Should cheating be a crime?

[Anonymous]

[ProbablyClueless]

No. But sabotaging someone's relationship should be. It was called "spousal alienation" for a while, and it was very much illegal. I'm not sure if it still is though. It should be illegal. People who feel like they're losing their life partners can be driven to do some really terrifying stuff because they don't feel like they have anything more to lose.

I'm not a violent guy and I'll never advocate for hurting someone. But there are certain types of people the world would be better off without. The kinds of people who would intentionally go out of their way to destroy someone else's marriage and social relationships absolutely fall into that category for me. Especially the people who do it because "it's fun."

You have to be a special kind of turd to think it was okay to mess with someone's head like that. And there are countless stories of people doing things like that and the absolutely insane amount of damage that happens as a result.

People who feel like they have nothing to lose are extremely fucking dangerous people. Do not EVER mess with that. Seriously.

[Ladsin2]

Interesting question. Never really thought about it. I don't like infidelity. I think it's immoral. Should it be illegal though. My original thought was no, because I couldn't think of a way to really enforce it. How do you determine if someone is cheating? Are police going to investigate it? Then I thought that it may make sense to make it illegal in the same vein as "fighting words". If I were married and my spouse cheated on me, I could see doing some very violent things. I think it's the expected outcome of discovering the cheating. Should I then be punished for acting in a way that everyone knows is likely in that situation? Yeah, I probably still should be. Should the person who did the thing to put me into the situation where a reasonable person would be likely to be violent also be culpable? I don't see why not. It's like putting a child on the train tracks and acting surprised when a train runs them over. Sure, you didn't kill the kid, but you're certainly somewhat culpable.

I'll have to think over it some more.

[Puppystarfish23]

Yes I actually think so depending on the situation. I think if the partner did nothing wrong to deserve being cheated on the person who cheated should pay a fine and only if they are married because that other person has wasted there time and money on a relationship with someone who didn't respect them. That person may have moved to another town/country to be with that person and given up opportunities and time with loved ones for that person to just disrespect that.

People should take marriage more seriously and if they don't feel in love with that person anymore they should do the right thing and be up front about it.

I hate cheats and I've seen how it ruins life's and families especially the children. It's better to be divorced than to live a lie

[SofaKingsMart]

Perhaps the government should regulate everything in life.
If they picked your spouse for you, maybe they would be better at match making. Leaving us to our own to make that choice is not working well when you consider the divorce rate and all the broken families that go along with it.
Tell you how many kids you should have? Where you can live and work?
People make crappy choices all the time that results in their undoing.
Hell, they should even pick the ring for you too, just to make sure you don’t overspend.

Sounds euphoric, don’t it?

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to spice up your relationship queries on Girls Ask Guys! So, let's dive into this juicy topic! Making cheating a crime is quite the heated debate. While deceit in love can shatter hearts, turning it into a criminal offense might be a stretch. Legal systems usually handle tangible harms, not emotional ones. Cheating is a red flag that hints at deeper relationship issues. Instead of legal action, focusing on understanding, communication, or even moving on might be the way to go. Remember, love can be complex and not all crimes need cuffs! 😜💔

[MikeTheBartender]

Amy isn't gonna go to jail brad.

[fartingspinster]

There is such a thing as "emotional harm/damage" that people can appeal in a court of law. So it's possible to use the legal system and claim emotional harms.
Not the primary reason obviously. But say the way someone cheats damages their credibility in a business - there will be financial loss. Cheating causes ramifications on so many planes (financial, emotional, familial). It's a horrible thing

[Finchie40]

There would be a lot of people in jail if that was the case lol but I agree there should be some sort of fine or punishment for cheating especially with married couples. They should have a site like Megan’s Law for cheaters , so people can see who’s a cheater or not lol

[Summeroflove]

In sone states and other countries as well as in the military it is

[EzraIsShy76028]

Probably not. Cheating is more along the lines of being an asshole and a traitor rather than a literal crime you could go to jail for. Like it's wrong for someone (anyone, not just romantic partners) to use you for their benefit and pretend to care about you when they don't, but it's different from like stealing or doing illegal druges, and much, much different from rape, murder, or pedophilia.

Lots of people are assholes in different ways every single day, but we can't just arrest all those assholes just like that, lol. If that was the case we'd arrest like every single teenager or child ever cuz people who are extremely young can be assholes.

[Ladsin2]

The punishment for treason (being a traitor) is execution. Do you mean like being a traitorous friend?

[EzraIsShy76028]

@Ladsin2 Ah yes. That's exactly it, a traitorous friend, lol. I should've been more specific, haha.

[Asker]

Maybe not arrest them but add them to public registries where people can see that they're a cheater.

[Asker]

The interjections with your "lol" is condescending not sure if that was intentional or not

[Asker]

Someone who marries and builds a life and has children with someone who was cheating on them the whole time is simply just "being an asshole" and the victim should just shut up and move and because that level of cheating is the same as name calling in your eyes?

[Asker]

Should fraud no longer be a crime since that's simply "just being an asshole"?

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes, cheating shiuld be illegal, because of the STD risk, you should need to break up before doing anything with another person. Or more accurately, if a person cheats, they get nothing in a divorce, they lose custody of any kids, and if they spread an STD, they are forced to pay a lifetime of substantial monetary compensation to the victim after a set amount of jailtime.

Or rather that would be the ideal, but in reality the government should stay out of the bedroom, because the power needed to pull off that sort of regulation, would be too easily abused.

So no, it should not be illegal. But society should shun you for it.

[Asker]

Society shunning people does absolutely nothing. The most powerful and prominent people are the ones who do crap like this.

If we want the government out of the bedroom, even though relationships exist outside of it as well, fine, what's the alternative?

[TheSpaceGnome]

I disagree that shunning people does nothing. To be clear, shunning isn't just calling someone out.

its having the community as a whole exclude you. Want to cheat? fine. Never get laid safely again, never have friends eho dont also cheat again, no one will want to bother with you aside from illegal hookers that likely are carrying STDs and other cheaters.

Natural consequence works when its shoved in their faces from a general public common sense point of view.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Also, its not an alternative per say, no gov has the man power to actually enforce regulations on the relationships of that many people. So its not really possible for a gov to do anything about cheating.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Technicslly though, it would be impossible in most cases for a community or a gov to verify a person cheated unless it resulted in a child that was DNA tested, even video and audio footage is fakeable now.

[TheSpaceGnome]

So really only some cheaters would get ostrasized, and the problem would remain unsolvable as a whole.

[Asker]

Why not just make it legal to deny cheaters human autonomy? Instead of arresting them, give them 0 protection and actions taken against them aren't considered crimes.

Many many many many rich powerful people have cheated, explain how that's possible by being shunned? Are you saying they're being punished and them becoming rich and celebrities is what the punishment looks like? Give clear real life examples because you're defending the status quo and shitting on me for challenging it

[TheSpaceGnome]

"Why not just make it legal to deny cheaters human autonomy? Instead of arresting them, give them 0 protection and actions taken against them aren't considered crimes."

For the same reason you dont give a convicted murderer the electric chair anymore.
They could be proven innocent years later as evidence surfaces.

Also for the reason I already mentioned, in that in most cases it would be impossible for a gov or community to verify if someone actually cheated and isn't just being slandered, with the only exception being certain situations where a DNA test proved a baby was conceved by x person at x time when one of the parents had another sexual partner. You would also need to prove that it wasn't a surrogate or sperm clinic donation though, and good look luck with that.

Do you understand how lethally dangerous to its citizens a survellence state would need to be to circumvent all of that? it would make the empire from star wars look tame. Or that said state could deepfake evidence on anyone who disagrees with them, or that there would need to be billions of people in the gov to enforce it.

Its pure fantasy yo expect what you are suggesting.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Actually by wanting that level of regulation, you are defending the status quo.

[Asker]

You're literally saying all crime should be legal because it's not 100% to convict them.

The same arguments you're using against making cheating illegal, can be used for literally every crime.

You're pro shunning people from society and denying them public services, but you don't care about the percentage chances then? Why do you support shunning if you're dmso concerned about the chances of them not being a cheater? It doesn't make sense

[TheSpaceGnome]

I'd reccomend re-reading what I said and thinking about it more clearly so you can reply with something that isn't absurd.

Practical laws =/= no laws

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't have the patience for this anymore, if you are going to interpret everything incorrectly, make outlandish claims, or give improper allegory, then don't bother replying. I will just delete your replies. My last comment clears up your confusion, use your head if its not immediately obvious why, this conversation is over.

[Crazzyyworld]

I am torn. My dad cheats but my brother don’t. I think they are just born that way nothing to do with their intention. I mean everyone wants to cheat. I heard of white wives cheating like crazy. It’s like competition to cheat against mens world. They feel thrilled to cheat over men? I mean.. we are stranger anyway. My mom told me she feel like a stranger. And yet she is divorced because of her children. I heard that open relationship doesn’t work either. One side get jealousy all the time. So it’s like you can’t be with your partner but you can’t be separated either kind of relationship? I don’t know what to think..

[Crazzyyworld]

I mean she is not divorced

[AReyMarz]

Life is what you make it. Know what you want and go for it.

[Crazzyyworld]

so if I want to become a billionaire its ok to steal, and rob poor people's money?

[fartingspinster]

I'd like to see it criminalized, buuuuut do that and the rich/powerful will get away with it or be super sneaky about it while the poor/people not in powerful positions will be found guilty.
So i dont think it's the answer, but some sort or justice would be nice for the victims.

Cheaters are the worst, and they get away with it and most dont really learn because there isn't really a whole lot of societal or financial consequences.

[Anonymous]

If it is cheating on your spouse and it has a negative effect on the partner & the children then there should be a divorce enacted. Nothing else.

If it is boyfriend & girlfriend situation, just breakup and move on. It is good because you know their true intentions and they will never change, which allows your heart to find the one who actually loves you instead of that bastard.

[Asker]

You're not answering the question. The question is if it should be a crime, if not why?

[Opinion Owner]

No it shouldn’t be a crime, hurting someone’s feelings isn’t justification for a crime in my opinion.
IF it were a crime I would say automatic divorce in court of law while boyfriend / girlfriend would be moving on.

[Asker]

Trauma =\= hurting someone's feelings but I should have expected this site to be full of people who think trauma is a myth.

[natured]

No, le it be the way it is, because if someone is forcefully loyal to you that will not make them a better person either... So this way, you know you will get rid of that person and be happy on your own...

[Asker]

Is that your opinion of all sexual and mental abuse? It is what it is?

[VyacheslavSokolov]

Yes because the cheater can give you an STD and that could kill you or give you serious health problems. They should at least have to pay for your medical treatment.

[Lokiion]

Just wanted to say I fuck with the Vagabond pfp

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Adultery is recognized as a crime in multiple states and nations, but prosecution for such acts is rare and normally more relates to the court cases following the divorce documents.

[Asker]

Obviously the spirit of the question is about whether it should be taken seriously as a crime in the sense of it being prosecuted. But thanks for playing semantic word games and acting like a snobby stuck up know it all. Why even comment if you don't care to engage? Like do you people get off on this post ironic snobby attitude?

It's fucking disgusting, I ask a simple ass question you guys do all these mental gymnastics to be assholes about it to malign and attack the asker.

[Asker]

The follow up is should it be prosecuted more, but you know that you're just choosing to be obtuse and an asshole.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It is prosecuted, rare doesn’t mean never

[Asker]

What's the jail sentence

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Depends on the state and the judge in charge of sentencing

[Asker]

This is like pulling teeth I'm being clear in what I'm asking and you're playing hide the ball. List examples

[Asker]

It's like asking someone to explain addition and they say "depends on the numbers" and thinking that's a great explanation that teaches someone how to add. You're behaving like a stochastic troll.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Lmao it’s not my responsibility to tell you anything. If you don’t like me pointing out how you’re already correct, that sounds like a you problem

[Asker]

You sound a stupid white troll

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

And you’re pointlessly angry at someone who doesn’t matter lol

[Asker]

You're a dumb trump supporter lol

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Come on, let’s be real here. Despite it being categorized as a criminal act, why do you think it’s so rarely prosecuted?

[Asker]

Because of misogynistic bureaucrats, the patriarchy, the fact that most elected officials are cheaters as well.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

But they don’t have any influence over whether or not someone is charged with it. The person who suffers as a result of their adultery, their spouse, has that power. Not the judge, or governor. If it’s a crime in that state, why do you think a majority of spouses choose not to press charges?

[Asker]

Women are usually the victim, and the legal process is unfair to women and they don't serve justice. Same reason women rarely ever report sexual abuse because cops and courts are brutally misogynistic.

[Asker]

If it's a crime it's supposed to go to a grand jury, but there is so much obstruction due to misogyny

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I wouldn’t say it’s unfair to give women the power to send their cheating spouses into the legal system and put them in said system if their spouse is unable to pay his way out

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

When you are charged as an adult, that follows you for life. Even having a record of small crimes is enough to get you to lose your job

[Asker]

So then men can just not commit a crime? If the system takes sexual abuse seriously it would happen less. Same with cheating

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I don’t think you’re getting what I’m saying: the women, or any victim spouses of adultery, are the ones that choose whether or not to go forward with a criminal charge, not the state.

[Asker]

Yes, and you're failing to realize that most women do not come forward due to system sexism prepetuated by society and the state. Women who speak up about any abuse they suffer get brutalized by society and the legal system does nothing

[Asker]

Using your logic, should rape not be a crime because most rape victims don't come forward and report it?

[OneViewpoint]

Good luck trying to enforce anti cheating laws. What's the big deal? If it's not working, it's already over. Cheating is just the confirmation that it needed to end.

[Asker]

Spoken like a liberal cheater

[Asker]

Good luck in hell

[OneViewpoint]

Spoken like a conservative afraid he can’t hold onto his woman. Does it get old living in fear of everything your whole life?

[Asker]

I'm a leftist and gay.

[Asker]

Yes I'm afraid of assholes like you and conservatives always trying to attack people like me and commit genocide

[Asker]

It is tiring being attacked over and over by people like you

[Dongie]

@asker

😂🎩

[Asker]

See look another bigot for you to laugh at the gay guy with. You guys gang up to abuse us

[Dongie]

I'm laughing at him with you.

[Asker]

Oh sorry

[Dongie]

It's cool.

[fish5505_87]

Sorry, I thought you asked for an opinion, the person above, gave one. That's it, nothing more. You can disagree with it, that's ok. It seems like you're mad at the people who say no? Maybe I am wrong. Its a more complicated question, In some ways I think yes, and in some I think no. (now I sound like (AI Guy)

[Asker]

Im mad at the people who say no then don't explain anything

[OneViewpoint]

@asker,

So I offer an opinion.

You tell me I belong in hell.

I tell you you're a coward who lives in fear.

And you reply with you're gay and I'm "attacking you". F-you.

You go straight to the gay victim card. That's the first I heard you were a gay with victim syndrome.

Boy if you're gonna take a swing at someone, you best be ready for the counter punch. If you can't argue like man, maybe just don't throw the first punch.

[fish5505_87]

I'm not here to Argue, most people I thought many people di offer their opinion and on why? Maybe I'm wrong? Thanks for the conversation!

[Asker]

They didn't, not one explained why it shouldn't be a crime, they just said why it's inconvenient make it one. But the reasons given apply to current crimes.

Then some people view mental illness and trauma as "hurt feelings" and don't view it as legitimate harm.

[WhitneySnow]

No. It’s morally wrong but a person should not be locked into a relationship for fear of the law. Not all moral wrongs should be legally wrong.

[Asker]

Why not in this case specifically? If not jail, what about a permanent record so people can be aware of their behavior and make the choice to be involved with them or not?

[WhitneySnow]

Not a terrible idea, but that would create a lot of government bureaucracy

[Asker]

What would be your solution to ending cheating or making sure people who have cheated are outed?

[Asker]

If it's a bureau that works, what's the issue?

[WhitneySnow]

I guess. I’m not sure there is a solution. But I admit yours is creative.

[Asker]

Making it illegal seems like the obvious solution. Ofc it won't stop it outright but it makes it a punishable offense and gives the victims recourse. I don't see any reason to be against that. Why are you?

[WhitneySnow]

Because it’s unnecessary government interference in private life. Also, the issue of if the people aren’t married, how do you define whether you’re officially in a relationship or whether you were broken up at the time or whether you had really agreed to be exclusive… lawyers would have a field day with that.

But I like your idea about a person getting a permanent record. The only question is, do we really want to spend taxpayer dollars on that? Is cheating so much of a problem that we need a whole government agency for that?

I have been cheated on before. I was a minor at the time and so was he, which raises additional questions as to the legality of punishing someone for that. It was not fun at all, but I’m not sure legislating it away is the answer.

Plus bear mind that most make politicians are either cheating right now or have cheated at some point in their careers, so they really aren’t gonna want to do this.

[Asker]

Then how hard is it to make a website where people submit reports on people who cheated on them. Like citizen app for reporting dating red flags. And maybe you weren't hurt but many people are. Cheating destroys and takes lives, so it's pretty disgusting for you to handwave it away as not a big issue. The person who cheated on you should have done jail time, a few months of that and he'd never cheat again, would also probably have been some prisoners girlfriend inside. Cheaters are disgusting

[Asker]

Most politicians are criminals and should be thrown in jail, your reasoning for why it shouldn't be crime sounds more and more like reasons why it should. I don't see at all how it would hurt.

[WhitneySnow]

I’m just saying I don’t think it will ever pass. And I don’t think it should pass. I’m sorry you were hurt when someone cheated on you, but the answer is to leave them and never look back, not put them in jail. But we can agree to disagree.

Actually in some states it is illegal. Adultery is punishable by a $10 fine, but that only protects married people and it’s so they don’t have to testify in divorce court about their cheating, cause of the Fifth Amendment. And I think one or two states allow a spouse who’s been cheated on to sue the person their partner cheated with for alienation of affections, and some states allow the cheater to get less money in divorce court if the judge decides that’s fair. But I think that’s the best you’re gonna do. The fluidity of unmarried relationships makes it really unlikely that anybody going to try regulating them, and like I said, politicians really don’t want to do this.

[Asker]

Your reasoning are just wrong. It affects the children, families, friends etc. you don't make any case for why those people don't belong in jail. You're just saying they shouldn't be in there.

[WhitneySnow]

* most male politicians are either cheating now or have cheated at some point in their careers

Correcting a typo

[Purpleronnie]

Cheating already is …. so assuming your meaning in relationships , you’d first have to define it? and then somehow police it? …


What next the thought police? 🤪

[Asker]

Link me to the law that criminalizes cheating.

[Asker]

It makes no sense that you claim it already is then at the same time go off on this clown show to attack and ruin me as a human being with hot e emojis and sick "HURRRE DURRE THOUGHT POLICE?" bullshit comment.

If it's already illegal, like you claim, why are you making fun of me for asking as if it's a stupid idea that isn't in place? You demented cruel idiotic demon, burn in hell

[Asker]

People who act as pompous and are as cruel as you should be thrown in jail you sick asshole. I asked a simple question that you use as a vector to attempt to abuse me? Fuck you

[Asker]

What's next? You're going to barge into a classroom and smash a child's head into his desk for simply asking a question in math class that you find obvious? And then after you bashed his skull in you're going to look around at the class and say "WHATS NEXT he's GONNA ASK HOW TO READ?" then grin like a shit eating asshole around the class room for approval and applause? You're a douchebag

[Asker]

What about my question warrants that level of treatment from you? You're a sick bully

[slatyb]

Absolutely not. How would you enforce this? If the cheater is married, their spouse has recourse in civil court (divorce). If the cheater has infected their partner with an STD, the court will be quite generous to the innocent spouse.

[Anonymous]

Yes! If the person gave an std or stole money from the person they cheated on then definitely 💯 it should be!
they should also be put bylaw to pay for and std treatment or paying back for any stolen money or property that they took from the person they cheated on!

[RingOfFire]

Only if you want to live in a dictatorship. Laws are part of government. And your personal relationships are not the government's business.

[Asker]

Right, if someone cheats, that's not a crime, but if they get beat up or killed for cheating then the person they cheated on is a criminal? Isn't that the government interfering 284- a personal relationship as well without the government being a dictatorship?

[RingOfFire]

Beating up or killing someone is a violent crime. That is a legitimate reason to prosecute someone. Hurting someone's feelings is not.

[Asker]

So you don't recognize mental abuse as legitimate harm and simply "hurting peoples feelings" this site is full of MAGA idiots.

[RingOfFire]

No. If mental abuse was a crime everyone would be in prison because there's always someone who objects to something someone else says. That's what freedom of speech and freedom of association is all about and it's called Liberty. Look it up.

The government has no business interfering in any personal relationship, sexual or otherwise, between consenting adults.

[Asker]

So if you mentally abuse someone without physically abusing them then that's simply just hurting their feelings and is okay?

[Asker]

I want to be clear you view all mental trauma as simply "hurt feelings"? Yes or no?

[RingOfFire]

That's not the question. The question is should somebody be prosecuted because you had a certain reaction to something they said or did. And the answer is no. It's not up to them to be responsible for your reaction to the things that they do. You are responsible for that not them. You you cannot control what other people say or do but you can control how you react to it and that is your responsibility not theirs.

[Asker]

Answer the question

[Asker]

Your whole point that all metal trauma is equivalent to "hurt feelings is reductive. Your whole notion that being against cheating is loving dictators is asinine. You're a trump idiot. Bye.

[RingOfFire]

Stop trying to blame your mental derangement on other people. You think you're some kind of little dictator but you're really just a schmuck. My advice is to see a psychiatrist before you're involuntarily committed to a mental institution.

[Asker]

You're defending cheaters and calling me mentally ill, fuck off

[RingOfFire]

Don't give up yet. They have drugs for your mental disorder.

[Asker]

Yes no one takes mental illness seriously it's just a vector of attack, everyone who disagrees with you is mentally ill. You're a troll who cares more about hurting others. Blocked and reported

[RingOfFire]

Oh BOO HOO!

Maybe she cheated on you because you are such a wimpy snowflake with a mental disorder. Who could blame her?

[Asker]

Leave me alone, stop abusing me.

[RingOfFire]

[RingOfFire]

I'm not the one supporting a fascist government. If you want that move to China, Russia, Iran or North Korea but stop trying to destroy MY country! I invite you to leave if it's so bad here.

[Asker]

You're a moron

[RingOfFire]

Even if it was true I'd rather be a moron than be you.

I'll give you the last word snowflake. 😉

[Asker]

You don't even know me, you're delusional if you think you know everything about everyone based on 10 messages responding to your needless aggression your roided up idiot

[RingOfFire]

"You don't even know me"

What does proof that there is a God have to do with it?

[Asker]

You're not even making sense bye weirdo

[RingOfFire]

Trust me, 10 years from now you will regret it big time if you don't see a psychiatrist soon. They have drugs that can do wonders today. And some of the side effects aren't so bad. Might even double your IQ to 50 if you're lucky.

[Asker]

I showed my therapist your messages and they said you're trolling me. Bye.

[RingOfFire]

You've said goodbye three times so far yet you still keep coming back to troll me.

[Nikki1989]

No, don't governments control too much already.

[Asker]

Spoken like a cheater.

[Lokiion]

Couldn't agree more that and it depends on what sort of punishment for the crime if it's imprisonment that's not even possible prisons are already overcrowded

[Asker]

The prison cannot hold one more person? You're a lying trump supporting idiot

[Lokiion]

Ok so you're stupid lol millions of people cheat, and you said should cheating be a crime so tell me where are we going to put millions of people, or maybe you aren't quite smart enough to think that far ahead also I don't support any political party, but you know everyone likes to make things political but nah I know you're a coward if you weren't you wouldn't be asking in anonymous mode anyway why ask a question if you only want people to agree with you does it make you feel good maybe you feel heard, and you don't offline maybe boost your ego a bit.

[Asker]

House arrest, probation, sex offender lists

[molonski2]

Again NO.
It's a free world , the word is overused and incorrectly used , you don't know the circumstances and the suggestion is beyond ludicrous.

[Fireguy17]

bigamy is a crime, or it used to be.
But who would enforce it?
It works itself out in the end, Karma is a fickle bitch.

[Asker]

Can you explain how it always works itself out to where the victim is given justice? Plenty of cheaters give them STDS.

Obviously the government would enforce it, who else do you think enforces the laws? If someone cheats, arrests them, put them on trial and sentences them, that's literally how criminal law works.

[Asker]

It's ridiculous how naive people are. If I asked you "well who would enforce laws against murder?" What would you say? The same think I would have said.

[Fireguy17]

the government cannot enforce all of the laws that are on the books now, so let's add more laws? There is a murder, or a robbery, hostages, but sorry we are arresting a cheater it might take a while so we will get there when we can. Cheating is not a very high priority crime to tie up precious resources. How many people have been arrested for bigamy last year, I have no clue.
As far as Karma, my ex-wife who was cheating on me ended up getting what she deserved in my eye.
I found her with someone else, I left, my life turned out great, she did not end up with the guy she was cheating on me with, he was married, her next husband turned out to be lazy, wouldn't get a job, she had to struggle to break even, divorced him, and now doesn't have much money to do much of anything now that she retired, she pretty much breaks even.
Not that I wish bad stuff for people, but my feeling is she got what she deserved, and I never got an STD from her, or anyone else. She even admitted that she screwed up, but never apologized to me for doing that.

[Asker]

Can you clarify your criteria for whether something should be illegal or not? It sounds like you don't think murder should be illegal since it still happens.

When it comes to karma, why do you bring it up as if it's justice when you don't want people to be victims of it? Like if he drinks herself to death would you feel she deserves it?

Be clear, what exactly should happen to cheaters and what should the punishment karma unilaterally dishes out be?

[Fireguy17]

time to move on, you asked I answered.

[Asker]

You didn't answer, you vague posted and refused to elaborate. Bye

[Notherndude84]

No, because it would be impractical to enforce. It would require all people to be in a committed relationship to have sex too. I know cheating is wrong and it’s painful to find out your partner is unfaithful.

[Alexandra1996]

Only if you give an STD but possibly a fine. Especially if you’re married. In North Carolina the other lover can be hit for alien nation of affection.

[Asker]

If they don't give it but risked it they should be tried.

People with STDS should be on a list

[Anonymous]

it's almost as if violating the 10 commandments has consequences (or that it should)

but hey, leave it up to liberals and feminists and fake Christians to justify cheating

[BCRanger10]

I think it should. In fact, if I'm not mistaken, in the US military legal system, it is.

[Joshydavid25]

🤔🤔.. I don't know, since it's a rather personal matter between two individuals.. I don't think it should be..

[IHaveRespawned]

Adultery, infidelity, and cheating on your spouse SHOULD definitely be illegal!

[MikeTheBartender]

Back in my asshole days I cheated. I wouldn't say prison time but I'd be ok if a babe from back in the day sued me.

[Billlewis]

Hell, no, unless it’s made a crime for men who cheat, but not for women.

[Vegasrunner]

Only if we applied the functionally equivalent to the act. If men didn't provide for their women it would be a crime and if women had sex w/another man it would be a crime.

[LiamJHayden]

No, but in marriage it should result in the forfeiture of all marital assets and custody of the children.

[Asker]

Why not make it illegal?

[jshm2]

Depends what you're cheating in. Some forms of cheating are a crime.

[KostasKouvalis]

No. Last thing we need is the government getting involved in our love life

[Asker]

They've been for the longest time. Most people on this site are against gay marriage

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea sure why not, it would make it less common

[Asker]

Im trying to find out why not, obviously a lot of people don't feel it should which is why it's not a crime as of now

[Anonymous]

Yes, you broke the marriage contract. Breaching a contract is an offense if the contract is to mean anything.

[clampfan101]

It certainly should, but what’s a legal team going to be able to do about it?

[Asker]

Prove the cheater cheated the. The judge sentences them, like any other fucking crime

[Asker]

I hate that everyone pretends to not remember how the legal process works

[clampfan101]

Cheating is so much more difficult to prove, though. Also different people have different ideas of what being a cheater even means.

[Asker]

Most men who rap* don't think they did but we agree they should be prosecuted.

[clampfan101]

As wrong as it is,(and thank goodness we have laws against it), that’s only scratching the surface of what can be seen as cheating.

[Asker]

Sure, so why would it be a bad thing to cover all the cases in legislation?

[clampfan101]

I’ve heard about girls who think their boyfriend so much as looking at other women is cheating. Do you think that should be illegal just because some girls think that?

[Asker]

Sure if that's the standards they agreed to. Breach of contract is breach of contract

[clampfan101]

That’s the problem. We’re not agreeing on everything. There are so many topics with too many contrary opinions to verify a standard. (Sometimes partly because it should always be a standard agreement for both genders.)
Anyway, I’m done talking about this.

[Asker]

Asking people to explain their reasoning is the quickest way to end a conversation, take care

[Guanfei]

No.
But it should be taken into account in a divorce. You cheat, you lose everything.

[Asker]

Why should it not be a crime?

[Anonymous]

Believe it or not it use to be.. In my opinion it should still be, and punished like domestic violence is punished.

[michalpl00]

Absolutely! 1 year in prison. For being disloyal and decietful.

[blackeagle007]

The prisons would be so overcrowded if that’s the case

[Professor-college]

Probably not because that's something you do that doesn't involve the law

[Asker]

Are you against the age of consent too?

[Asker]

If you feel the government should not be involved in any capacity with relationships and sex, you're advocating to get rid of laws against sexual abuse and abolishing age if consent laws?

[Professor-college]

I meant when you are trying to go out with a woman over the legal age obviously... If she's a minor then she's not fit to make that kind of decision by herself yet

[Asker]

Says who, the law? I agree with that.

Are YOU saying the law has nothing to do with relationships?

[Asker]

You used the term "legal" which means you DO acknowledge that the law IS involved in relationships. So why are you lying and saying that it's not?

[MRJamsDDD]

It’s fun when it’s revenge cheating. You hurt my platonic friend/one of my exes.
Not so platonic anymore.

[PartyGirl2004]

Only if you catch an STI or STD and your primary partner doesn't know.

[Alwayreckles93]

Yes absolutely

[Anonymous]

By religious law, adultery is always a crime.

[HungTexan]

No, but it’s a mistake.

[SashaHa]

Yes >:c

[SmokinAces2000]

Yeah let’s make everything a crime

[Anonymous]

Yes, there should even be a fine or imprisonment.

[Dongie]

It is. It's just not enforced.

[Datboi65]

Yes.

[lightofdarkness]

OFC!

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yes.

[masterSir]

not a crime, but at fault for divorce.

[Drumlin2001]

Nope.

[Brady]

No, not necessary

[dudeinohio]

Absolutely

[grega239]

Absolutely

[jahaims]

It is in some places

[Kingofkings1992]

Fuck no.