How long should you be with someone before saying I love you?

[Anonymous]

[D_Bone_Steak]

Long enough to know if you're saying it to someone with the mask still on or the person behind the mask. It takes at least 3 months just to get an idea of the person you're really dealing with... so you do the math beyond that point. I'm a trained interrogator and psychologist on the side. If you're some sort of super genius that can do it faster... great... not my problem because I'd rather take the standard amount of time to figure it out. The people that rush into it are the ones that feel fooled with good reason.

[HawkPerception]

There is no rule of thumb when it comes to this. You should say it when you feel it. But don't confuse love for infatuation. If you love someone, you would die for them, and genuinely love their character and all that they are. If you love someone it means it's hard to imagine a world without them. Don't take the words lightly.

[Anonymous]

There's no right or wrong time for when to say, "I love you.”

“The ancient Greeks had the idea that love was a God in the form of a blind baby.”

“Cupid is not just a baby with the common sense of a baby—meaning no sense at all—but a blind baby that randomly shoots arrows, and you can get shot at any moment.”

[Daniela1982]

At least a year. Don't rush into anything. You can't know a person in a couple of weeks, or even months. That is when they put on their best face. Then later you find out what a tosser they are, but maybe a bit too late.

[AI Opinion]

As your relationship coach extraordinaire on GAG, let me spice things up with some juicy love advice! 😘 There's no magic timeline when it comes to dropping the "L" bomb! It all depends on the connection, intensity of those butterflies, and how comfortable you both feel. Some fall head over heels in a month, others in six. Trust your gut, feel the vibe, and when it feels right, let it flow! Love isn't a science, darling, it's an art. 🎨💕

[Rosexøxø]

For me I said it as soon as I genuinely felt it. Let it be natural and show the person I was with (my now partner), that I wasn’t caught up in who said first deal.

BUT he and I aren’t the same in too many ways. We’re kind of an opposites attract couple.

So I would say for those going into relationships with a certain mindset or ideal, make sure you hold on saying I love you and putting yourself out there, until you notice he/she has met your set of standards that you have for yourself and that they have not crossed any of your lines- boundary lines. This will help both parties and yourself more so from avoiding any for sure would be toxic relationships or incompatible ones.

This is also more so for the she demographic party because in my opinion there’s not enough numbers of females being financially independent and stabilized enough to be making such risks, especially with the track record they’ve have with emotional outreach. Yk the wearing of heart on sleeve and it coming back to bite them in the butt, and show itself as runny make up and tears across the poor dears face. Since these reasons- I say ladies should really consider my words on the standards. If you’re some protected billionaire you can date however crazy you want as long as they don’t know about your money or are after that. But if you’re not a billionaire then you need to ave standards to keep you on a safe path. 👍

[ohsheeT]

There's 500 different types of love.. there is lust love . There's puppy love there's infatuation love..
There's a new experience love.
Unconditional love

You just have to figure out which love it is that you honestly feel

When people come into our lives and change our lives because you start doing new things experiencing new things they just open the doors for these new experiences everything that you feel inside is a feeling towards yourself because of the experience he's opening up the door for you to experience new things about yourself so you have to understand that too

We think it's that person and then around about way it is because he's bringing something new to your life a new experience and your experiencing yourself and it's a beautiful feeling you're the only person on the inside of you so you're the only person that can give you those feelings
But in time and it takes some time when that newness that infatuation kind of slows down and you get to know him from the inside out that's when you should say it I mean you can feel it right now you can say it right now but just make sure you know exactly what you're talking about when you do it I said do it when you feel it but you have to make sure it's the right type of Love first

So ask yourself or tell yourself I love this feeling that I get when I'm with him he makes me feel this beautiful love with inside and it makes me want to say I love you

[Djaay]

Dude... just cause different people describe many different variations of they're understanding of love doesn't mean each interpretation is a new form of love. There's only one (1 ) love.

[ohsheeT]

Cool

[AviatorTom]

There's no time limit. You say it when you feel it.

[Finchie40]

Until you know for a fact you truly love that person and that they mean the world to you

[Desconhecida]

There is no time frame for that. Love has its own rules which is no rules at all.

[Summeroflove]

Until you genuinely love the person

[MannMitAntworten]

Part of me wants to say to never say it. Not even after ‘she’ has because it seems like some sort of conquest by women to get us to say it then for her to change her mind and lose interest after men say it back. So what is the point of feeling the same? Men are better served by just saying, “I know” or “Sure you do.” … Or as I told a woman long ago, “I know. You’ will get over it soon.” Granted, I did not feel the same so it was my way of saying I did not feel the same. Which she caught the undertone as she would later share that, “You really do not love me, huh?” “No. I do not.” Being my response.


Anyway, I feel it is best not said by men at least as women never seem to stick around if we return the sentiment giving us the sense of it being said with insincerity when hearing it said to us anymore.

[texascollegegirl]

Depends on the relatonships. Some relationships, you can say it right away. I'm not into strict monogamy so I tell the most amazing hookups I'm with that even though we're not going to be together in a relationship, I love them. I mean it, too. The physical and emotional intimacy is strong enough to want to do anything for them. We put way too many boundaries on love, like it's a possession and only some people can have it. As far as I'm concerned, same with our bodies.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the situation... let me give you a couple of examples

With the asshole aka demi before she turned into a 100% asshole within the first 3-6 months I told her because that's how I felt

With sammie-jo same first 3-6 months (2001-2003)

Danielle 4-6 months (2024)

Addison about 4 years later (2020-2024)

Jill (the asshole demi's makeup artist) back in 2021 I knew I love her but when I tried telling her in 2022-2024 I kept deleting the message 🤣 because I didn't want to ruin the friendship and given she's still married I just couldn't bring myself to keeping the message on there without deleting it. Met Jill in (2018 - 2024)

And of course the asshole from 2017-2024

So timing it all varies and it all depends on how you feel about the person

There are others who I care for but wouldn't call love like Jennifer, nikki (Stephanie Nicole), trish, lexi, Christina, tori

[AshrafWest]

A psychology teacher once told me 60-90 days. Most infatuation ends around that time.


Also, from personal experience, sometimes you don’t mind things in a date at first, but after a few weeks it comes back and you can’t stand it anymore. It why after a few months people say their SO “changed”.


They didn’t change…. You just got beyond your initial idea of them, and now you know the real them.


That’s my answer, 6-8 weeks.

[Lliam]

When you are sure you want to marry them and spend the rest of your life with them. Everything else is just infatuation.
Love isn't just a feeling, it's a commitment.

[KrakenAttackin]

Well said sir.

[AvaRay]

I really respect your value of life sir,. I m sure your wife's your family ll be so grateful hving u in their life

U r really a blessing from God

[HungTexan]

There’s no right or wrong answer. I had been dating my wife about 6 months before I told her I loved her. I knew it before then, and we’d been having sex regularly, going out, having fun, etc.

At my age now, I wouldn’t wait as long.

[Nikki1989]

There's no single “right” answer to how long you should wait to say “I love you” in a relationship. When it feels right and is 100% genuine.

[slickrick6600]

Say it when that’s what you feel but not until then and not just because your partner said it whether it be a week or 6 months months.

[exitseven]

I do not know. I waited two years before saying it. I guess that was too long. Another time I said it after a few weeks. I think it freaked her out even though I really did love her.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Be with? As in dating?
The "I love you" should come before dating (but after being friends for a few years).

You date BECAUSE you love them, not to figure them out.

[lightbulb27]

2 seconds. why wait... could get hit by a truck and die.

[Keyboardkat]

Let me put it this way: You'll know when the time is right. You'll just know it.

[andreasderjuengere]

I always wait until I mean it, and when...

I can stand the schmaltzy feeling I get from saying it.

[Emmytexrex]

Close to a year or a year by then the rise colored glasses has come of your eyes for you to see the other person flaws and see if you can still love them

[CuriousKevin_]

I can’t remember if it was minutes or weeks but NDs work differently

[SleepingHazard]

That depends on how comfortable you feel about expressing yourself that way. It might take weeks, it might take years. Say it when you mean it.

[MysticDevice]

There's no set timeframe. Its when you feel it in your gut.

Not your heart and mind, your gut.

[NicholasRedone]

Some would say minutes lol 😆 I would say weeks / months

[Blueeyes81]

There is no time frame. But as a rule hold off a few months if you are one to blurt it after a week.

[Djaay]

Why do you modern women consistently talk about saying love to a man when women only love conditionally?

[Mrtcn01]

I can't say the time period but i can say some behaviour..

[LiamJHayden]

As long as it takes. Could be three dates could be three months.

[Staximus]

Supposed to say it when it feels right, not after a certain amount of time

[Anonymous]

Is this a serious question😆 And women wonder why men do not take them serious anymore.🤦‍♂️😆

[Anonymous]

Depends on how she looks. Sometimes it's instant. 😀

[Opinion Owner]

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[Peggee4U]

5 minutes or never... wait until you really do love them

[chrissykerdock]

until you feel it

[Alwayreckles93]

A year al least.

[virtualwasp]

i dont think its first date material 😂.

[Reymundo41]

Ted Mosby Architect told me first date

[Wise4myage]

At least several months.

[Anonymous]

Several months

[Anonymous]

No less than a month, no more than a year

[UrsulaY]

Love is felt not timed

[Iron_Man]

When you feel it for real in your heart

[Crazzyyworld]

10 years at least

[Godihateyou]

30 minutes. Any longer and you are ewrong

[SpaceGalaxy]

Once you feel like you are in-love

[Garud]

1-2 years.

[artic73]

I’d say a couple months

[Vasiliki90]

Say at least month or half of way their.

[molonski2]

Around 10 years.

[Miristheiss]

Six Months

[byrdman89]

Until you love them!

[AmeerX]

2 months is enough.

[jahaims]

No set time

[Joejay6]

A year

[boybb1202]

6 months to a year