I don't feel bad about the cheating, is that bad?

[Anonymous]

It was my parents that pressured me into dating this wealthy business owner's son. I was secretly with a boyfriend whom I do care about but my parents would hate because he's Asian.

I'll refer to the fake boyfriend is Alex and my real boyfriend (whom Alex caught me cheating with) is Chung. My boyfriend Chung is aware of the situation and we both decided to make it so obvious. I wasn't even trying to hide my tracks by then. I wanted to be caught badly to get out of the situation with someone I don't want, nor desire.

Obviously Alex never knew that I was only with him out of pressure and he really thought I was for with him for real. He caught us making out and was hurt. I don't feel bad though. Is that bad? I didn't apologize at all, nope. He asked why.

This was my reply:

I never wanted a relationship with you. My parents pressured me to date you. Bye now. Bye.

Updates

1 mo

Dating Alex felt like dating a stranger, whom you want to get away from. I really felt no attraction nor feelings for him.

[Drew-1990]

I agree it's wrong you were pressured into dating "Alex" but I still think it's wrong what you did to him. He personally didn't do anything wrong from the sounds of it, you just hurt him when it's your parents that were in the wrong not him.

[Asker]

It's not like my parents adore Alex as a person and his qualities. They like him ok... but they were after his wealth mainly. That's all they ever think about; they wanted me to get into a relationship with a wealthy, to get marry to one. It's them that are horrible.

[Drew-1990]

I would agree, I'm not defending them, but I still think you were in the wrong how you ended up hurting Alex. I don't know him or anything but if he didn't realize any of this it obviously felt like a betrayal to him. It's fine that you are not interested in him that way but that was still horrible thing to do to him.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yes it's bad cause it shows lack of empathy for someone else's emotions, the only difference from you and any other cheater is the in common circumstance, you are still a cheater, still unloyal and it will be stuck to you til you die and you'll possibly be remembered for that from some

[ChicoFromThe305]

Uncommon circumstance*

[Asker]

But I was practically forced to date someone I didn't even like, never wanted. Yes true, he didn't do anything bad and tried to be a good boyfriend but it was suffocating for me.

[ChicoFromThe305]

You should've broken up with him without your parents approval, at that point you make a irreversible decision and force your parents to stop trying to control who you date, you think the new guy is going to want you when he finds out you cheated on someone else with him? I doubt it

[Anonymous]

regardless of wealth status, alex is still a human being with feelings. he didn't deserve that. you should have just told him the truth. since you were going to do this anyways.

[Ssierra]

Alex seems like a nice guy that was oblivious with what’s going on. It would be a nice courtesy to at least let him know before hand that you’re already dating someone.

[Asker]

yeah it would've been but it's like I felt trapped

[Billlewis]

Oh my goodness, no, ma'am. By any chance are you looking for a new guy to do this to? ❤️

[Asker]

I was being pressured by my own parents. It was partially their fault that I found myself in that mess.

[Asker]

Alex was like dating a stranger. I wanted to get out of the situation. How would you feel being pressured or forced to date someone you never wanted to? That's awful.

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am, I understand. If you'd like to chat briefly about this, I'd love to hear your story in greater detail;)

[Billlewis]

No, I wouldn't like that, either.

[patrick994]

Your reaction was normal, your parents should not meddle in your relationships.

[Asker]

yeah. If anything, dumping that wealthy man (whom I was miserable with) over my average hardworking boyfriend is already showing I don't care about status. Sadly that's all my parents would ever talk about, the day their daughter marries a wealthy man. I never wanted to be part of the plot. I didn't even select Alex; my parents did when practically getting forced to do our introduction.

[patrick994]

the fact that you don't care about status is a good thing, but I don't understand why your parents insist on choosing a partner for you, I could understand this many years ago, but not now.

[Asker]

they supposedly want the best for me but if I'm not happy then obviously it isn't the best for me. They would've been probably brag about how their daughter married a wealthy man and how my child is beautiful due to him being very tall, with light brown hair and blue eyes. My parents are golddiggers.

[Asker]

They don't like my Asian boyfriend and keep saying how I've ruined my chance, how I've ruined them their chance of having a beautiful grandchild. Unbelievable.

[SolitarySolace]

I’m sure you’re not the only woman who doesn’t feel bad about cheating.

[Asker]

But I never wanted to date that guy. I was practically forced to by my parents. I didn't even like him. That's how bad I wanted to get out of that situation. If I wanted to get caught cheating it's because I was desperate already.

[jahaims]

Duh..

[Asker]

I have anger towards my parents too. They literally did the introduction back then, made me date him (I was still 17 at the time). I never even chose him. They chose him for me.

[OtterMan68]

yes, it's very bad

[Asker]

True. Yet I had no feelings for that guy. I didn't even like him physically either. I wasn't attracted to him. It was like dating a stranger. My parents practically forced me to date him because they were doing it for his wealth.