I can’t get over the hurt I am feeling over what my boyfriend did, what can I do to let it go?

[Anonymous]

hey guys,
my boyfriend met two girls last year in October when him and a group of his friends went out to eat. they followed each other on instagram and started sending each other memes. i noticed he was following her and i asked if he knew who she was and he told me no. a few weeks later i looked at her stories and there’s a picture of her, her cousin and yes you guessed it, my boyfriend as well. i tried my hardest to calm down so i waited a few days before talking to him. i finally answered when he called and i asked why he lied and he said he was sorry at the time he didn’t think it was a big deal and he is truly sorry. it was the fact that he lied to me about it and didn’t think i was going to find out. ngl, i am kinda iffy about guys in relationships having female friends and vise versa. one of them always ends up catching feelings. i know girls ends up falling for the guy in relationships so i don’t like it. but anyway, they don’t talk anymore according to him. i do check his instagram and he doesn’t. i want to forget about what he did and be happy, but i honestly don’t know how. whenever i see him i immediately get sad, angry and disappointed and i don’t want to feel that way anymore. how can i let go of the hurt and anger.

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oh okay. in your opinion what is a reason he would want to be friends with the opposite gender?

[AI Opinion]

Hey, lovebird! 🕊️ Sometimes our love life feels like a dramatic movie, right? First off, you're not alone in feeling upset—lying is a classic relationship red flag. But the goal here is to release that emotional baggage. Start by sharing your feelings openly with him, then focus on rebuilding trust. Every love story has rocky moments, but trust and forgiveness can make yours a fairytale again. Maybe a fun date night or a cute meme exchange between just you two can re-light the spark. Take baby steps, and don't forget to smile—you deserve happiness! 😊💫

[Anonymous]

Then breakup if you don’t want to feel like that anymore. You sound like drama. I get what he did, but I wonder how you came at him about asking him about this girl. Something tells me you’re a handful, so he could t be honest because he knew how you’d react. Don’t tell me you just asked in a calm manner. More than likely he’s already had other issues w you where you probably went off on him so he wasn’t honest about it. Women don’t know how to sit and listen even if he did something wrong. It turns into I told you so, yelling, screaming. That’s why men don’t talk.

[Vevv123]

Female friends vice versa, yup big no no. You're feelings are completely valid. Go running, find a sport, hiking, etc. These kinds of things will help distract your mind. Another thing that helps is family and friends, sometimes you won't have motivation, but having people to talk to can help improve your mood. If possible try to block him, completely get rid of him on your social media since this would lag the process of your recovery.