How has your perception of love changed over time?

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I would say I’ve matured a lot in my perception of what love is. Back then it was all about the fairy tale, rom-com kind of love. I was very gullible and would usually place my exes up on a pedestal which resulted in me getting a painful reality check. I’ve learned and grown a lot since then and now see love through a more realistic lens. What about you, has your perception of love changed as you grow older and more experienced?

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I would say that you are not ready for love until you are ready to choose responsibility and productivity above your romantic relationship. There are husbands who die, boyfriends who become disabled, lovers who abandon you and choose other women. And people who get separated due to illness or job relocation, you need to have roots that can endure the loss of a relationship, and the potential for taking care of your kids in the event you are no longer in a relationship with the man.

For example, my grandma married an amazing man and had a perfect marriage with only one conflict during their entire 30 years together, but he died when he was sixty and she lived almost 40 years after he died. She was a good mother and her 5 kids took care of her so she was able to have everything she needed after she retired but that is because she choose to be a loving and protective mother when she was in her 30s and wasn't just a trophy wife who lived a selfish lifestyle while her husband was alive and able to pay the bills.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Being with the right person for you can easily change your perception of love. When you're in a love relationship with someone who makes you laugh and he's laughing as well it brings you closer together. Mutual respect is important. Bring the priority in his life.
All of these things and more can change your perception of love when you are with the right guy and the two of you together bring out love to each other.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Yes, because I got red pilled. Sounds like you did too.

Blue pilled fuckers believe in shit that just isn't true which is why they get played or damaged so much. Instead of reality in front of them they thought they were fucking with some ideological ideal... if that makes sense.

That was literally me when I was young. All the dumb shit blue pilled guys say like "She's not like that, she loves me" or "women are better than men in such and such way," I've said it all except the cuck shit because I am not a cuck.

Basically if you don't have someone to redpill you, life is slowly going to fuck you over until you see reality and that's when you start winning in the game of life.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

I agree there is a maturing and as people get older people start seeing more and more what a genuine connection as well as companionship really is about.

I think at some point many people have false ideas on what love is just to grow up and see what it’s not. It’s about finding someone beautiful, finding someone with a lot of money, finding someone whatever it may be and I just see most those relationships fail.

A lot of people have this idea of love especially with movies, television, literature, X rated content, among other things that just create fantasies and falsehoods that get people hurt. As well as taken advantage of.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the evolution of love perception! Being a relationship coach, I've seen my own perspective morph like a romantic chameleon. When I was younger, my idea of love was fueled by fireworks and grand gestures, like a rom-com on steroids. Now, I see love as a beautiful combination of respect, understanding, and those subtle daily gestures that hold infinite meaning. True love isn’t just about magical moments, but it's more about the cozy, down-to-earth connection that grows deeper over time. 💖✨

Rosexøxø · Answer

I would say I always had my opinion of how love should be.

For a long time I believed it was unreal and still back my younger self but edit the wording and change my view more. It’s not that it’s not real- it’s not impossible or not achievable. It just has rarely and ever been genuinely evident in society I’ve been exposed to. Hardly genuinely expressed/shared in my view.

I’m at a place now in a slight bit of contrast to my younger self, that it’s not really needed. And people still do good things without love today. They have a care and that’s fine. But I don’t need love to be happy. I dont need it to survive. I’ve always wished I could have it the way I have always viewed it for myself, but it’s really unnecessary in my mind and my eyes.

PrincessC16 · Answer

I have matured a lot since I was younger. My maturity has come from past relationship experiences. Watching others in relationships. I would have to say though where I really have learned the most about relationships is from u tube relationship coaches. I certainly didn't have a very good childhood. I wasn't taught anything about how to have a loving positive relationship. And I've had to do a lot of healing. I believe that the most influential teachers are our parents. And if we learn at a young age how to control our emotions and learn what a positive relationship looks like then we actually have something to go by and you can make that as your goal. Fairy tales have still got me locked down. Still waiting on the prince to come and take me away. So sad it's taken me so many years to realize he's not coming and that I have to be my own knight and shining armor by loving myself. So much so much could have been learned at an early age to prevent the pain and sorrow that we go through.

Jay-_- · Answer

All I ask for is loyalty and love I'll give it right back and if that's to much to ask for then to hell with "love". This world is twisted anyway, a good amount of people are backwards being respectful to your woman is looked down on, good woman want "bad guys" like what? and they still have the nerve to wonder where it went wrong, this goes for all the men who are backwards as well, the ones who only want 🐱 or the ones who are going specifically after looks and not personality what do you expect. My perception has never changed, I don't want that fairy tale shit but sadly a low bar/lack of emotion for your significant other is "reality" for most.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I had never adopted the schmaltzy ''official'' version of what love isn't.

My maturing process had been one that values personal bonding and safely relying one one another.

I still don't have full experience.

As for now... I'm realistic, but also kind of emotional enough (without following clichés) about it.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I've learned that love is not a simple emotion but a multifaceted experience.

molonski2 · Answer

Pretty much I was same as you plus 20 plus more years , so extremely realistic and extremely cynical about all of it.

MrChinaski · Answer

Love is being willing to give up a little bit to make someone else happy.  Sex is completely unrelated.

serious · Answer

Mine has never changed. My thinking and definition of love is still the very same

Vevv123 · Answer

Yes, I now realize that a lot of what they show in movies is actually really toxic.

Uglygaypoorcoward94 · Answer

Love is fake and is only a result of prolonged relationship initiated by lust ie sexual attraction. can't be bothered to love someone you hate looking at

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

It hasn't. Allowing others to jade you is dumb.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not really. I was brought up with "Love is a choice" specifically a choice to seek the better/best for another.

Anonymous · Answer

Thanks to Jenz my perspective about love is changed. All talks, big claims, only hypocrisy and no action made me think not to take trolls, catfishes like her serious anymore. 😔

PaleDale · Answer

It used to be romantic, like a movie. Still is, but serious love is for me like a state of being with your SO

Professor-college · Answer

Well now I believe that love is something that is much more complicated to get than attraction it's not impossible but it's it's less common

Anonymous · Answer

I've learned that familial love is really the only love there is.

Eempriyanka · Answer

I used to think falling in love is like a ritual sacrifice, but now I think it's not!

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I just appreciate it every time more :D

Despina6 · Answer

The type of love you got for person. I like you love a parent, siblings , friends to a lover.

Unap0logetic_ · Answer

I used to love unconditionally but not anymore.

masterSir · Answer

love has stayed the same. my kinks have changed.

MoonFace2 · Answer

Yes, definitely

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

I've always thought it was disgusting tbh

Anonymous · Answer

No, it actually never changed.

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