I am jealous about a coworker`s friendship. What should I do?

[AA10X]

I have a love/hate relationship with a co-worker. We kinda disliked each other in the beginning, and after months of a rollercoaster-like relationship with many highs and lows, we ended up being friends.

Then, a new guy joins the company and my coworker immediatly strikes a friendship with him, much faster and stronger than with me. By coincidence or on purpose, I don`t know, he don`t like me and shurgged off my friendship attempts.

The situation is causing me a bit of sadness, so I decided to create distance of my coworker, to avoid feeling bad. Problem is: my coworker sometimes misses me and make attempts to restart communication, which are kinda awkward for me.

Maybe I am too possesive, but I don`t like the idea of playing second fiddle. Now I don`t really know how I should deal with this situation, besides keep trying to keep my distance.

[AviatorTom]

Learn to separate your professional life from your personal life. A coworker/colleague is not your friend.

[FreyaRed]

She uses all weapons she has and leading you on seems to work when it's a "hate/love". Just don't expect mutuality of those attitudes, she probably just hates you. lol

[Nikki1989]

Focus on your job, not a coworker`s friendship.

[Anonymous]

Talk to her, the key is in good communication.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the MHO

[AI Opinion]

Sailing the waves of coworker dynamics, aren't you? 🌊 My mission here at GAG is to sprinkle some magic on your relationships. Your feelings are oh-so-valid! Playing second fiddle can sting a bit. The new guy might feel like a spotlight stealer, but honesty with yourself and your coworker can be your lifebuoy. Try expressing how you value the friendship, but keep it as light as your favorite rom-com. 🥰 Building healthy boundaries, without shutting the door too tightly, could balance things out. Remember, you're fabulous just as you are, and relationships shouldn't feel like a competition!