How can safety be created and nurtured in a relationship?

[caring__1]

What do you do to accomplish this?

How do your actions differ from what you expect from a partner?

Sorry for the spelling errors, but DALL-E3 is challenged when it comes to spelling.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

1. I give my trust to him and expect him to learn trusting me too.
2. I show him empathy, support and respect.
3. I am vulnerable to him and encourage him to be vulnerable to me too.
4. I am honest and direct and communicate my thoughts clearly, I expect the honesty from him too.
5. I care for him the same way I care for my own well-being and happiness.

I think this way, relationship becomes a sacred place for both of us to be who we really are, to feel emotionally safe with each other.

How do I encourage this?

I encourage all these things by setting an example. I show trust, respect, empathy, support, honesty, care and vulnerability and encourage him to do the same.

[caring__1]

With a compatible partner, you'll like the results of these beautiful choices. I'd just like to clarify a few items.
1) With open communication, teach him your definition of trust without expecting him to learn on his own. Guys are lousy mind readers.
3) Quality partners will see the value of vulnerability when they feel safe. If he doesn't show vulnerability, which means revealing personal challenges and appreciating your helping him achieve those goals, seek from him an understanding of those areas where he doesn't feel safe with you and what might lead him to feel unsafe. Sometimes people don't feel safe due to projecting their past onto the present, while other times it can be due to our inadvertently doing something that triggers fear or concern. Show him you want to see things through his eyes and learn, and make sure he can see consistent progress.
4) Just make sure you treat honesty as something you appreciate rather than something the other person is obligated to give. You don't want to establish a power struggle by forcing rather than enticing. Expectations are often seen as unilateral decisions forced on others. Awareness of how terminology impacts others can smooth communication. There are a lot of commonly used words that tend to trigger defensiveness from others.

It sounds like you prioritize a balanced well being of you, your partner and your relationship. Keeping all three in mind tends to reduce conflict and set the stage for a sense of belonging, equality and safety.

Choosing to be a role model is generally an effective tool for growth. Once again, be careful of your words, as some people view "encourage" as pressure, also, as if you'll never be satisfied until all your expectations are met.

Show him you'll never intentionally cause him pain or discomfort or allow anyone else to do so, either.

You have uncommonly positive insight.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Thanks for mho

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

And your helpful insight 😇😇

[caring__1]

You're welcome for both.

[Yunakim]

By assurance , assurance that you believe in each other and thats possible by communication, i believe.

[caring__1]

That is true, though people often find they complicate things when they attempt to communicate while only knowing how to talk. Educate yourself and then apply what you learn.

[DaveJord]

Honestly they have to be open to it... if they are not open to it... there's nothing you can do other then be you.

[caring__1]

Safety will always be a two-way street.

[DaveJord]

I hear you, but you cannot just create that for them... they have to do that for themselves first, and then decide if they want to make that space for you. All you can do is be yourself. Its all on them, honestly... you can try to influence their choices... but it's on them. they have to be in that place, and if they are not, you are wasting your time.

[caring__1]

You can't force someone to want to have a healthy relationship. Just choose your partners wisely rather than expect them to change for you. If you don't like what you see in a person, move on.

[DaveJord]

Exactly

[DaveJord]

Where did I say force? Your not listening to me. I said they have to create there own space, and then be open to sharing it with you.

I said you can't do it for them unless they are open to it.

We're was the term forced used? Only by you not me. Do not put words in my mouth and then lecture me on it.

[OlderAndWiser]

What or who is DALL-E3?

[caring__1]

It's an open AI image creator https://openai.com/dall-e-3 It can create some very unique images, though it spells terribly and it can be slow during popular times.

[caring__1]

It is free and fun to play with, though.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Safety is created before we even get together!
And tou just reassure your partner once you're together. Don't give them a reason to doubt you.

[caring__1]

If we create something before we even meet, whatever is unilaterally created doesn't consider any input from a potential partner. Just because something makes total sense to us, that doesn't mean it will make total sense to others.

Not giving them reason to doubt you is beautiful, and the key to this is consistent, clear, concise, open, honest communication.

[Bkotgvv]

Have money and be ambitious if you’re the man.

[caring__1]

Money and ambition have little to do with safety in a relationship. By focusing on that, you'll miss out on what is most meaningful.

[Manesrerkfi]

Which is what? Let me guess sex? Cause I know no man is gonna be dating a woman who won’t fuck him but if a woman asks for money in exchange all hell breaks loose.