If I don't have any guilt (none) for cheating nor other things, is something wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

I'll be turning 17 on Feb and have already cheated (by kissing someone else) on a HS boyfriend. It lead to a break-up but I didn't really care. Here is the issue; I really don't feel bad about it. I don't feel good nor bad, just indifference. Emptiness I guess is the word, just nothing.

That's not all though. I'm realizing that I don't feel bad about other things either. For instance if I were to help others it's usually to gain something in return; for an incentive. If I were to find someone else's valuable item, I would steal it and make a fortune out of it without feeling any guilt if the person becomes poor.

I really can't think of anything that makes me feel bad. Nothing breaks me. I can be literally stepping on someone's feet, making them cry but same thing. No reaction. I feel nothing. I have never cried nor felt grief on funerals either. In that regard, is something wrong with me?

[Summeroflove]

Yes it means that you lack serious empathy and remorse. At least you can see that you have a problem many people cannot see that.

Being a good person is a CHOICE that you have to make if you know cheating is wrong then you just shouldn’t make the choice to do it. If you don’t love someone you shouldn’t be with them or be upfront about how you feel.

[Asker]

yeah I can't think of a time I've ever felt any guilt of remorse, not even a bit. I never experienced those emotions before. I had a good upbringing though. I was never abused at home, never bullied nor neglected. Yet I came out differently. This means I was likely born like that.

[Summeroflove]

Well again let me tell you that…. Being a good person is a choice that you have to make. Pray and repent of the things you did wrong and ask God to help you.

Also seek professional help. Seeing you have a problem is only the first step.

[OlderAndWiser]

You know that you are doing things that are wrong and you have the ability to control your behavior. Don't do awful things and then say "I was just born like this." You have choices to make every day and you are responsible for your choices.

[PeachyPie93]

Were you ever hit as a kid? Did anyone ever beat you up? If not it is probably because you lived a privileged life where you were an only child and your parents spoiled you so now you have mental issues.. I suggest you see a psychiatrist.

[Asker]

I've never been beaten by anyone. To be honest, if I had been beaten, I would've turned out even worse than now. I think I was born with a different brain wire and don't really have the capacity to feel empathy. So I basically already likely have a disorder that has no cure but that's saving me from not turning into actual crimes is the fact I wasn't ever hit by my parents nor anyone. I was disconnected emotionally as a child but never really acted out violently, just no empathy.

[PeachyPie93]

I think if you ever went though any hardships it would have made you have empathy since you would want others to have empathy for you. Do you love your parents, if they died would you care? If not I suggest you go get help.. no one is born a murder they are made since all murders had issues in their childhoods and girls are less likely to be one.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, my aim is to help people understand emotions and actions. Your feelings of indifference and lack of guilt might suggest a struggle with empathy. This isn't necessarily "wrong," but it might indicate a disconnect from emotions others typically experience. Consider speaking with a professional who can help explore these feelings further. Remember, growth and understanding are always possible. Take care of yourself, and embrace this curiosity about your feelings. After all, self-awareness is a powerful step forward. 😊

[AnonAndrew]

Not feeling bad about the cheating is just healthy. Women are evolved to be with multiple men, so it's only natural for you to do that and not feel bad about it.

I'd worry about the rest, though. It sounds kinda psychopathic.

[Asker]

I was once described as an emotionally detached child when I was 6 years old. I guess I born differently. I'm reading there is no cure for that.

[AnonAndrew]

Maybe, maybe not. I wouldn't know. A psychiatrist might be able to advise you further.

[Anonymous]

The fact you know you're a shitty person and don't care... yeah, there's something wrong with you.

[Asker]

I think it's more than just a shitty person. I'm realizing I have little (if any) to no empathy.

[Opinion Owner]

People who have little to no empathy are shitty people, thus my comment.

[Asker]

Yet if I was really born like that, wired differently (an innate lack of empathy and at most I can mimic it but really can't feel it) then that's not my fault. That's biology making me differently from the rest of you that can feel it.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. You’rena paychopath/sociopath.

[Asker]

Then that means I was born like that right? I have never been abused at home, never been bullied at school nor ever neglected. I was raised in a stable home, married parents. I can't think of anything ever lacking at home. I always felt different.

[Asker]

In that case, there is no cure?

[Ariesman81]

You lack empathy.

[Asker]

Then there is really no how to cure it and make me feel like others do.

[Ariesman81]

Nope.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a sociopath.

[Asker]

Once in a while I do wonder what's it like to feel guilt, empathy, remorse like others do. I read there is no cure for it so I guess I'll never feel it.