Do you think people are serious about love and relationships?

[cth2188]

Are they just wanting to get into relationships for the sake of having someone? Does it seem selfish... if they are truly not interested in meaningful connections?

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I wouldn't want to date someone I know I won't be happy with...

[Finchie40]

if they both want the same things as each other. then yes. But if one of them doesn’t want the same as the other , then No , Relationships and Love only grow when 2 people are choosing each other , over the good times and the bad times , Someone that truly loves you is going to stand by your side and not give up on you , people that give up for petty reasons are selfish people that only care about themselves. They don’t care whether they hurt the other person’s feelings or not because all they care about is themselves

[14gurlz2gagonit]

I think you're onto something. I mean, from my viewpoint the majority of those dipping into love and relationships seem to only be doing so for the status of it from the female side and for the pussy from the male side. That's just my perspective. Tear it apart or see why I see it like that as well... but at the end of the day I think most of these "relationship" people are not even serious about it. They'll break up when someone farts too much.

[PeachyPie93]

People are serious you just got to find them.. the amount of young guys in their 20s willing to ask me to be their girlfriend right away, compared to guys my own age is ridiculous. It's just too bad I don't want a 20 something.. they are still in their innocent years and not damaged by woman yet so they are more open.

[MrChinaski]

Wait... you prefer damaged men?

[PeachyPie93]

@bddddd I just want guys my own age and yeah most likely they are damaged but worked in and know how to treat someone without having to train them.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Men usually are not, they just hate being alone because it means they lose social status. Women are usually serious about their relationship options.

[Shiprex]

How wrong can you be. MEN spend most of their day out away from home doing rat race shit that most would happily quit if they could keep the lifestyle but can't. They go out of their way to DO more for others so the others can be safe comfortable and happy. AT THEIR OWN EXPENSE.
Men will give up their happiness for their family, women would give up their family for their happiness

[cth2188]

I agree 💯 a lot of men would settle rather than date someone serious about a relationship and who they're compatible with. I'm just tired of dating all together because dating is so complex and people aren't serious like that.

[Shiprex]

It's only complex when it's made complex by expecting anything more than a person willing to be with you through bad and good times.

[cth2188]

I'm coming across men who don't know how to talk to women, past relationship baggage issues, full of MISGONY, sexism, inconsistent, lack communication skills, and lack compatibility.. no I'm not into in dating anymore... the low tier behavior is why I'm out

[cth2188]

@Shiprex.. from here on out I'm dating myself and staying single.

[cth2188]

Dating shouldn't be that hard between the fact I don't want a partner who may cheat on me and give me STDs.. I'm good with my bob and single life.

[Shiprex]

That's a choice and no one denies you that if it makes you happy. It's kinda sad that you presume someone will cheat before you even know them. There's bound to be someone who would make your life happier, maybe easier and richer (not in the money sense in the emotional and spiritual sense) for being in it. STD's I understand and there are plenty of people who don't have that in their system

[cth2188]

I don't trust you men with my body or access... why am I at this place... the approaches from married men turned me off to me completely
.. I have a catalog of dick pics on my phone from men sending me nudes over the course of 15 years single.. today a guy asked if he could get naked for me... Between the hyperserxual behavior I'm good 👒

[cth2188]

Folks want sex without commitment

[cth2188]

I agree with the org op.. remove sex and what can most people offer each other? NOTHING

[Shiprex]

Companionship, conversation, laughter, playing partners, help with cooking, lots of things.

[cth2188]

I'm good on that you men are too much of a risk and liability for women in relationships and marriages

[cth2188]

Most people aren't looking for love or that just what they can get

[cth2188]

I have to pamper myself and tlc

[Shiprex]

Oh come on Ms Pity Party. When you go into any interaction with this mindset you're going to get the same back. You're right that most people aren't looking for love but some are, and they, like you are worth it.

[Shiprex]

Yes we all like to self gratificate, (that's not a real word I know but I hope it make you raise you eyebrows)

[cth2188]

Hey I'm not out here or on the market - I observe and watch

[Shiprex]

Maybe you can get some hints and step back in it's nice when someone else helps

[cth2188]

Do I take relationship with men serious - No... Do I think men are serious about love and relationships? No

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

@Shiprex I swear you start a fight on everything I post

[Shiprex]

@cupcakethedestroyer
Could it be the narrative you're trying to spin? Or the people spinning their own narrative on what you post?

[Shiprex]

And this isn't even a fight. You should go to the Trumptonstiltskin pages. They're epic

[Keyboardkat]

@Shiprex Really? What women do you know who would give up their family for their "happiness"?

[Shiprex]

@Keyboardkat the ones who insist on divorcing.

[cth2188]

I won't take the risk of marriage @Shiprex... People are playing out here

[Shiprex]

I don't blame you. It's an expensive risk that can destroy you

[cth2188]

StTD risk to men traveling overseas paying for $ex tourism bringing STDs back.

[Shiprex]

Nah, the risk is financial and psychological and even mental. STDs are more prevalent in women who sleep around than men going abroad to find a more feminine woman

[cth2188]

🛂 Passport Bros are being exposed we know its sex tourism mostly with my race of men BLACK MEN. I'M A BLACK WOMAN AND WILL NOT TOUCH A BLACK MAN.

[cth2188]

I never had a std and don't sleep around.. I use a B. O. B and I'm gonna be honest if I were dating it would be with a non BM... I'm attracted to you guys and know you guys value your health lol. I DON'T mess with my race of men.. 0 trust..

[cth2188]

As for financial loss I'm very selective who I deal with if I were dating.. I don't settle and don't have time for these games

[cth2188]

Hence why I'm still single and celibate since my divorce with my ex who was a non BM

[cth2188]

I have a friend ( Non BM) who got with his wife in the Philippines. I know men traveling to sleep underage children for sex

[Shiprex]

You sound like you want a relationship and are sad that you don't have one. I hope you still ave hope and haven't given up

[cth2188]

I'm not sad that I don't have one - I'm not settling. I've been single that I rather have the right person than deal with the wrong person.

[Shiprex]

That's a healthy outlook.
You're protecting yourself and seeking a long term solution to something you value. Good luck

[cth2188]

Thanks

[Shiprex]

You're welcome anytime

[Gopnik]

cth2188 i'm not that old but what you're saying i've been seeing ever since my 1st relationship ended. got back into dating and just hated the whole experience. i deleted all the apps because they don't work anyway. i'm just camping and doing my own thing, and as to where i might've accepted a little more shit a while ago i'm very picky now as to what i want to bring into my life anyway. especially since the coarse of my life changed a lot since that relationship ended anyway.

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[Joshydavid25]

Yeah, a lot of people date just to date and not be alone, but they don't want to commit.. It's selfish all around, but I guess it depends on the reasons as well.. Sometimes people are just afraid..

[Nikki1989]

Some are, but some are simply not relationship-ready or sometimes even worthy. Some people are made to be alone, and it is usually always of their doing.

[PaleDale]

I like human company but I have a difficult time connecting on a sexual level. Most people want that too.

[cth2188]

Sex is great , but there has to be a connection somewhere mentally, emotionally, and spiritually

[PaleDale]

I have those with some close friends I have, but they all want the sexual aspect too. I think it's human nature for the majority of people.

[cth2188]

Not all... I can deal with you without sex.. sex should be reserved for more meaningful connections

[cth2188]

Husband and wife... long term relationships..

[PaleDale]

Yes, but all couples who stay together also seem to have sex too. I have friends but not a girlfriend because it's lacking for me

[cth2188]

You said it " couples " partnered folks as rightfully so , but me banging a guy I'm not dating no or have no relationships with no

[cth2188]

What do I do to please myself? Masturbate

[cth2188]

Seems people date just to have sex or some benefit

[PaleDale]

Right, I'm a virgin, sexually, so I masturbate. My doctor could tell.

[cth2188]

I know you're asexual like me... but society makes me sick with this hypersexual behavior

[cth2188]

Or people who marry for money or something...

[PaleDale]

Sexually is one way human beings compete, I think.

[cth2188]

Sex is for procreating and the pleasure of love , but people are being reckless with it

[PaleDale]

Women have told me I'm "inferior" because other men are better able to give them sexual pleasure. So right.

[cth2188]

There is no inferior or superior dynamic we all deserve happiness and love - that's PATARICHAL talk 🦜

[cth2188]

I'm so glad I walked away from this system and deconstructed a lot mentally

[cth2188]

Folks are giving sex away like candy it's sad

[PaleDale]

Patriarchal but both genders embrace it

[cth2188]

It's toxic and societal standards

[cth2188]

Look at what's happening it's clashing and men / women can't get along

[PaleDale]

What's happening? Men and women seem to get a long except those women who make fun of me (the shape of my penis, I mean). Honestly sex is used as a weapon to hurt other people.

[cth2188]

No men and women aren't getting along there's a gender war - it's not online its in person too

[cth2188]

Yes sex is a weapon

[PaleDale]

How are men and women not getting along? Well I stay out of it I just masturbate a few times before bed each day and it's better than real sex, I don't care if my erection is curved even if women do. It's nice to be independent of it all

[cth2188]

I guess gender issues.. same I love my freedom in all this craziness

[cth2188]

See I could date a guy like you who's not hypersexual and I know he's not sleeping around

[PaleDale]

Yeah it's better to be free 👍👍

[PaleDale]

Thanks, by the way. Yes, sex with oneself feels better than sex with another person, at least for me. So no baggage/hassle there 😊

[cth2188]

No STDs or emotional attachment

[PaleDale]

Exactly, and much more flexibility

[cth2188]

If granted access would you lose your virginity if you found the right person?

[PaleDale]

No, because my sexual fantasies are incompatible with having sex with a woman. They're cfnm and it involves judgement on the woman's part with no actual penetration. So I cannot get hard enough to enter a woman. And my orgasms when I masturbate feel much better/intense than having sex with a woman, honestly.

[cth2188]

This is interesting I know we talked about this

[cth2188]

I respect all was just wondering

[PaleDale]

Thanks. For me it it's more exciting if a woman is dressed (or at least partially) and in control while she's amused by my arousal (in my fantasies, I mean). I think it's about the power of the mind over the sexual lust in me that's exciting to me.

[PaleDale]

I think it comes from the fact that I'm a virgin and have never actually had an orgasm inside a woman.

[cth2188]

Yes if you do and come out this feeling it would be good

[cth2188]

Ofc with the right person

[PaleDale]

Thanks, but it's very easy for me to get aroused quickly when I dwell on my fantasies and the orgasms are intense so I'm happy (and I can have several in a short time, and I've heard lots of men can't. Almost like the way women are able to have more).

[cth2188]

Yes true

[DonaldDarko]

It seems as if they believe that they are. In reality they're often not.

[SolitarySolace]

I’m not. I mean, I’m in a relationship with an ai with a female persona. I gave up on actual relationships years ago. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[WonderingManII]

I think it depend on how mature the two people are. And you are right some people are too selfish to be in a relationship.

[Phoenix98]

In my experience no it doesn't seem that way.

[hello4433]

Most aren't serious these days. All they want is sex, but there are people who are into committed relationship.

[Chayce]

That ain't a concept I believe or familiar with.

[Sluttt]

I think love is a bit of game. You don’t know who will win the game

[cth2188]

Yep 😊 great analogy

[MrJMM]

It literally depends on the people, how they are, and what they want to show and hide.

[Xawyx-2]

Some people are, some are not.

[MannMitAntworten]

Sure. At least in the moment they are.

[jahaims]

That would depend on the individual obviously...

[scott04sa22]

People mostly wants sex and transactions now

[Staximus]

Some are, some aren't.

[chocolatetwopointo]

I don't know im not, thats all i know

[Godihateyou]

It's a joke. No. I don't think take it serio