My girlfriend lied to me, should I trust her again?

[Anonymous]

She told me she was home sleeping, but I found out she wasn’t. When I confronted her, she changed her story multiple times and later said she stayed with coworkers after drinking. She claims she lied to avoid making me worry, and swears she didn’t cheat. But now I can’t shake the feeling that something’s off. We were even talking about getting engaged. What would you do in my place?

[Purpleronnie]

Personally , and no offense , the story she is going with doesn’t sound close to the truth either and I wouldn’t be happy with it. To initially lie or misguide over something as trivial as staying with friends assuming no cheating ) rings alarm bells for me.


The question you’re asking is only one you can answer though as it’s about where you are at as a couple , the feelings you have for her. If you trusted her completely before this then there is scope for attempting to move past it but she needs to know how you feel now and how it looks to you putting herself in your shoes.


Also , look inward. Would you give you the benefit of the doubt?

[Cormac995]

This is a massive cheater red flag. I don't know what's wrong but something is definitely a miss and sorry bro but my money is on her cheating. Lying about where you really are is something you only do if you don't want your SO to know what REALLY happened. If she didn't do anything wrong why is she so on edge? If she was innocent she wouldn't be lying and changing her story. She did something she knows you'll be mad at her for even if she didn't cheat because if she has nothing to hide why lie and get defensive?

[DishLady]

Personally, once someone lies to me I can’t deal with them anymore. I can forgive but I also have to walk away.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, trust issues with a splash of confusion - classic cocktail, right? 🍸 My aim is to help you navigate this with a bit of insight! Trust is the backbone of any relationship, so if it's shaken, rebuilding is key. Your instincts are powerful, so listen to them, but also consider having an open, honest convo with her. If she's genuinely committed to making it work, she'll understand your concerns and effort to rebuild trust. It's all about whether you're ready to forgive and partner up for trust-building. Good luck and keep your heart open! ❤️

[SteveSmith1985]

I couldn't trust her after that. She lied. But when confronted... she kept trying to deceive you.

Not wanting you to worry, is never an excuse for lying to you

How can you trust she didn't cheat? You can't. Because she's proven herself to be willing to lie to you, her denials are literally worthless.

I would be real careful about getting engaged. It's a matter of her having no problem deceiving you... even if it takes multiple lies to do so.

[Finchie40]

Have a serious talk with her and tell her you are upset with her for lying , and tell her if the lies continue then this relationship is not going to work out , Tell her how would she feel if you did that to her? And see what she says , if she loves you she won’t make that mistake again , if she doesn’t love you she will make that mistake again , if she does? Dump her ass

[princeofromance]

You should be very careful and take everything she says with a grain of salt. Trust is earned, not given.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

Not only did she directly lie to you, but when caught she just tried to lie again, and again. How many times did her story change? Doesn't matter. She almost certainly cheated, but that's not the worst part. When you caught her lying, instead of coming clean and being truthful, she chose to continue to lie to you.

Now this isn't about cheating, I'm non-monogamous, so the part I would focus on is the lying. Not only is it insulting and a violation of trust, but it's disrespectful.

If nothing else, without mutual respect, ANY relationship is doomed.

So, she doesn't respect you, how on earth can you respect her? She's lying to you and using you for ___ ? Comfort? Stability? Support? And you get what, lied to in return?

She's a bitch, dump her.

Otherwise, you're a humiliated cuck.

[SeekerOfTruth007]

Everyone lies. Research shows the average person tells two lies within the first minute of a conversation.

I mean, you could have other problems, like a 3 inch penis or something. I wish mine was 8 inches so maybe more women would like me, but probably not. I'm sort of an asshole.

[MannMitAntworten]

In my mind she probably did something. Otherwise she would have just said she stayed at a co-workers because she drank too much or better yet, called you to pick her up. But neither happened. Been down this path with an ex who cheated.

[Danael31]

Well I would not trust her again for a certain amount of time (months or years). She would have to earn it again. That's not a little lie.
If she knew she wouldn't cheat or anything, why lie in the first place? "You to not worry" is not a valid excuse.

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[Miristheiss]

Are you that naive? She has proven, 100% that she is a liar. You cannot believe a word out of her mouth.

She has proven you CANNOT TRUST HER.

Don't be a fool.

[molonski2]

Put off engagement , she is a lying , cheating , manipulator , just access it from here , if still going in another year you can reacceds.

[spartan55]

Dude, have some self respect ffs... give her the gate.

[WonderingManII]

I would feel really hurt like you, and it would take me years to get over it. I think the best thing to do is breakup with her. She broke your trust by lying.

[Shiprex]

If she NEEDS to try this then there is a problem. If she feels you don't trust her that's also a problem

[MrChinaski]

So that is multiple red flags. I don't know enough to proffer advice, but I would advise you to take caution.

[Chazmatazz269]

Leave and never look back.

[Anonymous]

I would trust her.

But I'm single, and never had a girlfriend, so I can't speak from experience.

[robocop666]

hire a private investigator. If you become married to a cheater this can cause more problems in future. However she may be telling the truth.

[Petra07]

You need dump her if she lied to you about that. What won’t she lie about?

[melnc]

How long have you two been together?

[exitseven]

From now on trust but verify.

[RedInnocent69]

Trust and sex are two different things

[OneViewpoint]

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[Amy_2000]

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