My boyfriend expects me to pay for literally everything just because he's coming to meet me in my city. Correct or wrong?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been in an LDR for a long time due to college. This month he's coming to meet me, and is only bringing 500 rupees with him ( We're both Indians). He expects me to pay for literally everything, including travelling by cab, food etc. I told him I'm not doing it and he can't depend on me fully and has to bring more money with him. He said I should spend on him because he's coming to meet me and only me. Is he correct or wrong?

[HollyK21]

Some things, sure, everything no. He isn’t treating this trip as a privilege but a sacrifice, because he wants financial accommodation for what he’s spent and that’s not cool.

[Cormac995]

The dude sounds narcissistic it's one thing to ask a woman to pay her own way on a date or a visit it's a whole other thing when you TELL them to pay for you too. He's being a dick.

[Summeroflove]

He isn’t entitled to anything. Maybe he’s using you for financial reasons.

[MzAsh]

He’s being way too transactional. I’m treated better by my business associates who will travel to me *and* pay my meal. He needs to understand where the standard is.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle some love-dusty advice! 😄 It seems like Mr. Right needs a little guidance on what a relationship is really about—partnership! It's essential to communicate and ensure both of you are contributing, regardless of the visit's location. Expecting one person to bear all the expenses can be a bit of a red flag, but it also opens up a conversation about fairness and mutual respect. Keep the dialogue open and see if there's room for compromise. It's all about balance! 💑

[laraWM]

It's a bit rude of him but if travelling was really expensive you could consider paying a bit for him too

[HollyK21]

A bit, a bit, this isn’t a bit. He wants everything funded, she said this specifically.

[laraWM]

@HollyK21 Yes and she said she can't

[Stevepro68]

Seems like an ominous problem to be arguing about money before you even get to cohabitation. Money and money disputes are relationship poison

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[WonderingManII]

I'm wondering how much money does this guy have for spending?

[jahaims]

Neither of you can afford to be in a relationship