What do you think of couples that sit on the same side of the table?

[Abbycado]

[SteveSmith1985]

I just laughed SO HARD when I saw this question.

I was a waiter for like a decade (20-30 years old) at a few different restaurants. I always hated when couples did this. I hated it so much and would think terrible things about those couples

. I staunchly refused (still do) to be one of those couples. I want those couples to know... they need to quit that shit. I'm far from the only one.

It was near universally disliked (among waiters and waitresses), although my feelings on the matter may be particularly strong.

It's like watching people eskimo kiss (rub noses in a sickeningly cutesy way). It's a gross form of PDA. Not gross for being sexual. Gross for being sickeningly nauseatingly sweet and curtsy. I am second-hand embarrassed on their behalf. I think that's why I hate it so much. Keep that shit for private times. Nobody wants to see this.

I haven't thought about that for so long. This question brought back some memories (of shit talking these couples... all the time. Waitstaff talk a lot of shit. Always)

[Armourdillo]

Are you strictly referring to the picture?

Plenty of couples side on the same side and don't behave that way like in the picture.

[SteveSmith1985]

@Armourdillo I honestly didn't even notice the picture. Oh I am aware of exactly how many couples do this. I was a waiter for a decade. I know that a fair number of couples do. And I hate it. To each their own. What can I say.

[Armourdillo]

But like if they're just sitting talking enjoying their meal, that fills you with rage?

[SteveSmith1985]

@Armourdillo I may have been slightly (very) hyperbolic in answering this. I did... still try and get a good tip. Any decent waiter is a good actor, but if it filled me with rage, I don't know if I could be the upbeat, friendly kind and courteous waiter I was. But I really do not like it. It bothers me.

Surely you have some pet peeves at your work? My work was people.

[OneViewpoint]

So in your world... Two couples are sitting in a booth. The two men should be next to each other on one side and the two women should be next to each other on the other side. Amish much there brother Jacob?

[wynning]

I might be stupid but what about it irked you exactly?

[SteveSmith1985]

@wynning

No no, you're not stupid. This is stupid. My feelings on this, the whole thing. It's not you. I have trouble explaining exactly what bothered me about it. I think it might be as simple as the break with social convention. It bothred me, because that's not how a couple is supposed to sit at a table (traditionally). When a couple would, it seems like an overly performative way to announce "we're a couple. Not anything else."

Maybe the best analogue would be a couple that HAS to be holding hands at all times. I have no problem with hand holding. I love it. But have you ever known a couple (especially when young) where they couldn't exist without having the other's hand in theirs at all times. It seems like an unnecessary announcing that you're together in a way that's above and beyond the "ordinary" way a couple shows the world their a couple.

I am not claiming to be on firm ground here in terms of staking out a defensible position. I just feel how I feel about it. I think the "workplace pet-peeves" thing is what it comes down to. When you have hundreds of tables in a year... you start to feel stuff about little mundane things like this.

[SteveSmith1985]

@OneViewpoint

haha, that's an excellent point, and I didn't even think about it.

It only bothers me if it's a single couple in a booth. For two couples out to dinner, then you're right, a couple always sits on the same side. To me, this is a completely different thing. I didn't even ever think about this... because that's just normal to me.

Let me ask you this though... let's say you went out for a "business lunch" with your collegue Mr. Jones. Now... you and Mr. Jones are certainly not going to sit together on the same side of a booth leaving the other side vacant.

That would jar with both of your social expectations. It would be weird right?

That's not the same situation at all. But I think there's a similarity in the clashing with your (my in this case) social expectations.

All in all though, excellent point.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Love is a wonder thing & if you are really in love sitting on the same side allows you to get closer to that special someone. If you are in the beginning of the dating stage sitting across from each other is the way unless you two are talking about HDTV’s or 1080p Televisions & in that case you might want to sit at separate tables.

[Abbycado]

Lmao XD

I bet that smooth operator bought that RCA on purpose for the poor viewing angles, forcing a girl to move closer to him. XD

[Static_In_The_Attic]

There is a method to the smooth operators madness & I know size matters & he probably tells her he has a 100 inch screen to get get to come over & when she does she sees the small RCA with poor viewing angles instead. I always thought RCA stood for Really Crappy Appliance.

[creativewritings]

Honestly, if both people enjoy it, there’s nothing wrong with it, it can even be cute. But personally, I prefer sitting across from my partner because it makes conversation feel more natural, and I like making eye contact while talking. Sitting on the same side feels a bit awkward unless you’re in a booth or watching something together. It can also feel a little unnecessary unless the table setting makes sense for it. But in the end, whatever makes them happy works.

[Abbycado]

I agree. I like being able to look at him rather than turn my head. Thanks for the opinion.

[Beckybooboo]

Awkward is a perfect analysis. I have had it happen to me when I was in college. He pretty much pushed me over so he could fit! lol I kept looking over my shoulder thinking he had friends that were going to join us but no, there were no friends. On a funny note, when the waitress would interact with us, she would actually sit across from us and talk, I thought that was cool! I waitressed and never had that opportunity 😂😂

[DishLady]

Basic manners indicates that a couple really shouldn't sit side-by-side at formal meals/dinner parties, but otherwise one can presume that the couple won't be all over each other in a way that makes others who are with them feel awkward.

[Summeroflove]

I don’t really think anything. If they are enjoying their date that’s what matters

[AMS700CX4u2]

My wife and I have sat together side by side and opposite depending on the game on television or if she just wants me there by her side. Her call I don't have a preference, but I do want her with me. We do very little without each other. however if she ever asked for some alone time, I would understand. I am on the spectrum and I know that my presence can become tiring. If she needs space, Ok

[TheSmellOfVictoria]

I think they might be insane, although, I experience that with my wife and daughters. They all sit together and leave me to sit alone on the other side, then proceed to pick on me through the entire dinner.

[Abbycado]

Agreed on the mental state of those that do this. XD

[Beckybooboo]

@thesmellofvictoria I don't blame them 😝 @Abbycado I know him, so it's okay if I pick on him lol

[Abbycado]

@Beckybooboo have at it!

[TheSmellOfVictoria]

@Beckybooboo Sticks and stones! It's not easy living with four women 😔

[Angelo75]

Cute.

They're very close to each other and want to enjoy watching others and giggle while talking about them. Making some interesting conversation topics.

I'd tend to say, they're couples who also have a good friendship going between them.

[PessicaJeter]

I definitely to be able to look at my boyfriend when we're talk while out to eat. If we're with a group of people, sure I will set next to him in a booth.

[Abbycado]

Yep, I agree. 👍

[Valdemort]

Guilty.

Though, we started across and ended side by side, people-watching together lmfao.

Can I sit across from you though? 👉👈

[Abbycado]

No, but under the table is fine.

[Valdemort]

That's where I wanted to put my hands, but I guess your plan works better 👀

[Abbycado]

I hope you ordered rare XD

Oh god, that’s so wrong…

[Valdemort]

I do like my meat soft and juicy in the center :s

XD

[Abbycado]

This…is bad. XD

[Valdemort]

We're still talking about dinner... right? 👀

[Abbycado]

No, dessert. Cookies. 🍪

[Valdemort]

Puffy cookies? LMFAO 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Abbycado]

Fresh. Warm. Cookie. 😐

[spartan55]

It's a bit 'schmoopey' for me for the entire meal. I have slid over and sidled up to share dessert a few times though. 👍

[Abbycado]

Agree entirely!

[spartan55]

The corner booth gets an exemption though.

[Agape93]

It's fine if you're cuddling but it's generally odd.

[Agape93]

Apparently a mod got his comment

[Abbycado]

Oh, snap!

[Agape93]

Oh god you're using my generations slang now

[Abbycado]

Huh?

[Agape93]

Oh snap is millennial pg slang for oh shit

[Tarifa]

We're normally opposite each other in a more formal setting, like a fancy restaurant. For anything involving a quick meal or a drink, it's better to share the same side. It allows us to be closer.

[On_cloud_wine]

I don’t think anything of it. Usually it means they wanna do more than just talking and eating. I suppose public display of affection can make some people uncomfortable or even jealous if they don’t have someone to have such attention

[andreasderjuengere]

I think it should be banned.

Why:

Just so... instead of being tolerant, the present attitude of people is to ban, to boycott and to regulate.

For the U. S. I suggest: let the Holy President decide over it.

[Blunky]

"Get a room" comes to mind if they're doing that at a restaurant, but to each their own. Side-eyeing each other through a meal just seems weird, even with dates at home.

[debbiedenise]

Ah, we (Boyfriend and I) have done both. Both have advantages and disadvantages. Many times, it depends on the size of the booth or table.

[wynning]

I can't think of one reason why I would give a flying hoot!

[Caroline91]

Why would I care? It's none of my business. And there is so much more going on in the world rn to get really upset about.

[MrJMM]

I will be super plain because that's how the question is formulated. If it were asking what are my thoughts and feelings about couples being on one side doing something, I would say and explain, but because it just says what do you think of couples that sit at the same table, I am gonna say that they are sitting on the same side of the table. That's it. That's my bid… peace! ✌️

[slatyb]

My wife and I always do this. I don't think anything of it.

[Jay-_-]

Honestly no comment, I have no idea how to feel about this, would I probably do it? I GENUINELY DON'T KNOW. 😂

[Joshydavid25]

I like to sit on the same side of the table even during dates.. It just makes things more intimate then the opposite side..

[IslaTheWitch]

that they sit on the same side of the table... I don't fucking care how they sit :D

[MikeTheBartender]

I think it's great for early in dating. Once you know each other better than separate sides.

[ProbablyClueless]

I can't say that it's ever occurred to me to think anything about them.

[RedInnocent69]

Why wouldn’t you? I mean, you like each other, you wanna get closer/touchy-feely with each other

[jazzyk777]

i think that is cute.

[Xawyx-2]

I suppose they are emotionally very close, but sitting opposite seems more natural to me.

[David_beckham]

I don't have a thought of other people enjoying their date. But I personally like to sit across the table.

[itsannalee]

That’s their table, non of my business tho.
Just enjoy my own foods on my table.

[QuestionObsession]

That I could go sit opposite them and make them uncomfortable

[fish5505_87]

I never really thought about it, I guess it doesn't really matter?

[darkwing91]

The last date I went on I sat next to my date at the restaurant. I should have sat across from her.

[Fireguy17]

you have to sit somewhere.
My wife is pretty much deaf in her left ear, so we figure out where to sit based on that so she can hear better.

[nawtee_me]

They can share the table with another couple like them? lol

[JamesRandiDebates]

For teenagers, it's okay. For adults, it looks ridiculous.

[CubaPirate]

Depends on tbe environment and circumstances but generally it's cool

[Dreamclouds]

That is nice actually if they dont become really awkward like in your image

[Yellovv]

They are doing naughty things most of the time when they sit on together...

[robocop666]

as long as the woman does not check me out and have her husband catches her its ok

[Eempriyanka]

You don't love someone because they are your heart or kidney..

Love is different

[Abbycado]

This has nothing to do with my question, at all.

[Purpleronnie]

Don’t think I’ve ever given it any thought …

[Cormac995]

I think it's adorable frankly.

[molonski2]

Should sit across from each other for sure.

[Bklynbadboy12]

I love that! Don't you? 😉

[Abbycado]

Nah, I like to face him so we can talk naturally.

[Bklynbadboy12]

You can talk that way plus you can get up close and personal

[HungTexan]

We do it sometimes. It has some benefits.

[MikeInHawaii]

It’s their business and I couldn’t care less.

[DrPepper12]

Who cares. It's both cute.

[katiesmuff]

I couldn't care less!

[dougeats]

Overkill and annoying

[shortster]

Makes sense once you become official.

[Phoenix98]

What about it? If it works for them.

[Danny_dan92]

It’s their prerogative

[dinojames22]

It's nice depending on the situation.

[Markella2]

Possibly in the honeymoon faze.

[MemeSupreme]

idc lol

[thegreenyogi]

It's cute.

[exitseven]

adorable.

[blackeagle007]

If it works, so be it

[Ariesman81]

Someone's getting handsy

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Nothing

[dudeinohio]

Nothing negative