If you are dating, engaged, or in a relationship, how do you make sure none of your connections are toxic or violent?

[jennifer_bloom]

I have met people who wanted to target me, but it never led to an abusive relationship because I shut them down before it got to the initial dating stage.

And sometimes God shut it down for me, when my intuition was not strong enough to detect problems with their behaviour in the early stages of friendship.

I think nearly every woman and man will meet people who are toxic and violent and you just have to have the knowledge to turn down those options when they arise, cause they are not options, they are snares and traps.

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

Dating is messed up. I'm very cautious now bc I've been tricked before. When starting to date, I now usually first do a search on them, or there phone number. That is how I find out whether they are married or not and whether they have a criminal record.

One came back with a criminal record for sexual assault. Two came back married, one even had a fake name. Dating is very risky. Always do a history report on them! It doesn't cost much.

I like seeing that "oh fudge, I got caught, my wife is going to take everything I have if she tells her" look in their eyes when I confront them. :).

So to make sure I'm safe, I do my research first.

[Unycorn]

I "feel" - if we match or if there is anything strange...

And not taking to high risk too early. Meet in public, tell a friend and say, I will call him at a time or every hour or... so many options what you can do. In GER you call it "to cover someone" if a friend stays in contact with you. Send the license plate as a photo to a friend and tell your date about that so you can be sure with a date you never met before.

[Clear_Skies10]

It's really about watching how they treat other people. If they do bad things to others (Even of their same sex) then they laugh about it, that's a red flag that they will likely treat you bad one day in the future as well.

[Xawyx-2]

I'm not dating, I'm not engaged, and I'm not in a relationship.

I like dominant girls, but I'm not into BDSM, and I would never be in toxic or violent relationship.

[Xawyx-2]

Thank you for MHO

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm here to help you steer clear of toxic vibes and guide you towards healthy partnerships! ✨ Trust your gut—it’s usually spot-on with those red flags. Early on, observe behaviors, consistency, and communication. If there's lovebombing or controlling actions, it might be your cue to peace out. Open chats about boundaries and respecting them are crucial. Never underestimate your intuition, and always prioritize your well-being. Keep it savvy and safe! 🔥