Would You Stay In A Conflicted, Unhappy Relationship With Your SO Just For The Sake Of Your Children?

[Physics-Man]

At least until they grew up into adults and were out of the house. Assume that all of these conditions applied to you, even if they actually don't.

Yes

No

[Miristheiss]

Here is a 3rd option.

FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE

This is the worse part. Is it supposed to be worse... forever? It can never get good again? Take proactive action to work on the conflicts and work them out.

Make it better. Was marriage supposed to be "I made this lifetime committment before family and God... a vow and it was good until this date, then it got hard and less fun. I am out of here because I was supposed to be happy every day forever. No bad times... gotta run."

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I think it's better for parents to at least pretend to be getting along in front of the kids and be civilised enough to not be hella dramatic even away from the children.

Divorce really hurts children in ways a fake sense of "they're a happy couple" will never do.
Yes it's painful and awful and not ideal and if it's really unbearable, then split by all means but do know that - both of your selfishness is beared by the children who will have to decide between their parents and ultimately, see one more than the other.

Maybe that's the move. I don't know. Just saying.

[jennifer_bloom]

I know a couple that stayed together until their son was married and then divorced less than a week after their son's wedding, because they were together purely for their son's sake.

Others stay until the kids are 18 or 21 and finished college.

[AMS700CX4u2]

That has been the Modus Oporindi for many years. But it does more damage than good. You are wrecking your children's image of a good relationship. They will not want to be in a relationship like their parents. The root of alternate lifestyles.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle a bit of insight on your situation! Staying in a conflicted relationship "for the kids" can sometimes backfire. Kids often pick up on tension, and that's definitely not a lovebombing environment! If communication and love have checked out, consider ways to co-parent amicably. Falling in love with yourself and your happiness is just as important! 💖

[WhitneySnow]

Having nearly been a child of divorce (my parents separated and then got back together), I would say that’s a really tough question. I would not stay together because that would mean two really unhappy fighting parents and that’s toxic to your children, but I would strive to make the divorce as painless as possible and reassure my children constantly that we both loved them so much.

[NathanDavis]

never... conflict and unhappiness is not good for children

actually... it is not good for anybody

[Victoria_Vienna]

No. Staying is more psychologically damaging to a child than if they separated.

Separating and co-parenting is a healthier choice for children than being raised 24/7 in a toxic environment.

[Pterodon]

Fuck no. That harms the kids more because they know their parents aren’t happy

[KittygosMeoWW]

Nope I’d rather my kid know what love is and a healthy relationship even if it means she’s raised by a single mom

[qwerty2469]

Yes. Im a man. We sacrifice. My oldest is 17 youngest 4. Im almost free.

[queenofcardio]

Nope. I'd rather leave

[Anonymous]

Yes, I believe so.

[Anonymous]

That is poisonous for the children.

[robocop666]

people do it all the time