thing. But on this site, people have different ideas about what cheating is.

kitty71 · Answer

Dumb question of course it is sufficient reason.

Potteplante · Answer

Clicked wrong. I have cheated on a partner, I've been in relationships where I've been cheated on and I didn't end it - if cheated on today, I'd end it immediately.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Infidelity is a fundamental breach of trust, but it is also only sex. There are exceptions to every rule. Forgiveness is always possible

Sceprent · Answer

Absolutely. How is this a actual question? You work for a company, you manage the money. You’re found to have been stealing the money… should you be fired?

Blueeyes81 · Answer

I've never cheated but have been cheated on. For me it made me feel like I never knew her at all. If she could cheat and hide it what else would she hide. For me there is no second chance, you become a stranger.

slatyb · Answer

No reason is needed to end a relationship. Reasons are required to continue in a relationship.

exitseven · Answer

yes, it would probsbly be something I could not live with.

Oldschool1981 · Answer

So long as there's no pregnancy or is with my friends, I don't mind if my wife dates guys outside our marriage

worldscolide · Answer

That is my one, instant divorce, deal breaker. I have never cheated and I have zero tolerance for cheating.

Anonymous · Answer

I've never cheated on a partner because i never have a partner. I think many things can be reconciled, but cheating is definitely grounds for divorce .

Anonymous · Answer

People here are obsessed with cheating and you all having the most toxic relationships ever  I'm outta this site

Staximus · Answer

There's no excuse for cheating. If somebody wants to screw other people, they shouldn't be in a relationship

Kelly6 · Answer

@olderandwiser i did cheat on my husband back then but we didn’t breakup

Eleni0199 · Answer

Yes, I won’t put up with it. It can get people killed I seen as kid what it can do to people. Plus their STDs.

AnonAndrew · Answer

If a man cheats, I think it's a sufficient reason to end the relationship. If a woman cheats, I don't think it's a sufficient reason to end the relationship.

SEXGODPEDOMASTER · Answer

I cheated on my last girlfriend and I told my girlfriend if I find out she cheated or is cheating on me the relationship is over immediately and no excuse or explanation be acceptable ever. If I cheat on her she decides what she wants to happen and she told me she would forgive me.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I have never cheated. Yes I might end a relationship depending on the circumstances.

asarjam · Answer

Yes, obviously.

grega239 · Answer

Yes it is. Dont care why it happened, i dont tolerate betrayal

shortster · Answer

It is the second best reason to end a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

I've previously cheated on a partner, and I have ended a relationship when I discovered my partner was being unfaithful or cheating on me. No excuses for me.

tomas64 · Answer

Nobody wants to be hurt, cheating hurts. If your partner wants someone else, step away, it will not get better or change.

GlowUpGirly5 · Answer

No, it's better to just leave

DrPepper12 · Answer

I cheated in HS n college. Never on spouse if there's a difference. I think so anyway. People change.

Meisdipa · Answer

It's better that way

SweetDripp · Answer

Simple answer... yes

Crazzyyworld · Answer

It depends, if it’s just sex then no, but if it’s more 5th an just sex, then yes break up

WowGIrl4ever · Answer

Absolutely especially in a marriage

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Absolutely! If you cheat, you're GONE!

Woody7793 · Answer

End it. Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior.

Dongie · Answer

I picked the first one.

Wise4myage · Answer

Yes, definitely.

MysticDevice · Answer

Its an automatic adios for me.

SleepingHazard · Answer

Yes.

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

Yes, it is.

Agape93 · Answer

Absolutely

jahaims · Answer

Duh.

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