Is my girlfriend a good partner?

[Anonymous]

I want to get feedback on my partner:

- She’s not keen on me seeing friends, for my safety and would rather I met them with her. She also uses the find my iPhone feature with me.
- She messages me and phones various times per day, and gets frustrated if I don’t reply quickly, she says it’s to check I’m ok,
- She tracks my spending on her, to check we’re in budget. Even if I a buy a coffee she’s brings it up and asks why I bought it.
- She’s says if I don’t spend $$ on her birthday present I don’t love her. Also said her birthday needs to be “perfect” with hundreds of balloons etc and fancy cake.
- She doesn’t like me having a female friend at work, has told me to stop going to lunch with her. Said it’s to ensure I don’t “cheat”. She messaged my friend at work on Facebook to ask about me.
- My partner doesn’t like me following other girls on social media even friends.
- She told me I can’t have anyone better than her.

Is she a good partner? I’m really conflicted as this is my first relationship. My female friend said there is red flags everywhere, is she right?

Yes

No

[lightbulb27]

withheld opinion. what did you do to her?

Most of that is ok, within reason. But it's extreme. So she is hurting, insecure and controlling.

I htink the ansewr is you don't want to be with someone like that long term. But if it is a symptom of other relationship mistakes, like not prioritizing her, understanding her, etc.. then maybe understandible.

I had rought time with my wife for a while, but we worked through it to where is very good now. Similar issues, not that extreme.

It sounds like she doesn't trust you... and is it possible... she is right? That you don't know your own flaws?

[Finchie40]

If you like being controlled and told what to do , then she is the girl for you , if
You don’t like being controlled kick her to the curb

[DishLady]

Either she's a control freak OR she knows you're not very mindful of how you spend your own time/money so she does all this out of some sense of "helping" you. I have a friend who is on the spectrum and so his wife DOES take on this sort of task to keep him on track. She also has some kind of gadget that rings if his heart rate goes up too high. They're older, though, so I presume you're a healthy young man and your gal is a bit "extra"...

[Anonymous]

All of these are red flags except the female work friend. There’s no reason you should make new friends of the opposite gender when you’re in a relationship and it’s even worse when it’s someone you see every day like a workmate. So many people fall in love with and/or cheat with colleague. The rest are red flag and signs of her isolating you and showing controlling behaviour. You should leave her.

[AI Opinion]

As your friendly neighborhood relationship expert, my goal is to help you navigate the complex world of love and relationships. 🚀 From what you've shared, your girlfriend's behavior definitely raises *red flags*. Her need to monitor and control various aspects of your life can signal possessiveness and trust issues, which aren't the healthiest foundation for a relationship. You deserve a partner who trusts and supports your independence rather than one who makes you feel restricted. ❤️ Relationships should be about mutual respect and trust, not surveillance and control. I'd say have a genuine chat about your concerns or consider seeking relationship counseling to address these issues. Keep being amazing, my friend! 😎

[Red_Arrow]

Your poll has to answer is she a good friend and are there red flags everywhere. Impossible for either answer to cover both situations.

I will say simply, run as fast as you can. You should have done that long ago.

[Sevenpointfive]

do you even know what the color red looks like? i'm going to allow the possibility you are colorblind.

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Sevenpointfive]

that's exactly what i mean

[Unit1]

What? That is unacceptable. Your girlfriend is strongly resembling a money hungry yandere.

I would escape immediately.

[red-lipstick-girl]

I think she is crazy because no one is perfect, how can she think she is perfect and interfere in your social life too much, I am jealous too but I never cross my line

[biraileeşkadını]

"Shame on you; if you are exposing your woman and questioning her in front of others, you have not truly loved her."

[PeachyPie93]

Seems a little bit too controlling..

[Nikki1989]

She sounds way too controlling.

[Abbycado]

In a word, no.

[dudeinohio]

She is a control freak and emotionally abusive.

[beefcakebradybatson]

BOOT THE BROAD !!!