Do you think closure is overrated?

[Anonymous]

What we are really trying to get from another person is something we can give ourselves. Like the disrespect, doing something that you would have never done to them and knowing that if they were true, they wouldn’t leave is enough.
Also, once the mask falls off you realise the only thing that made them special was your emotional attachment to them anyway.

[Anonymous]

I think "closure" and other emotional "concepts" are given much more attention today than they used to get. There is a huge focus on emotional wellbeing, which is not a bad thing in concept, but it often seems to be taken to an extreme by gen Z'ers to the point that they allow themselves to be incapacitated by challenge rather than just growing a spine and a skin.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for MHO

[Staximus]

Thinking that you need closure after a relationship ended is all in your head and a sign that you need to move on with your life and get over it

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm here to sprinkle some love and wisdom! Closure is like the cherry on top of the breakup sundae, but sometimes it's more like a mirage. You're right, often we look for things in others that we can give ourselves. ✨ Realizing your worth and understanding that the specialness was part of your emotional investment can be empowering and liberating. Now go out there and love yourself like you deserve—with loads of sprinkles! 😉

[ohsheeT]

No what ever happen happen and you don't need to know why. You know why its because they truly wanted something and they got it and got cought


No you can that true bond with passion and you only share it with each other

The reason why most want that close your meeting. It's because they don't know what's gonna happen. Part of them hates the person part of them loves him so much. H he's gonna be thrown onto the bed and everything be good again


So in that case we'll plan it out before one of you do something stupid and its over⁴

[jennifer_bloom]

I think people should know, you give your heart and time to somebody, but you do not give them your God or your morals. If you sacrifice your God or your morals for a man, you will face misery in your relationship and the chances of break up will be very high.

[DishLady]

Not so much overrated but sometimes there just can’t be any closure.

[EzraIsShy76028]

The problem is there's no real "closure" in real life. Real life is not a movie or book where a chapter is completed for good 100%. The feelings will always be there with you closure or not. So it's best to find other stuff to occupy your time to get rid of those feelings rather than chasing this person down.

And it's actually not fair to you or the other person to chase them down for closure. Sometimes it's best to just let things go rather than force yourself back into their lives (even if very briefly/temporarily).

Plus, closure has to be mutual. If they don't agree to reciprocate that closure then you basically just wasted your time.

[OneViewpoint]

I think "closure" is stupid. You can close that door any time you want with nothing from anyone else. "Closure" is just an excuse to keep it going a little bit longer. A refusal to slam that thing shut and get on with your life. I don't understand why people struggle to accept reality. You got dumped, cheated on, and replaced. Is "closure" gonna change any of that? Does it really matter what the reason was? Is an insincere "sorry" gonna make it feel better? Is it gonna give you back the last 2 years of your life?

[TrimmedTip]

Yeah, I think closure can be overrated. A lot of people look for it hoping the other person will give them peace—but honestly, that peace usually comes from within.

Most times, the “closure” you’re chasing is just trying to make sense of someone who already showed you who they are.

[Shiprex]

It is and is unnecessary. Most people can process the emotional turmoil of relationship ending without needing to ruminate and dump on someone to feel validated because the tendency is more to throw blame or shade on someone to make them hurt as they may have hurt you.

Out of sight out of mind should be a more common mantra.

[Asker]

I’m starting to believe this is better in the long run. You hit the nail with wanting them to feel as hurt as they made you feel and seeking answers/validation.

[Shiprex]

Thanks, the whole closure thing is for selfish get them back or make them see the hurt instead of learning, growing and moving on.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

It's overrated for those thinking it is? I don't know more about them.

As for me, I have asked for closure in the past, I have also given closure. I think it's the sane, humane thing to do and to expect, between people who loved each other. Separate from the effect it has or not.

I view it as a moral responsibility, the very last one of a relationship.

[RavVid]

No I think it is needful. Really your world view is probably wrong. Closure might help to correct that.

The reason your partner left you is probably romantic till death do us part is not enforced anymore and they got bored. It would help to know they just wanted the excitement of a new relationship. Nothing personal.

[FreyaRed]

The difference some arouse your desire for idealization others don't do or turn even to be anti-sympathetic. The main problem seems to be that most relationship don't have a balance emotional exchanges and mutual idealization is major one.

[Makeushiver]

I think both the word & concept are but - full disclosure- I've never been in a situation which would be where the idea would be relevant. Foir anyone who answers this I'd really like to know if it's something you experienced or just another opinion.

[MemeSupreme]

no bc it just speeds up processing whatever happened. like there's a reason people want it

BUT i do think you risk hurting yourself chasing or expecting it

[Kingofkings1992]

Closure isn’t real. There’s not some magical moment where the past ties itself neatly together. Life doesn’t work that way. The past leaves loose ends, unanswered questions, and scars that never fade. But you don’t need answers to move forward. You just have to be willing to walk away

[BCRanger10]

I don't know if it's overrated, but I think people can get too fixated on in it.

[Nikki1989]

Not really overrated, but people make it sound harder than it is.

[WonderingManII]

I think closure helps your emotions to settle down some as you move on.

[Anonymous]

No. Past experiences with someone can haunt some for years. Closure can help with that, and it would have really helped me.

[OneViewpoint]

You know what else would help with that? Man up and move on. Stop living in the past. Let it go. You can close that door any time you want with nothing from anyone else. "Closure" is just an excuse to keep it going a little bit longer.

[Opinion Owner]

@OneViewpoint That is an extremely narrow minded view. I did bury it deep down and mostly moved on. It was unfortunately revitalized. If I had closure, that would not have been the case. I'm going to do the same very soon, but closure would be significantly helpful. Because of how much I valued this person, the ambiguity of the situation makes it extremely difficult to discard her.

[CarolinaCutie5]

You need to just get over it. He doesn't owe u an apology and you're never getting one

[Anonymous]

Closure is really an American concept

Its kind of narcissistic

[blackeagle007]

I see no point of it all. Best way to get over someone is no contact with them

[BigSwingingBalls]

closure is needed sometimes. i agree not every time

[qwerty2469]

I do t think about closure. Im a straight man. That shits for cunts, queers, and women

[exitseven]

I will let you know if I ever get some

[Anonymous]

No. Closure is important.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I believe it is.

[Anonymous]

Closure is healthy with respect.

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope

[In_Trance]

Yes..

[ThatoneZ]

I definitely do.