Is it true that once a cheater always a cheater?

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Browneye57 · Accepted Answer

No, it's not true.
People cheat for a lot of reasons, both genders, but for the majority of them it's because they're not getting something they need or want out of their primary relationship. The vast majority of the time the spouse or mate has some culpability. I never say it's their fault, but they have a hand in it when their partner cheats.

Some fun stats...
75% of long term relationships suffer some sort of infidelity
75% of divorces are initiated by women.
Cheating is splite pretty 50-50 between genders, but women are better liars so the stats are skewed to men.
Most cheaters don't really care if they get caught - the affair is almost always more exciting. In fact, a primary relationship can't really compete with an illicit affair, the same as it can't compete with porn. The excitement and thrill factor for some is what draws them. Having a successful LTR is not about what you're GETTING, it's about what you desire to GIVE.

Kurαȷ · Accepted Answer

The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior.
They might or might not reoffend again, but does it really matter?

Even if someone does not reoffend again, they do so because of corrective feedback, not because they have suddenly developed a sense of morals or personal integrity that they are now going to adhere to.

Adults are little too old to respond to corrective feedback.
I personally wouldn't want to know what other area of their behavior I'm going to become the corrective feedback for next.

debi2622 · Accepted Answer

For the most part, yes. However, there are people that cheat that learned their lesson and would never do so again. Serial cheaters have no problem looking in the mirror at themselves, and can usually justify it. The one timers are ashamed of themselves and carry that guilt.

i personally could never ever cheat. But I believe a one timer that has taken what they did hard, might not do it again.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Most of them do not change. There are a few articles on this topic. Typically, someone who cheats in one relationship is more likely to cheat in the next, and so on.

People who cheat have a serious character flaw, and character doesn’t change so easily.

moondance80 · Answer

I dont nessarly believe this myself exect with a rare chance of a person.. I think situations come up and we all make choices some we regret but shit happens hopefully we learn from them.. were all human.. there's always 3 stories of why things happen the way they do.. most of us have the ability to love another

weysally · Answer

depends on and if they get away with it lightly, I have cheated and I have gotten away with it, but I think if my husband found out he would forgive me because you see we are into threesomes and such, and he is a voyeur, if he wasn't and we were not into extra sexual fun I would be afraid to even think about it, so fear may change a person

DanielOfTheNorth · Answer

No. The temptation never goes away. But you can be born again and receive Jesus Christ and he has the power to break you of your chains, free you from your sins, and change who you are. The Holy Spirit changes you, in your spirit and soul, and sets you on the right path. The straight and narrow path only few will find

TheBigSoftie · Answer

No it is not true. Guys will cheat cos they often feel like something is missing, and they want that thing they're missing, just like we all do cos, hey, we're human.
Then the guy will likely stop cheating by way of divorce from his wife and marriage to his mistress or both broads leaving him and him finding someone else who can truly fulfill his deepest and darkest desires.
So no once a cheater once a cheater. And once only.

Adriano33 · Answer

I can't say it's true or not.
It all depends on character, since nobody is perfect.
If someone already has a bad rep of being a cheater and a liar, then it's almost guaranteed that he or she will do it over and over again.

That being said, this doesn't mean a person can't change though.
Everyone has the ability to change, at least if they really want to.

Bryce010 · Answer

Cheating Is Attributed To character And they consider Cheaters Only When Their Caught. If it's in ur character to lie or cheat then it's there.. capable of re-emerging at any time. Doesn't have anything to do with love either. The cheater can be truly sorry for cheating and be very much in love with you. Depends on individual. It's in the human makeup/design to lust and procreate. The moment I discovered my wife was capable of lying, I was never able to trust her again.. in my opinion of course

victorvolf · Answer

No.

That's some 16yo girl "wisdom".

People do change, but it's very important why they do it.

If he cheated on you, you should end it.

If you just met a guy who admitted to cheating before, you should give it a chance. He could've lied after all.

Selena2418 · Answer

I say yes. Once someone has crossed the boundary, it doesn't seem so bad to cross the boundary later on another time. People also dont change very much with their tendencies.

JohnnyFiveAllIn · Answer

I do believe that people can change, I've seen it first hand. I believe people who cheat are not complete inside or almost missing something, were never taught about empathy or are complete Narcissists like someone who helped awaken my observations of other people. I believe if someone has its always possible for it to happen again. If you can't love yourself than you will never be able to love someone else and probably shouldn't be in a relationship. More bad than good usually comes from it.

Shyzar · Answer

Absolutely yes. People never change, after a period of time after being reprimanded you'll naturally go back to cheating, may take weeks, months or perhaps years, but eventually you'll take your guard down and succumb to your inner self if the right opportunity is presented.

OneAboveAll704 · Answer

No Its not true... People cheat depending on Whatever selfish reason, but there always somebody who will make someone want to be faithful...

iamconfusion111 · Answer

I think there's a higher chance that they'll cheat again. People don't change as much as we'd like to think they do.

Before_I_Fall · Answer

Yes. (There are always exceptions but I can't recall any right now)

YinLong · Answer

Only if you believe once a liar always a liar or once a theif always a their. Someone can cheat but not enjoy it or can cheat but regret it or cheat but never cheat again not everyone is predictable or the same so can easily vary.

DoctorWize · Answer

It's hard for a zebra to try and change its stripes when he or she used to roaming.

soyboy999 · Answer

Dunno, but yeah, it says something about someone's character.

Lance1965 · Answer

Yes only because every cheater I have known has had a history of it before they ever cheated on me.  Of course you find this information out when the damage has already been done.

AgentDearestZ · Answer

Yes, You must not trust people who have betrayed you before as they'll find it easier to do it again.

Willsburned · Answer

In my life experience yes I've never cheated I've always been the one cheated on and always seems to be with the person I most despise

MaosLeves · Answer

Noo, its the biggest lie out there, I was a cheater and totally stopped 6 years ago

ryancg · Answer

Yes, always. Disloyal people don't suddenly turn into loyal people.

Philyouup · Answer

If you cheat, that first step is the hardest. once you do it, its no longer scary, and becomes easy. and then you are cheating. and Cheating sucks.

worldscolide · Answer

In my personal experience yes. but thats anecdotal at best

JesseTheMan · Answer

Of course not. Replace cjeater with criminal/junkie/almost anything else and realize how stupid it sounds

Malono · Answer

I think everybody can be wrong any time. I won't forgive a cheater but I think he/she be loyal next time (but as I said, not with me)

otw1269 · Answer

I think so I'm kinda going through it again for the second time

Anon-ymous1 · Answer

The term "cheater/cheating" is erroneous and stupid and no one should use it.

TheUglyMonk · Answer

If they do it more than once, then yes doesn't matter if it's with same or different person.

Iron_Man · Answer

Not necessarily some people learn the hard way but it's hard to trust him or her once it goes down

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. A cheater has to be kept on a strict rope with no expectation of privacy.

mrArcher · Answer

I'm not sure. I haven't had an extensive experience with cheaters.

PrettyRegular · Answer

Second time is easier than the first but if you trust him, maybe he deserves another chance.

dontgofalling · Answer

Nahh, if he finds the right match and ain't a douche then he can be loyal.

joydeep96 · Answer

Not necessarily but yes the trust factor will be broken.

6ftallady · Answer

Yes and I believe if you take them back your telling them it’s ok I’ll take you back no matter what.

san06 · Answer

No. Things can be turned around. Realization is the biggest part

danhya · Answer

Yes definetely, even for you it's so difficult to trust again 😥

crp4ever · Answer

I don't think so sometimes maybe they were to young or sometimes something happens. It is something though that you should always remember though but everyone deserves a second chance.

Moni_1609 · Answer

In my experience, yes. Even when they try to fight against their instincts.

FunGamer2018 · Answer

Yup, my girlfriend cheated on me 2 days ago, and she cheated before, cheating is unforgivable

Natalie11299 · Answer

It’s something I believe

genericname85 · Answer

true for some, not for all.

Decentguy · Answer

Not really, people can change themselves too

Tripper27 · Answer

True, in one way or another.

Derrick_hovic · Answer

People change my dear

Dalesmith · Answer

Not necessarily, a person can always change

joker_daddy · Answer

Sometimes but not always

corkr900 · Answer

85% true. As a rule, yes, but exceptions abound.

madhatters4 · Answer

not true of all

idkwtp · Answer

No for me but depends on the person I would say

JustADream21 · Answer

In my experience, yes.

mudasir4 · Answer

No i didn't think so Once he would realize

HALKYXN · Answer

Yes. At least from personal experience, yes.

hanzohassaszi · Answer

Jew we will never change

sks952 · Answer

Well depend on the guy wanted to change or not

beeljo · Answer

No, people can change.

iamashish · Answer

No he can change himself with time and situation

Malita55 · Answer

Almost always true

reptocarl · Answer

Yes it is

OatsnWhey · Answer

I believe so

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