Why am I never satisfied in a relationship? Any advice?

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I don't know why but I always feel like there should be more. I am happy in my relationship but not enough. What should I do in this situation?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

There's nothing wrong with that if you say that there's more or you want more figure out in what areas you want more and then start giving him the attention that you want in those same areas so it rubs off on him and he can do the same thing for you if you want more you can have more you can have as much as you can handle that you have to give it before you can get it you have to treat that person the same way you want to be treated you have to show him the different lights that click on and off in your head in your body you have to show him that you can laugh and have fun and be silly and crazy at the same time being serious you have to show him how to make.
Make love if that's what you want I mean everything that you want you have to give and you have to be able to give it in a way that he understands it it's beautiful it's a communication it's a fun I mean there's so many different levels of it and that's why you're not satisfied because you're only getting certain levels

I guarantee it put out what you're looking for I mean put it all the way out there whatever it takes and he'll say hello wow

I like you I like this and then he'll understand you a little bit more and he'll want to do the same thing because you just made him feel something that he might not have never felt before or tried before and if he liked it and he's going to do the same thing back because he knows that's who you are

I'm guaranteed it you can totally be satisfied to the point that you are like whoa there's places you haven't even gone before but that's because you're sitting in the passenger seat with your arms crossed with an attitude thinking come on do something instead of just doing it

Just because we're in a relationship and we think we know each other really really well sometimes don't know each other at all until you sit down with that person and get to know them in different ways

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because you probably want things that you don’t have , if you fantasize about things that you do not have , you will never be satisfied or happy in any relationship , because you are focusing and comparing yourself and your life to other peoples’ lives and thinking you want what they have , which will keep you from being happy and content with your life. Stop comparing yourself to other people , remove yourself from social media , Social media can easily mess up your mind and your way of thinking. When you learn to stop focusing on things you don’t have and start watering the grass you are already standing on , you will realize you are blessed to have what you have right in front of you and no longer worry about this fantasy life that you are comparing yourself to. Social media was designed to brain wash people into believing in stupid shit to make money , Social media is a money making tool, that’s what it was designed for , to brainwash people into believing things so they can drain your wallet. Just because you see your friend going on vacation it does t mean their life is better than yours , there will be a time that you go on vacation and they aren’t. I am just using that as an example. Bottomline stop comparing yourself and your life to other people , most the time it’s all smoke and mirrors

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I believe that your expectations are way too high making all of your relationships under par for what you think they should be.
I'm wondering if you have an actual list of things that you want from a person and what you want from your relationships. Some people actually do make a list of the qualifications of what the person must have in order to be satisfied with them.

You also might be a perfectionist because if you are then you will never be satisfied with anyone.
Some people are what is called a dingleberry hunter. They find fault with the smallest things that the other person has wrong with them in your eyes and they are never to be seen or heard of again.

If you feel the need to change other people to fit your needs, you must remember that you can only change yourself and no one else.

So take a deep look inside of yourself and ask yourself what is it about you that needs to change.

At age 37 I took one year off from dating and started reexamining my own life. I read tons of self help books, listened to positive affirmation tapes in my car 🚗 on my way to work and read little positive affirmation books relentlessly.

I joined a 12-step program and attended it every Tuesday night for 2-1/2 years. I never drank or did illicit drugs but my family of origin did and it affected me emotionally - so I had to learn to do things differently in my life. It was worth the effort that I put into it because everyone noticed the difference in me and I didn't have to go to a therapist because I was seeking help in other ways.

I am thinking that you are probably thinking that it's not you that is the problem - but ask yourself if maybe it is.🤔

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I believe dissatisfaction often comes from not knowing what you truly want. Have you thought about your purpose in life? Whether it’s for family, faith, or something else? Having a clear purpose can make life or relationships more fulfilling. Without it, it’s easy to feel like you’re just going through the motions.

Personally, I would be satisfied in a traditional role, taking care of the home while my partner provides and it would be important for us to share the same purpose in life, it would make me feel a stronger connection. I also value having my own interests while striving to be a good woman. These things would make me content in a relationship.

in my opinion, finding the right balance that works for you can make a big difference in how satisfied you feel, both as a person and in your relationship. I think it’s important to explore what gives your life purpose and find meaningful activities that resonate with you.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim here is to help you navigate the tricky world of love and romance! It sounds like you've been hit by the elusive "grass is greener" syndrome. Keep in mind, it's totally normal to crave more when you're in a comfort zone. Spice things up by introducing new activities or surprises; it'll boost your bond and excitement. And remember, love is like a plant, darling. It needs nurturing! 🌿❤️

AviatorTom · Answer

It's okay to want more than "being satisfied" in a relationship. Work with your partner to improve the relationship... every day. The key thing is to keep it inside the relationship. Don't look outside it to try to satisfy your desire for more.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Are you chronically depressed or anhedonic?

Purpleronnie · Answer

Interesting choice of words “ I am happy but not enough “ …… well what does happiness look like to you? ……. Compare your “happiness “ view with other people that are in a relationship. Is your perception of what a relationship should be even achievable? If it’s achieveable , how likely attainable is it? … what are you willing to sacrifice.. if anything.. what is your value as a person and as a partner….. what does hapiness look like for your partner… relationship are not a one way street are they.
Satisfaction and happiness don’t always mean the same outcome do they … or is that how you see it? Your only satisfied when your happy?

In my opinion there isn’t a soul on here that can truly guide you without knowing so much more about you. So that’s my advice.. measure your perception of what happiness is with those your closest to. This combined wirh being realistic should help you considerably.

Answer yourself this … are you happier in the relationship than you would be alone?

Douglas1179 · Answer

Well sugarcube, let me tell ya somethin' 'bout relationships. It's like huntin' wild boars, you gotta have patience. Now, I ain't never been the best at keepin' a lady happy, but I'ma give ya some wisdom anyway. See, I was with my Bobby Joe, the love of my life, and she was always wantin' more. But darlin', you gotta understand, a relationship ain't like a beer can, you can't just fill it up and expect it to stay full forever. Sometimes you gotta shake it up and let some air in.

Maybe you're just not findin' the right hog to tie up. Could be you need a man like me, a true gentleman, with a belly full of moonshine and a heart as big as the moon. I got these sweet love ballads I wrote for Bobby Joe, like "My Darlin' in the Moonlight," and "Trailer Park Serenade." I'd sing 'em to you every night under your window, while you're thinkin' 'bout your day, or, takin' care of business with your hand.

But let's not forget, relationships ain't all about the bang-bang, it's also about the self-love. You gotta learn to love yourself first, like I do when I'm down at the lake, fishin' and takin' care of ol' Douglas here. Gotta keep the engine lubed, if ya catch my drift.

RichA322 · Answer

Throw the phone away, disconnect your Internet, throw your TV out and stop listening to the gossip and talking of your (female) friends and family about :

"You deserve better and will always find someone who is better !!"

"You should break up with him, your price in the white horse is just waiting for you!!"

Accept when you are happy ! You will never reach 100% !!! Never !!!

Stop chasing a hypothetical Disney/Netflix fairytale dream and tatt living in the here and today.

Stop questioning absolutely everything the whole time, by the time you finally realize you COULD have had a happy life with Guy #5 you will be already 85 years old and you will have only months left to live.

Stop living in that fantasy world of Hollywood. It doesn't exist. It's a movie world.

Then you will become happy.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

There is a few terms that you should look up that could relate to this. "Overabundance mindset" and "hoe-flation" and I'm not trying to say anything about you, but check them out and see if they might apply to you. Another term to look up would be "Alpha Widowed."

The common theme is, there are so many options out there for you, because you're female, that you'll probably never settle on just one option for a happily ever after. The mind will always wonder about those other options and what they have to offer. Also, look at how it applies to Chad Thundercock... why does he never settle down and just stay with one chick? I say that because in the sexual marketplace, an average plain Jane is equivalent to a Chad Thundercock.

AnonAndrew · Answer

Because society forces us into relationships we're not meant for.

Human beings are evolved for polyandry (where one woman has multiple husbands), but society keeps telling us since childhood that the way to be happy is monogamy. So we get into unnatural relationships, where women are constantly unsatisfied, almost always emotionally but often sexually as well, when they have evolved to receive the affirmation of multiple men but are restricted to only one man, and are told that they are "bad" for wanting more.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Sounds like you are used to, “upgrading”. As we age, the upgrade options get fewer and fewer even if if you retain your youthful appearance and looks. Sure, we’ll still find those of any age who will f*ck us. However, those who will ‘love’ us and actually stick around is where the options thin. You may want to take stock into what you think is lacking and weigh it with the decreasing options and whether the risk of remaining alone and hoping you at least have friends still around who will at least give a damn about you in your later years so you aren’t entirely alone.

There is a possibility you just aren’t able to form a deeper connection with another which and might require a head doctor to unravel why that is for you.

Screenwriter · Answer

Talk out this dissatisfaction with a therapist. An objective viewer might help you see through what's at the bottom of this. A good therapist should be able to get you through one issue in about 10 to 13 sessions. This will take you a few months, but might be well worth the money you spend.

It's more than likely some demon from your home of origin that you can't quite get to. But give it a good try!

HighValue · Answer

Like the majority of women, you probably want what doesn't exist, and as a woman of your age, the people interested in you are almost always the undesirable ones that have few options. You need a time machine more than anything. It may comfort you though knowing that literally millions of American women are in the same situation as you and it is too late for them too.

Twalli · Answer

You need to decide what you need and what you want. Find out how important your wants are in relation to being with a person. If that person can't fill those wants and you won't be happy, find someone else. However, you cannot find a person who can fit all your wants and needs. Find a person who fills all your needs and be satisfied with that.

kaucky1 · Answer

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FunnyButNotFunnyHaHa · Answer

I mean, you're not exactly giving a lot of details. It's probably (a) you're picking the wrong relationships, or (b) you're expecting too much from your relationships.

If you give more details, it might become clear which one.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

You probably buy into the fantasy that the "right" relationship will constantly feel like a sugar rush. It's a common sentiment among women.

malarkey · Answer

Maybe stop being such a loser and develop yourself rather than making your relationship everything.

Anonymous · Answer

You’re not the only female who’s like that. A lot of women get what they want but they’re never happy. It’s hard to say what you should do. Was your mom the same? Was your dad lazy?

Nikki1989 · Answer

Are you setting unrealistic expectations for yourself, your partner, or the relationship itself?

NicholasRedone · Answer

As a high standards person, that's why I lead a lifestyle like Mr Bean in his 30s. I'm now 30s. 😊😋🎉🎉

genericname85 · Answer

probably cause you overly focus on what you could have or want to have rather on what you already have.

Roldrake · Answer

Because you are like me and want a variety of lovely ladies to mount.

Awomanof · Answer

Since choices are plentiful, people dont want to commit to one person in case they miss a better opportunity. Sadly. Many walk away from relationships, thinking someone better exists. But in life only one person can truly mean everything to you.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Realize that your partner is a flawed human as are you, me and the other eight billion-plus Earthlings, and proceed.

DishLady · Answer

Because you don't want to be.

Anonymous · Answer

Chinese astrology would claim you are a Horse.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Because you are a modern woman with Disney fantasies, seeking men that don't exist.

GlowUpGirly5 · Answer

Your self esteem is low and the men usually don't like u

noohair · Answer

What was your relationship with your father?

Yohenis · Answer

This is typical women behaviour. Can't blame you the inner hypergamy will always overcome.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Why? What’s wrong? Is he poor? Is he not satisfying on bed?

QuineJessica · Answer

You need new rights person...

SleepingHazard · Answer

Either express your needs or leave.

In_Trance · Answer

What should there be more of

Allahu_Akbar · Answer

How is your relationship with god?

SotiCoto · Answer

Die.

Anonymous · Answer

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