How true is the saying “once a cheater, always a cheater”?

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I have been cheated on by every single guy that I dated. My first boyfriend cheated on me with a girl he met at work during the summer, I still stayed with him and he never reoffended. My second boyfriend cheated on me with his ex, I caught him, gave him another chance, then he cheated again (still with the ex). So in my case it’s been 50:50.

SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

I do tend to believe this. There are for sure cases that can prove it's not a rule. But I think that it would be naive for someone who has been cheated on to ignore this.

I am so sorry to hear that every relationship you've been in, you've been cheated on. That upsets me to think about. That's so messed up.

For you, It would be wise to assume that if a guy cheated on you, he's not going to change.

It takes a certain type of person to cause hurt to someone they claim to care about, for the sake of purely selfish pleasure. It's hard for me to reconcile that with a decent human being. It's something that a person has to be able to justify to themselves. So cheaters don't see it the same way everyone else does. Otherwise, they couldn't cheat, and continue to sleep at night. They would have to face the fact that they are inexcusably awful for what they did. They can't.

So, I figure it's a safe bet that they are someone willing to do awful things, because they can trick themselves into believing it's not so bad... can do that again.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Sadly in todays’ world it’s hard as hell to find someone loyal , I blame social media for a lot of it , Ever since my marriage turned to shit with my selfish ex , that I was loyal and devoted to and eventually entering back into dating world , was crazy to me , I felt so lost because of how different people are these days , and I was shocked at the shit I was experiencing when dating girls’ these days. It sadly is a lot worse today than it was back then. I am 47 years old and I have been having better experiences with younger girls’ over girls’ my age or older , I don’t really hold age as a deciding factor , because of how fucked up this world is today on how selfish people have become. I treat girls’ the same way I want to be treated but sadly it’s a shot in the dark on whether they are being honest with me or not. I feel Loyality is very hard to come by these days because how selfish people have become

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well I was a cheater back in my younger days. I cheated on my ex twice. I learned my lessons though, it was really stupid and hurtful of me to do. Not trying to justify what I did but I lacked a healthy self esteem or self worth and it made me accessible.

I understand that temptations can show up anywhere but if you’re committed, it’s actually really easy to ignore.

I have now been with my current man for almost a decade and have never cheated.

itsannalee · Accepted Answer

Never give 2nd chance yo cheater. They will do it again if they have a chance.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the age-old question of whether a leopard can change its spots. In my experience on Girls Ask Guys, it's a mixed bag, just like you've lived! While some folks might have a slip-up and learn from it, others fall into the 'ghosting and repeating' territory. Self-awareness and willingness to change are key. If someone shows genuine remorse and improvement, there's hope. Trust your gut, and don't ignore those red flags if they start waving in your face. Keep your head up, and remember you deserve someone who respects you and your relationship! 💕

HighValue · Answer

Cheaters have bad morals. Generally, people's morals don't change and when the opportunity to behave immorally becomes available in the future, especially if they think they can get away with it, they will do the wrong things again.

Don't waste your life being with people that intentionally do something harmful to you. It will just cause you undue stress and possibly health problems in the long term due to too much stress in life. Emotional damage can affect your physical health too.

Also, never be in a relationship with someone that maintains contact with any ex.

Just block him and go eat a kitkat.

Kaneki05 · Answer

No. But I do think the more recent it is the more likely they haven't learnt from it, and if they have cheated more than once then that's even less likely. As patterns repeat.

Many cheat and learn from it not to do it again. And many cheat never to learn or at least not for a long ass time.

serious · Answer

Yes of course it is always true. Once a cheater, always a cheater.  As for your case, you need to have more self respect.

dreamstar72 · Answer

85 percent yes, 14 percent thinking about it or looking for someone and finally the 1 percent that think they leaned their lesson

RavVid · Answer

I think always a cheater but just more careful after being caught.

fish5505_87 · Answer

I've learned this is not true, I would have said yes long ago.

nicfire171 · Answer

Unless they put an extraordinary amount of work in to change.

glennos89 · Answer

That's fucked up for real! Maybe you should choose a different type of guy to see if that gives you a better experience. Girls are known to be attracted to the bad boy type of guys and sadly for woman those guys often cheat

Anonymous · Answer

Very often it's true, but there are exceptions, some of them actually learn not to cheat.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Not necessarily true. People grow up. It happens

Nikki1989 · Answer

More often than not, it is true.

MrChinaski · Answer

I am sorry, friend.

Jay-_- · Answer

I agree for the most part, but there's always a small chance that isn't the case.

yotaman99 · Answer

My ex never stopped she didn’t care

hello4433 · Answer

Sometimes yes

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