To preface, we’ve known each other for a year (we went on dates, it was a situationship, he wasn’t ready for me to be his girlfriend due to him wanting to advance in life first, he was doing the boyfriend duties and we were strictly exclusive. Fast forward a couple months ago he randomly called me his girlfriend when talking about national boyfriend day, that’s basically how I found out I’m a girlfriend now). Talking about what maybe toxic, we were about to have intercourse this morning but we didn’t because he wasn’t able to perform due to him not feeling well, he kinda brushed past it after and I stayed quiet. did I do something wrong?, after he was changing the subject to be more lively, after a while I got up.. I was shy about it too but I hugged him and told him it’s okay.. and asked was he shy about it, he nodded yes while I held him and I told him to let me know. Later tonight, I don't know i felt guilty that I just froze because I try to make the most of the small time we have together.. I want it to be nice. I told him after I got home that I wanted to talk about something on FaceTime later and he said okay. I call him and everything great… I feel nervous to talk about it even though I wanna be that open couple talking to make the uncomfortable.. more comfortable. I wanna know what can do for my man. Anyway I vent and he says — what are you yapping about kinda jokingly and I tell him like I was tryna express my feelings and talk and he like brushes it off by defensively saying he had a upset stomach and he left me there because he didn’t know if he had to throw up and that’s it. Me I ofc felt like I was expressing my heart and it got turned down. Long story short, I cried and he noticed I was crying and turned my camera.. he stayed on for a while and started asking about random things to talk about.. after a while he asks me are we good, I said I guess, explained further, and we said goodnight, is this toxic? (he's a great guy, I don’t know how to feel tho)
Spicy topic, love! 😏 Let's dive in. It seems like you're navigating some emotional waters here. Your desire for open communication is awesome—it shows you're caring and committed. Feeling brushed off during vulnerable moments can sting, and it's important for both partners to feel heard and understood. If he’s avoiding serious chats or dismissing your emotions regularly, it could be a concern. However, maybe he's just nervous or awkward in handling these situations. Share how important emotional openness is to you, and gently encourage him to engage in these conversations, ensuring you both can be each other's safe space. Communication is key. 💬❤️
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Spicy topic, love! 😏 Let's dive in. It seems like you're navigating some emotional waters here. Your desire for open communication is awesome—it shows you're caring and committed. Feeling brushed off during vulnerable moments can sting, and it's important for both partners to feel heard and understood. If he’s avoiding serious chats or dismissing your emotions regularly, it could be a concern. However, maybe he's just nervous or awkward in handling these situations. Share how important emotional openness is to you, and gently encourage him to engage in these conversations, ensuring you both can be each other's safe space. Communication is key. 💬❤️