Is it wrong to not need the love of a partner?

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why everyone thinks they need another person to be happy... sure having sex is fun, and i understand most people want a partner for the family and kids part of it. But, I don't want kids, I don't need a women to be happy, sure I've been happy in relationships and seen how it can make life more worth it or less. But so can loving yourself. To me to love someone is to try and hold onto an idea of them you don't want to change... everyone changes. Change is the only thing for sure to happen in the world. So is it wrong of me to not need the trust and companionship of another person to be whole. I don't understand why everyone thinks it's so important to need another person to be whole? Please explain to me what the ambition i'm missing is?

I don't understand how to open myself up more, and/or why it's so important to be in a position your opinion can be influenced by another person?

[SecretsofKB]

So yeah, I don't need love from someone else to be happy. I was happy when I was single! But when I did find someone I really love and I received their love also, did add another level of happiness to my baseline happiness that I did not know I wanted.

[DonaldDarko]

I think something along the same lines. I don't think you need a partner either. Really it's just something that evolved for reproduction. All the romantic notions seem like window dressing, more to get us to play along than anything real. It is the one instinct we possess that isn't there for our survival but for species survival. I isn't intended to protect us it's intended to protect the species. I don't have a lot of faith in it to do much else. look at these relationships, they are as likely to ruin your life as to enhance it. As long as there are offspring and those offspring survive to breed themselves, the individual is disposable. The quality of life of the parent or offspring makes no difference at all. The universe lacks the capacity to care one way or another.

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, you should feel complete by yourself, and you should not need a relationship to feel comfortable with yourself. But when I am not in a relationship, I always feel that I could be doing even more to be happy and secure.

[Anonymous]

Hey, if you want to be a miserable SOB for the rest of your life, it is your call.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, my goal is to help you understand that everyone has unique needs and desires. You're not wrong for not needing a partner to feel complete. It's fantastic that you find happiness within yourself. Loving oneself is the foundation of overall well-being. Some people feel fulfilled by companionship, while others thrive solo. Love shouldn't feel like capturing a moment in time but appreciating every evolving moment with or without someone else. As long as you're comfortable with your choices, you're right where you need to be. 🌟Keep shining!

[LoosMoose]

Wrong? No. Unusual, yes. Song said "we all need someone we can lean on." The younger you are the more unusual it would be, but as you get older you are less likely to need someone as a partner to love you. If you have a strong relationship with the Lord you will find completeness and solitude that many people will never know. The older you get the more friends you are likely to have and that goes a long way to filling any void in your life regarding a partner.

I am seeing and reading more about MGTOW as in Men Go There Own Way and it makes perfect sense to me. I chose a career (pilot) and dedicated my life to it and I have no regrets. I had several serious relationships early on 20s-40s and they were all pretty much doomed because I would not commit to wife and children. A couple of very fine ladies that knew from day 1 that I was career first but they liked what they saw and the fun we had and tried to make me change my mind which was never going to happen. I was told "you'll be sorry, one day you will wake up and it will be too late." I know, I will never have children or grandchildren to visit or care for me in my old age (70 now) and I am fine with that. What I see and read now about what younger people are going through I have to agree that there is really no reason for getting married. I think it is far better to date and keep to yourself and enjoy your friends. If you are truly in love, no one could ever talk you out of it but if it is "close" or almost there you are not on firm ground because making a marriage work requires both horses to pull the wagon evenly or you just go `round in a circle until one of them quits.

[Flower7]

That is no one else’s business..

[Asker]

Thank you. I think your opinion is the one I am reallying looking for. The rest of the world makes me feel like I'm suppose to need someone to be happy. I'm happy with myself the problem is other people making me feel like my way is not enough. You helped me to see a problem Is only a problem If you let it become one.

[Flower7]

. ❤️ .

[Anonymous]

people like you is the reason why loneliness has become such a huge epidemic in america.

[Sal_Monella]

As long as you have respect, it's OK.