Why do people cheat instead of just ending the relationship?

Question

I don't get it. If your partner isn't good enough, end it.

devilish-cutie · Accepted Answer

there are many reason, none i say are good, but its because:

- it doesn't mean they are not happy in a relationship, they just want to also have sex with other people

- they dont want to leave their partner and never hve the option of ever having them again but also want to do things with other people

- they like their partner but they dont like sex with them or sex is bad or partner is not wanting sex

- there are problems in relationship they many of their needs are met and they dont want to be alone, but they cheat cause they are not happy but noone of the people they cheat with are relationship material

- they dont want to be alone so they stick with bad relationship, and even tho they cheat starting something with someone new isn't easy and they are already comfrotable t+with their partner

- they cheat to piss off their partner, cause they have problems within relationship

- they cheat cause they get the thrill of being caught

so etc.

HollyK21 · Accepted Answer

Those people are being selfish. They have whatever logic in their mind as to why they can’t or don’t want to fully leave, and cheating is their way of keeping their foot in the door while having the freedom to explore their options.

kylee2437 · Answer

I feel like people that cheat are benefitting from their partner in some kind of so they stay but act upon their feelings of not wanting to be with that person

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I've never cheated, but I have had two partners cheat on me. From what I've seen, people don't cheat because of inadequacy of their partner. They cheat because that is more exciting than coming home to their partner every night.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I don’t really know… I find cheating dishonorable, rat behavior.

coachTanthony · Answer

Oh they are probably good enough. Steak is good enough but some times you just want the Alice springs chicken.

AviatorTom · Answer

People who cheat are generally satisfied with their relationship, they're just looking for something more.

Nylife20j · Answer

There's no point to cheat. Why play others no. I admit I was with my ex fiance when I was having sex with my woman that's in incarcerated now. What I've seen in my ex fiance was she thought sex, cooking, cleaning was going save the relationship. Nope less than 2 months I had to end that. My eyes were open. my woman now ended finding out. They both spoke on the phone. My woman told me how she said to her are you f#$@ing my boyfriend. I love my incarcerated woman. Me and her had sex before she went in to jail. I remembered April the 17th 3 days before my 34th birthday. she's 28. But I remember her saying that I better pick up her calls. But I've explained to her to get off the drugs. But she reaped of what she sow. Now she has years. I've explained to her. You do crime you do time. Now she's in another facility. She called earlier today. I've put money in her account last night. So I know she had took take that money. But most of her life was jail since was 14 I remember. It's crazy why lose your freedom out here. But some people don't obviously. Her being a white woman like really. But she's reading her Bible. And I've told her I've seen Jesus before. Now she regrets being in there wants to spend time with me and all. I've told her before. Shouldn't never got in trouble. Her mother put money 1 time before as far as I know. But the rest was me. What type of mother is she right. I've told her. If her mother wants to talk to her then she can put money in too. Crazy. But yeah I know how to cheat but still. there's no point to hurt someones feelings especially if there one of a kind.

BlackBeauty90 · Answer

They do it as the partner offers support, stability, etc. whereas the person they cheat with is merely passing entertainment (predominantly means nothing beyond sex).

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There is a lot of claims by cheaters that they cheat because their partner lacked in some way or another... okay so then WHY keep that partner? It makes no sense.

Rather cheaters are psychological weak

If you search it - as I've found with friends and those who've had poor partners - cheaters are naturally psychologically weak in that they oftentimes have gambling issues, smoking problems, drinking issues, etc. They are not psychologically strong, they are not able to cope with situations in a mature or intelligent fashion (often prone to childish responses to arguments, shutting partner out verbally, etc.), etc.

Sorrento-Sun · Answer

I don't believe there's any correlation between infidelity and love. A person cheats, because they're weak. They have no willpower or self-control over their desires and emotions. So opportunity and circumstances controls their loyalty.

I'd never assume someone would remain loyal to me based on how they feel about me. I'd only trust them based on by who they are as a person. Their character.

Someone who loves you won't necessarily be faithful. And someone who has fell out of love with you won't automatically cheat on you. That's why i think it's so important to get to know someone in a deeper level before you place your trust in them. Rather than trusting them blindly.

caitycat21 · Answer

This is exactly my issue. Like i especially don’t understand how some people can just forgive cheating cause in my opinion if we’re in a relationship and you cheat on me you just hate me and don’t give a shit about my feelings because why else would you betray me in that way?

nastyb · Answer

Its because they still love and want to be with their partners. Usually when cheating happens , it has to do with something wrong with the relationship.

I have been meeting people off the internet for almost 10 years, you have no idea how many men look to cheat online. Vast majority of them have very troubled marriages. They love their wives too much to leave but yet... their wives are so nasty and neglectful.

A lot of people get too comfortable in long term marriages, they forget that they still need to nurture their relationships, satisfy their spouses, show affection, put in that extra effort. Men go to mistresses usually to get what their wives aren't giving them.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they feel entitled to you. Specially men. Men are 10x more entitled when it comes to this. They want a faithful woman. But they also want to use other women 🤡🤡🤡🤡 When women cheat it’s 10x more likely she’s just with you for your wallet. Or she thinks you’re ugly / gross. And she’s afraid to breakup due to looking like a bad guy. But men are more likely to want sex from the faithful housewife, while also using the slutty women. ITS WHY I REFUSE TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP !!! ‼️ DA FUCK ‼️

DiegoO · Answer

There are different reasons someone would cheat. I can only understand those that went that way because of lack of sex, or no sex at all in their relationship.

From what I experienced with the relationship I had (LD relation), I can say it's a mix of fear, anger, confusion. All those, negatives emotions-sentiment.

Did it made any difference? It only complicated things. Even though I cheated online, it just didn't made me feel better in the long run. I reached a dead end.

Master lesson: it was stupid, it was selfish, it was childish. You're not doing yourself a favour when you cheat. Best thing ever: breakup. It's never easy but is neither a burden.

BadApple69 · Answer

Very good question. I know first hand several answers for this. And everyone’s answer will be different.
First off some cheat because they are looking for something on the side. My wife cheated, why? I’m the safe, secure, good guy… but girls are turned on by the bad boy. They don’t want to bad boy as a husband because…. He can’t be trusted.
Some guys cheat because the wife/girlfriend has become domesticated home, children, PTA meeting or whatever. What happens then is no time for the husband. So he goes looking for what is missing in his life. That might be sex, companionship or just someone to talk to.
Let’s face it dating is an exciting time, once married life isn’t always that exciting. Sometimes it’s actually boring.
I wish it wasn’t so, but this is the sad truth. I believe from stories from friends and family that so many people cheat… I wouldn’t be surprised if the number was 80%.
Sad but true.

miafryer2004 · Answer

Do you want the true answer from a self confessed serial cheater. Well it’s because of the sex, plain and simple. We love the person we’re with, love their personality and love our time together but if they are shit in bed, after so long our sexual urges take over and our love for that person no longer matters. We need that hot and steamy erotic sex and if we’re not getting it from the person we love we need to find it elsewhere. And we cheat because we’re completely satisfied with every other aspect of our relationship and want to stay with this person but just get sex elsewhere. That’s why we don’t just end the relationship because we’re happy with everything but the sex.

Jess_D · Answer

I think some people are “cake eaters”. They want their cake and eat it too. They want the security of the partner they know and the adventure of a new person. That’s just my opinion. Either way I think cheating sucks and if you want to be with someone new just end the relationship instead of betraying someone.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Sometimes it's plain old selfishness where the person is getting off on the cheating because they're getting away with an act of defiance. Like, "I'm going to cheat on you because I can fool you into thinking you have something you don't." Other times, the cheating is a really weird and convoluted attempt at trying to keep everyone happy by staying in the relationship because they do genuinely feel some love or obligation for the person they're cheating on.

And then there are the really bizarre times when you have someone who just totally lacks any self awareness and they really do end up having an affair without realizing that that was what was happening until it was too late.

luvstoned4him · Answer

To have their cake and eat it too?

But real talk

I know guys who tell me that they would be in a relationship for years knowing they don't love her but would rather get involved with another at the same time and try to secure that one before dumping the other.

catarecute · Answer

lol cheats are cowards that why they dont end it. just cause someone is hot doesn't mean they can't be a coward. the cheat likes the look of other people but they need to have someone to have a normal life with like children and a social status of not single.

smilelots · Answer

I have never cheated, but I know lots of people that have, and I don’t understand that but I think for the most part they are afraid to get out of the relationship that they’re in and start new and for some cheating is fun exciting some people don’t wanna lose what they already have, but want to have more than they should it’s not fair it’s not right, but there’s a good percentage of people that do that that’s too bad. If you’re not happy in a relationship you should move on it is As easy as that

Longshanks1968 · Answer

Sometimes it's not that the one is bad, it's more like the 2 are better.
They like to “have their cake and eat it too”

Sometimes they won't leave their partner cuz they don't want to have any monetary losses or possibly lose how secure they may feel.
Or be separated from their children.
Some people are trying to secure a new relationship before ending the old one cuz they don't like to be alone or that they are co-dependant.
I'm sure there are a million reasons but none of them are good.

Hanrej · Answer

Have the cake and eat it?

Relationships can carry a lot of benefits like shared expenses and helping eachother out during the days.

Then there's the whole "relationship trap" when you only realise after years together that the spark has died but now you have a house, maybe kids and family and friends whose expectations you take into account. In the end you decide that splitting up is just too much hassle to get your sexual needs saticefied.

On the contrary I don't understand why not more people cheat rather than split up.

Nightblade23 · Answer

Because they don't want to upset their significant other by dumping them for someone else so they cheat because they got bored of their significant other and don't want to hurt their feelings I've never cheated in my life but I've been cheated on a lot and guys tell me the same damn thing I would never cheat on someone as pretty as you but yet them do it anyway they just don't care

Meropatrick · Answer

People r greedy. We want everything. People want business and pleasure. They demand the quality partner and also the side guy or gal. Men want the good girl as a wife and the side chick who knows actually how to fuck. Women want the good husband the provider who is a financial winner. But want also the musclar hot guy. Its pure human greed and its very selfish

Anonymous · Answer

Its so stupid. I broke it off with my ex because I continually fantasized about being with someone else, which told me that the sexual chemistry between me and him just wasn't there anymore. I hated the idea of being single, but I hated the idea of being a cheater even more. Some people dont feel that way, and I think its a shame. It shows that you dont have respect for the other person.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because they are cowards and looking for someone else to save them because they are scared to admit that they were wrong , Cheating is a selfish act , selfish people only do what is best for them , they don’t care about other people’s feelings , so a cheater only cares about themselves. If someone is cheating on you , let the other person have them , they are doing
You a favor

Marklaw12 · Answer

Investment.

You've been together so long you benefit from each other and you won't want to lose that cos the people you are cheating with don't have those values. If they do, you will leave the relationship.

Also, it's about safety. What If the one you're cheating with suddenly dips and leaves you? You will have no where to go and will be a laughing stock but if you see have your partner, you always return like nothing happened

Kinkyhubby · Answer

I understood cheating while dating. Unless it because the other person is hotter, family has money or great connection.

Cheating while married, especially with kids brings in a whole new level, of why staying together. Maybe the sex life isn't there, but still loves their partner, kids mortgage, a lot of stress, ego's

ohmyguy · Answer

So times people enter them just till something better comes up.. or to get closer to a better prize.. this scenario socks if it goes good awhile n catches feeling.. while to other dips not dont miss a beat... in those cases best.. take it with a grain of salt... factor in pros n cons. that far... ride which ever you feel better about... keep in mind retaliation or revenge need not apply.. done that way its cut n dry

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Safety in secrecy. Unhappiness. Abuse. Horniness. Loneliness. Dissatisfaction. Growing apart. Envy. Jealousy.

Most of it falls under the umbrella of communication. I’ve been dinged with that one before because I didn’t want to hear the truth. So I never found it out. I ended a relationship with someone who otherwise made me happy. Self sabotage. It makes me feel stupid for enjoying that person’s company.

The_Smart_Engineer · Answer

Maybe they are afraid to do so…they are afraid of the reaction they will get and how to handle it

piang · Answer

in my opinion base on my previous relationship it depends on the person
and case. mine is he cheated and he doesn't want to 🔚end our relationship because he's scared to
be alone when the one he cheated is not successful. at least im still here kinda like that thinking. so i dont want to tolerate that because its damaging me.

TheorionMage · Answer

When I was growing up, we termed this 'monkey barring'... you remember what it took to GET your present companion and despite boredom setting in, you don't want to lose the circumstances you presently have access to, to leap into the unknown.

Mach40 · Answer

No morals..
Matthew 5:27-28 (NIV): "You have heard that it was said, 'You shall not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

Anemone978 · Answer

Because they are getting somethings fulfilled from their partner and getting other needs met by someone else.. I suppose it is a win win situation since even if you get caught you still have the side person :/

overthinkergirl · Answer

maybe they dont want do have a difficult conversation

lorenzomichael · Answer

Because you might be able to still borrow money from the one you cheated on. But if you end it, there's not a chance in Hell she'll lend you a fucking dime.

femalepretzelmaker · Answer

It's the rush they get by being so sneaky and having 2 partners instead of 1 and most of all they are very selfish and believe they can do much better than you

RavVid · Answer

Agree but sadly most people seem to take the immoral path of lining up the next stooge first.

kitty71 · Answer

I agree why they just dond end period. But I guess they also want part of the cake and eat it too

Billlewis · Answer

I think sometimes a woman needs to determine whether a guy she's cheating with is suitable for her to have a long term relationship with, before she leaves her current boyfriend.

True_Music48 · Answer

They stop caring about the other person so they don’t say anything. They just go with the new person. The relationship fades away and the person who’s cheating knows that so they know they don’t need to say anything

Alltheflowers84 · Answer

They also don't have the balls to end the relationship.

jojoiwiwbwjo · Answer

Because they love their partners still but the society that shelters these poor primates does not allow them to even initiate the polyamory debate without being judged...

Philyouup · Answer

because they’re emotional pussys in Kent deal with something as uncomfortable as breaking up with someone

Sasha0426 · Answer

If your partner leaves, that means they can’t have that power of hurting you. That’s the mind of a cheater. It’s all about power and manipulation.

Massageman · Answer

Maybe they figure they need a "plan B"?

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Some  jerks  and  bitches  do it for the  thrill  of it.

prakhindev92 · Answer

Spineless people tend to cheat instead of making a conversation about what they are lacking , and what do they want ,

Anonymous · Answer

Well for most men, ending relationship would be losong half their net worth

thegreenyogi · Answer

Because they want the best of both worlds and because cheating is easier than being honest with themselves first and then their partner I guess.

Bricealan · Answer

Well, I was on the 'cheating' side at one time, and did it because I wanted to 'have my cake and eat it too"

1millonlies · Answer

Sometimes it’s as simple as wanting their cake and to eat it too.

Ezra_lila · Answer

Yes I don't get it too. They want you exclusively but want some one for them on the other side.

Dede162000 · Answer

Bc they are scum that thrive on hurting people and getting away with it.

strawberrybaby3 · Answer

Because some people are selfish or scared to be alone.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not always that easy. What about kids? What if you're married and don't fancy losng half your shit and paying her for the privilege of not fucking her?

LivingExample · Answer

Cheating they can still hold on to the relationship if the other relationship does not work out!

Brady · Answer

I read men cheat 4 sex their not getting. I read women can do it 4 sex, but main reason is the attention their not getting from him. They want someone 2 make them feel they're attractiv.

Quigly · Answer

It's about being abusive to another person. Some people are insecure and insincere.  There's usually something mentally wrong with the cheater..

shades777 · Answer

because their scum of the earth, isk what do you think?

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