Will it be awkward or good going on a "friend" date with my ex?

[Simslover92]

We are going to see the new Superman movie on Saturday and I was wondering if things would be awkward or good.

We've been talking nonstop all week long like old times. We are going to see each other Friday night and then we decided to see a movie Saturday afternoon and then maybe dinner afterwards.

But I'm not sure how weird it will be because we haven't seen a movie together since we were together.

I'm a bit nervous about seeing him since we haven't seen each other since January and that was intense (in a good way) to say the least.

I feel like we have major chemistry and that could be a good thing or a bad thing.

Maybe I'm making a big deal out of it and it's just old friends getting together. Because we were friends well before we got together.

Or maybe we're like Buffy and Angel where Spike called out that there's not really a friendship there deep down because we have so much chemistry. I dunno.

[Finchie40]

It sounds like he wants another chance at you especially if he is investing a lot of his time into you , but just be careful and don’t get your hopes up too much , because right now it seems things are looking good , but you have to remember he is an ex for a reason , so it’s usually best to keep them as an ex. but It also comes down to why you both broke up to begin with? if it was over petty things , then you possibly have a good chance , but if it was over something really bad , like cheating , then don’t get your hopes up too much. My one ex girlfriend that cheated on me tried getting me back after a year we were apart , When I ran into her at the store she looked beautiful to my eyes but I still had resentment petard her for cheating on me , the second she saw me she ran up and hugged me and we talked and she immediately apologized to me and kept telling me how much she missed me and how good looking i am and asked to meet me for drinks , so I said sure , so when we got together for drinks she looked beautiful and we put the past behind us as much as possible and were reminiscing about our time together , one thing led to another and we ended up in bed , Being intimate and and affectionate with her again didn’t feel the same , I was still hurt that she cheated on me , so I ended up screwing her like she was some chick I picked up at a bar , she was a little shocked that I was being a little to rough but she liked it and she got off pretty quick , After we finished she said asked me if we can be together again , I said let’s take things slow and told her I still have deep feelings for her , but the whole
Cheating thing isn’t sitting with me well , she said she is sorry but promises she will never do that to me again and that she was stupid , I accepted her apology but after she left , it hit me that I don’t want to be with her again. I think I just revenge fucked her because my feelings for her weren’t the same as before. So I never called her again or answered her calls. About a week later I met another girl that I fell for. My ex sent me a letter saying how much she is in love with me and is hurt that I am not talking to her , and told me since I am not talking to her and giving her another chance , she is leaving the area and joining the Army. That was the last I heard from her in awhile , a few years go by and she reached out to me on social media and asked to talk to me on the phone , I said sure , we talked and I told her the truth why I didn’t respond to her , I said you cheating on me isn’t sitting with me well and sorry I don’t have those feelings for you anymore. I still care about you and hope we can stay friends , She cried to me and said the only reason she joined the military was so her and I could have a better future together. I said that was sweet of her to do but she didn’t have to do that and she shouldn’t of done that knowing I was t with her. I told her I’m sorry and wish her the best because I am with someone else , She started crying when I told her I was with another girl. The other girl was my wife. That was the last time I heard from her

[Cormac995]

This sounds like something that might be worth another shot. I say go and if you feel some of those old sparks again consider getting back together. It's not always a bad idea to get back together. People can change after losing someone they care about. He might have regrets.

[Simslover92]

I think he does. But it's complicated because he's dealing with a woman who is married. They have an open relationship though. But he still is dealing with her.

[Cormac995]

Shit never mind I withdraw everything I said. Open relationships are toxic by their nature and doomed to fail.

[Cormac995]

Anyone in an open relationship is a flying red flag.

[Simslover92]

I know but I don't think he wants to be and I'm not sure if he still wants to be in a relationship with her.

[Cormac995]

Well that is a bit different if he's uncomfortable with being in an open relationship but his SO is insisting on it if I understand correctly. That said it's still a red flag he let that be a thing at all in my opinion.

[Simslover92]

It is. I was shocked he would go that route because he's not that kind of person but when you're in love you or at least think you're in love you do stupid things.

[Cormac995]

That's what I would assume too. In fact he probably is thinking about you because he remembers what loyalty felt like and want's that back. Loneliness and strong emotions like love don't mix well with open relationships. It becomes a cycle of psycological abuse where they keep insisting they're ok to make their partner happy but they're lying to themself and it's ripping them apart. What likely happened was things started out great and then she groomed him into the idea of being in an open relationship after the bond was established. That's what psycho's do to get loyal side pieces which might be what happened with him.

[Cormac995]

It's incredibly disgusting too because the side piece ends up thinking they're the main piece because they get gas lit into believing it but if you were the "Main piece." they wouldn't need an open relationship to begin with. Frankly I think poly relationships are unethical because someone always ends up loved the least.

[Simslover92]

Perhaps. I'm not sure what their dynamic is as of right now but I do know it's not a healthy one as long as she's still married to her husband.

[Simslover92]

Yeah you're right. It's not good at all. Especially not for him.

[Cormac995]

It wouldn't surprise me if she hid that she was married until after he was emotionally invested or she pushed and pushed until he gave in. This is assuming he doesn't like being in an open relationship which I can't blame him for because it's the same thing as getting cucked.

[Simslover92]

No he knew because they are best friends and he was at her wedding

[Simslover92]

I met her before. It kind of stings that he proposed to her and not me when were together over a year

[Cormac995]

People that are in those kinds of arrangements are often very manipulative and that could have had something to do with it. She probably really, really dug her hooks in and he felt obligated or forced. You never put pressure on him from the sound of it so that might also be part of what's opening his eyes possibly. Again I'm speculating here and for all I know the guy is scum at his core but since you seem to think well of him I'm trying to think about this from the perspective of him being a good dude that was misguided since that's what you make it sound like.

[Simslover92]

Perhaps. It's hard to say. She didn't come off like that when I met her but looks can be deceiving.

[WhitneySnow]

It will be great. I think there’s a very good chance that you guys will get back together after this date. I think you guys have a lot of chemistry, but that doesn’t mean you don’t care about each other on a friend level too. Me and my boyfriend were friends before we started dating and we love each other all the more because of it.

[Simslover92]

Thanks. I really have high hopes for what may happen on this date. It may not be anything, but I am very hopeful that it may turn into something again.

[sage2021]

Everyone is different. I wouldn't be friends with my ex in the same way as you are - like going places together. It makes me wonder 🤔 why the two of you still seem to have feelings for each other but keep them at bay.
Am I wrong sis?

[Simslover92]

He's the one keeping them at bay. He broke it off with me but I think he regrets it but is in a situation right now he can't get out of with someone else. I would be with him in a heartbeat if that's what he wanted.

[sage2021]

I kinda thought so❣️

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO sis ❣️

[Simslover92]

You're welcome sis! ❣️

[AI Opinion]

Hey, getting back together with an ex, even for just a movie, can be a wild ride! 🎢 Given that you've been talking nonstop and have this undeniable chemistry, it sounds like sparks might fly. Whether it's good or awkward, embrace the nostalgia and really listen to your feelings. Chemistry can be a double-edged sword, like deciding between Superman and Batman. Go in with an open mind and see where it takes you. Sometimes, the heart knows better than the mind, so let that chemistry work its superhero magic! 🦸‍♂️💕

[ohsheeT]

No it's a plan date first of all it's the man of steel. More powerful than a locomotive. And there will be a love story about louis lane So you superman and you were Louis lane so it's going to get intense and romantic just be careful of the popcorn trick lol

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you want him to be an ex or do you want to rekindle the previous relationship?

[Simslover92]

Rekindle the previous relationship.

[OlderAndWiser]

That strategy almost always fails but if that's what you want, go on the date with the expectation that he wants that, too. But don't throw yourself at him sexually.

[Simslover92]

Right. Thanks.

[OlderAndWiser]

Good luck.

[Simslover92]

Thanks!

[virgo2267]

Warning warning**** you may not like to hear this but it must be said…


RESERVATIONS: if not sure what that implies take a hard look at what it is you expect to get out of this “friend date”…
If he broke it off with you it is undoubtedly not the smartest decision to pursue any further intimate connection… men/guys will always CAPITALIZE on it and it seems like he is gonna get what he wants more than you.
Give a dog a bone and he will devour it and toss it away and go back to it cause he knows he’s got you under his thumb.


I wonder if you cared to ask him about his current status with the girl he is with now because it would be hard to believe you would even care about the other women knowing or not knowing… rest assure he really doesn’t care, he wants to get close to you for physical gratification no doubt.


Now it may seem you are more than willing to be his fuckdoll (and that is perfectly fine) but acting that out with theatrics of a dinner and a particular movie by the likes of a superhero with a cock of steel really won't be necessary (as it will shorten less fuckable time)


Bottom line:
¿ARE YOUR FEELINGS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THAT ITCH YOU ARE FEELING?


You may end up being the talk of town if you don’t show you have control over your body. And friends and families can already tell your next careless selfish move.


He is using you as an opportunity to get some again, he is also a scumbag. Do better please.

[Simslover92]

Although I disagree with him being a scumbag, I get what you are saying. Everything else is unfortunately the truth.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"Or maybe we're like Buffy and Angel where Spike called out [...] I dunno."

I absolutely love this "I dunno" as a finisher haha, there's so much potential contained, conveniently contained.

On that matter, I'm looking at how you're not mentioning anywhere what your wishes are for this date. I'm looking at your post written in a way like fate will decide, and you're just spectating. It's romantic. But do you wish friendship or do you wish resuming a story that has ended?

I mean you can also go to this date shrugging mode, maybe you fancy being called out by... Fate, in the moment? I could fancy it

I dunno? 😏

Seriously, I think it's a good idea to be sure, like really extra sure, about what you want here. It's not unromantic to think about it. It's just, you know, being okay with yourself, deep down.

[Simslover92]

I have my hopes for it to go exceedingly well but I know right now it's not in the cards for us to be together if ever again and I know I have to start living with that.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Ah, now there's a release, so you hope dearly for something to happen yet you think the timing is wrong. That's walking on the razor's edge to me lol

[Simslover92]

Perhaps. I guess we shall see...

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

The circle is complete then. Back to fate, well, have a good fate 🍀

[jazzy34]

If it's with your most recent ex, the one who caused you to go through a depressive episode, I would advise against it. You're trying to heal and move on. Even if it's just a "friend" date, being with him will most definitely stir up emotions and might cause you to spiral deeper.

[RageBabe]

Defining boundaries is essential; otherwise, you will further the pain of your already fragile heart, particularly if it's the same ex you've mentioned on GAG.

[Simslover92]

It is and I will.

[Simslover92]

Thanks

[RageBabe]

You're welcome!

[NoDecision]

I don't get it. You are "exes" for a reason. Why do you want to chew your old food twice?

[Simslover92]

We are good friends now and were before we got together. We've been friends for over 10 years. That's a lot of years to just let someone go.

[Screenwriter]

Exes are usually exes for a reason. Don't know why you two are getting back together. Friendship is one thing. Chemistry is about a sexual connection.

I think you're fooling yourselves that this is anything other than sex.

[Nikki1989]

Why is hanging out with a friend a “date?”

[Simslover92]

It's a friend date. I have them with my bestie all the time and call them that with her but I'm just wondering if things would be awkward because we've dated in the past and still have major chemistry between us.

[PeachyPie93]

You need to leave this guy in the past.. I don't know why you don't just cut all contact. If he loved you and it worked he never would have let you go in the first place.

[Tamera952]

It will be what you make it. Just decide ahead of time what you want it to be, and what you want it to look like. I’m friendly with majority of my ex’s.

[LiamJHayden]

It depends upon how it ended. Mutual, "Yeah I enjoy your company but this romance is not working." then probably fine. If it as a dump where one did not what to break up, could be an issue.

[ProbablyClueless]

Alex, I'll take "Awful Ideas" for $500

[MannMitAntworten]

Awkward? No. I have a feeling you will be far too preoccupied with the possibilities of the “friend date” being more than the ‘friend’ aspect.

[Shiprex]

Who knows maybe a flame still urns that will ignite

[lorenzomichael]

That makes no sense at all. “Going on a friend date with your ex.” It’s going out with your ex. That’s what it is It’s all good.

[MemeSupreme]

it'll probably be awkward initially but it'll pass

[Simslover92]

Thanks. That's what I was thinking.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Sounds more like a "get back with my ex" date.

[nawtee_me]

I think it will be good. Friends do movies too. Have a good time and enjoy it.

[msc545]

This is very hard to predict. Do it and see.

[exitseven]

You already know what I think abort this.

[Simslover92]

I can't. My best friend is having a family reunion where he lives and we already agreed to meet up with him. It's not just me he is seeing but my best friend because we all were friends in college. But while she's at the family reunion, we will be going to the movies together to buy time since we weren't invited to be at the reunion.

[exitseven]

@Simslover92 watch out for yourself

[Simslover92]

I will.

[hello4433]

I think you both will end up sleeping together

[Simslover92]

We're just gonna be playing drinking games lol

[hello4433]

Outside or at one of your house?

[Simslover92]

Hotel. My bestie is going to be there though so the likelihood of us sleeping together is very slim

[spartan55]

Ugh... don't do it.

[Simslover92]

Why not? And it's kind of too late. We already bought the tickets.

[spartan55]

Okay 👌, been there done that myself and know people who did it. Best case they caught up and that was it. Worst case they didn't even make it a week after their date.

[Simslover92]

I'm hoping for the best case scenario. I don't want there to be drama or awkward tension between us.

[Dongie]

Maybe a little bumpy at first then smooth.

[Anonymous]

I suppose it will be a bit awkward.

[Paige90]

Yes it would

[dudeinohio]

Probably awkward

[cavedweller1973]

Have to just see