I’ve noticed a lot of men are expressing that they feel entitled to there partners body and if they don’t want to put out why is that?

[Anonymous]

some say that it’s grounds for them to leave and find a different partner or even cheat, it also sounds like it’s more of a demand to do it than a moment where they want to. also saw some saying they measure there partners love for them by how much they put out, which I find a bit odd because I’m pretty sure that’s not how that works. It also seems like they are classifying it more as a need than a want, because realistically you don’t need to have it every day you want to, it’s not my fault that your a horn dog who can’t control his urges.

[Stevepro68]

Women need emotional attachment on relationships. They need my emotional and verbal engagement to feel loved and secure. It's a need in a relationship. They are asking me to give of myself even if sometimes I don't want to. Nobody judges a woman for leaving a cold emotionless partner. Physical intimacy with your partner is similar for men. It makes them feel loved engaged and wanted. If a woman needs my emotional support or just touch and I said I'm tired I just don't feel like it and I did that consistently. Would you stay in that relationship? Especially if I reacted like I don't know why you can't just control yourself and suck it up, when you need emotional engagement. Women are taught by society that sex is a commodity a social lever. In relationships that has to go away. You have to respect your partners needs and wants. I'm not saying throw your legs in the air every time he asks. What I'm saying is respect as a emotional need not just a want.

[Asker]

So sex isn’t a NEED, it’s a want a desire. Never a need.
Sex also isn’t an emotional need, so what I’m seeing is your assuming every women needs an emotional attachment? I can definitely respect a partners wants which is sex, because I’d be taking care of his needs. So giving up my pussy makes men feel needed and loved. So me taking care of a man being on hands and knees taking care of the house and cooking doing laundry and making that bed come home to everything done so he doesn’t have to do anything isn’t enough to make a man feel loved or wanted? So if that’s really just what it is then forget taking care of him or the house. Just bring on the sex? And the emotional attachment? And that’s it? Sounds easy. yeah sex isn’t a commodity I was never taught that.

[Asker]

I’m just not up for having sex every single time a man’s little ween stands up and he wants to have sex, is that his fault? No, is it my fault? No, I’m just not up for it every single time. Just like when a women needs emotional engagement do men say yes everytime? No?
I can’t even go based of the emotional engagement or verbal anything cause that’s just not for me.

[Stevepro68]

That's fine then understand committed beneficial relationships aren't for you. Emotional support and respect is a common need that women indicate, but not all women. It shouldn't be dismissed or ignored as a want not a need. if you don't respect a partners needs because you judge it as insignificant. That's on you and you need a different partner that fills your need and doesn't dismiss them as wants. As far as house work and all that other stuff you mentioned that is again another part of things you find important that your partner values and would be mad if he or she ignored them and described them as want not a need. So if you partner wants and needs both are being ignored or dismissed by you. Yes that is how relationships end frequently. There are always bad people that do what they want and use tropes as excuses. But if you love and care for your partner and they for you. You should respect what they think is important and pay heed or understand it will not work well in the end.

[Asker]

I’m sorry but no matter how much I respect or love my partner I will never classify sex as a NEED because it isn’t one. It’s not one biologically either, it’s not being dismissed either. If I’m not up for sex I’m just not up for it why would I because just force myself to do something I’m not wanting to do that night because my partner wants to? The respect goes the same way for that. If on a random Tuesday he wants to do it and I don’t want to, and he gets mad about it, tf does that have to do about me especially if we’ve had sex the last 2 days? I’m sorry but all I’m getting from your comments is that if I am not on hands and knees for my partners dick that I won’t be able to find a long lasting relationship. So that meaning that the answer to my question that you are providing is that yes men do feel entitled to there partners body.

[Stevepro68]

No entitled is different than a personal need. No one is entitled to anyone else. The only thing a human truly needs is water, sleep food and oxygen by the strictest definition. A person's needs should be important to you if you care about them. That is my point related to your question. text is poor conveyor of emotion. The tone of your writing is distain for your partners needs and if I wrong then I apologize. Think of the things in your relationship that you need from your partner. Think of how you would feel if he dismissed your needs asnnot a need just a want. Because it's not food water oxygen etc.

[Asker]

I would need my partner not to want my body every few hours, because he isn’t entitled to my body. Or just like I would need him to get a vasectomy, is he going to adhere to my needs? No.
But also I don’t have a partner so no distain. More so I don’t classify sex as a need and it will never be viewed as a need for me. Biologically it isn’t a need either, I won’t be with a man who views sex as a need because it is a want/desire. Just like getting married isn’t a need, it’s a want.
If I care about my “partner” I still shouldn’t HAVE to have sex with them if I don’t feel up to. If my partner”partner” dismissed my needs? Oh, well I’ll take care of them myself, at the end of the day they are MY needs. Not his, he shouldn’t have to take care of them every single time, just like I shouldn’t have to either.
But also as you read this comment I want to give you a peak into a 23 year old women’s mind when it comes to relationships/marriages, and I’m being completely honest right now.

[Asker]

Men that are my age are horrible, not all of them are but to actually find a good guy that’s within my age range? It’s like finding a needle in a haystack (which I’m not saying it’s not hard for the guys but it is a bit more easier) and if I’m going to have to search that hard and long for one, I’m going to have high standards. I don’t want a man who is lustful with a wandering eye, who is likely to end up cheating on me. I don’t want a man who watches porn, and wants sex all the time. I don’t want a man who thinks with his dick, you have a brain use it. I want a man who will actually value me, care about me, view me as a partner not as a sexual object used for his pleasure, who if we live together is willing to take care of house chores along side me (because I’m not a maid, he can clean up too) I want a man who can watch a movie with me, without thinking it’s time to get sexual. I want a normal man, not some super star who looks good or has money. I’ll always choose a guy that who can check my boxes over a guy who looks good and has money who can only check 1 or 2.

[OlderAndWiser]

I don't believe that a man is entitled to his partner's body, but I believe that most people enter a relationship with the expectation that it will include sex. If you no longer want to have sex with your partner, that is your right, but your partner also has the right to end the relationship and find another partner who IS willing to include sex in the relationship. Do you disagree?

[Asker]

I do disagree in a sense that let’s say for an example I’m on my period, my period tends to last 4-5 days. I’m not going to want to have it those days because I have cramps that usually have me in pain. So why add being intercourse to me already being in pain? I’m not saying no intercourse ever, but there are some days when I’m just not up for it and days that I want to just go at it. But what I’m implying is that if a woman is on her period or it’s one of those days where she’s just not up for it why would a man end the relationship over that?
But also a lot of girls my age that I’ve spoke to in person/ online friends have said that they themselves and other friends have decided to stop having intercourse because of men leaving because of not having enough intercourse. Because at the end of the day it just feels like that’s the only reason he was there, which also makes sense if you actually think about it. If you are in love and have been together for years and are planning to get married and suddenly you fiancee breaks up with you and calls the engagement off and you ask why, and he says we just haven’t been having enough intercourse as I wanted. That’s the most fucked up thing I would’ve ever experienced and would make me think either 1. I don’t want to be in another relationship because that’s left me traumatized or 2. I have to make sure to have as much intercourse with my partner wants so he doesn’t leave me like the other. And that’s just an example

[OlderAndWiser]

1. "If you no longer want to have sex with your partner" does not mean temporarily incapacitated. You have over-interpreted my comment.

2. If you are consistently getting into relationships with guys who only want you for sex, then part of the responsibility for that problem rests on you. You can weed out those guys by not jumping into bed on a first date. Yes, a lot of those guys won't ask for a second date but. . . those are the guys who would only want you for sex.

3. Yes, a guy has a right to break up with you at any time, for any reason, even if it is quite arbitrary.

[Asker]

Hi so 1. I haven’t been in a relationship before neither have I had sex so yeah I’m not jumping into bed with anyone
2. A guy wanting to break up because they aren’t getting intercourse everytime he wants it? Is what’s stopping me from having intercourse because it’ll just leave me feeling used because well obviously reasons

[Asker]

So yeah, when this whole dating/intercourse thing is starting to look like it’s really not for me which is said because I do want a relationship but now I’m starting to actually fear them because of this

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to spice up these relationship chats and provide some insights! 🌶️ Feeling entitled to a partner's body is a major red flag 🚩. Love isn't measured by how much someone "puts out." True connection and communication are the sexy keys to a healthy relationship. Demanding intimacy like it's a transaction sounds like a recipe for dissatisfaction. Remember, intimacy is more about mutual respect and shared moments than fulfilling a perceived "need." Here's to more genuine connections and fewer ghostings and lovebombings! ❤️

[Anonymous]

It's grounds to leave, not to cheat. Cheating is NEVER justified. But if she's signaling that she has zero desire in him anymore and he has given her ample time to right whatever the goblins in her head are telling her. Then it is absolute time to send her on her way to find her happiness. And he can regrettably find his new happiness.👍💯

[Asker]

Yeah but apparently most guys take 1 or 2 no’s as there sign to leave, sorry but I’m not up for it every single day. But hey why need a relationship or sex, when I have a father who does everything 😁

[Opinion Owner]

That's weird way to tell us you're gay, possibly incestuous.😆

[Asker]

So since I don’t want to have sex all the time I’m gay? That’s odd because a woman can only be lesbian so in the term gay, yeah I do like men. Also sounds like you know your losing which is why your using your tiny man cards “gay” and even throwing in “incestuous” your 45 plus so I can’t even gauge what age you are but, since my father who is (54) even said your weird for throwing any mention of incest into a conversation that had no link to it makes him think that you are self projecting onto me via these comments.
But hey I’m also a virgin so, yeah it’s pretty okay for me not to want to have sex every day? I don’t have it now, so it’s not something that I’m really even thinking about doing.
I get the emotional support I need from both my mother and father, I get affection from my parents too, granted it’s not relationship wise but as there child. That’s enough for me, now the reason I used my father as the example is because there’s a man who already takes cares of me who doesn’t expect or want anything in return, which is how it should be. So yes growing up with a father who taught me to never be with a man who wants to treat everything as a transaction suddenly makes me incestuous?
Your older so I’m sure you know that a way that a dad treats there daughter growing up is have she’s going to expect to be treated, if she was neglected or push aside by her father she’ll aim for a man who treats her like shit and a transaction. If the father is supportive, and is always there making sure she knows with the world to him of course she’ll now aim for a man who supports her, loves and cares for her. Do you get what am I saying or is that incestuous too?

[Asker]

And you sound like a pedophile who problem targets children hope that helps 😁 I’m 23, my man priority in life isn’t about sagging balls and raging boners. Sorry that you don’t like that. Anyways as the pedo you are leave me alone thanks. Also with the way you saying I need dick also sounds like you’d sa a girl and force them to take dick from you.

[Asker]

Typical man tho always thinking about sex and a woman’s body, get a grip. Or maybe transition into a woman since you seem to have so many opinions on them.

[Opinion Owner]

You're all kinds of crazy aren't you. You complain about men wanting sex frequently (not true by the way). And then you say you're a virgin.🤷‍♂️ I could care less by the way.
You can't have it both ways.😆 Why don't you just admit the truth. You're terrible picking men. It's OK, most of gender is today. Why do you think you chickenheads have so many problems. It isn't the men, that I promise you. Control the controllable and stop worrying about things you can't, and never will. By the way, I know you will not head this good advice. I know everything I'm telling you will fall on deaf ears. That's why you women on this site are so amusing. You NEVER f***ing learn.😆

[Asker]

Uhh… let’s not assume? Also why did you refer to me as a chicken head? I can say I probably am bad at picking men, also you can cuss the world won’t end cause you didn’t sensor fucking. So no I won’t take your advice because you brang up incest out of no where. Also I can’t be a virgin and have an opinion on if I want a man who doesn’t want to have sex every day multiple times? That’s dismissing.

[Opinion Owner]

"Let's not assume"? Boy isn't that the pot calling the kettle black. You've made all kinds of assumptions about me, all wrong. I call you a chickenhead because I can. And i didn't because of something that escapes you. It's a little thing called class. And I didn't being up incest, you did. You said what do you need a man for that your dad can't do for you.🫢
But at least you accept that you don't pick good men. But knowing the problem is useless if you never endeavor to fix the problem.👍

[Opinion Owner]

"And I didn't cuss by the way"* not "and I didn't by the way".

[Asker]

You actually were the one who bring up incest lol. “That's weird way to tell us you're gay, possibly incestuous.” Cause I mean that is your comment is it not? Well yeah, I don’t classify sex as a need cause you don’t need it to survive and realistically the way some men talk about there partners regarding sex yeah I’m okay without it. So yeah my father can provide me safety, he can cook and do household chores, supports me, provides affection (parental wise) and he provides the so called money that men say women want from them lol. So I mean yeah, that’s it. I just said I don’t pick good so you’d feel a bit better about your accusation, also I love how your swapping words around lol when I said “But hey why need a relationship or sex, when I have a father who does everything” hmm does that sound like I said I don’t need a man? No, but since you’re assuming I don’t. I will say I don’t, it’s a want. I can live without having a “man” in the sense of a relationship or sex. But I mean you guys always prove my point that it’s really only about sex to you guys. But typical move from an older man on this app trying to gaslight and manipulate a younger woman

[Asker]

But also at the end of the day you probably are some old sack white man, who thinks he gives amazing advice to younger women. Or you might just be a sad old man, both are the same.

[Anonymous]

I never feel entitled, I never had a relationship, always single, still a virgin.

[Asker]

Thank god someone doesn’t feel that way.

[Anonymous]

My husband is entitled to my body and I want him to feel that he can have me however and whenever he wants. He can always satisfy his need in me.

[Asker]

Oh…. Uh okay…. Then that’s you, if you want to be USED

[Asker]

But just by you saying that I’m going to assume you enjoy being used by men for their pleasure, which to me means you don’t value yourself or know your self worth and diminish yourself as a sexual object for men’s needs. But also it’s obvious you like being used, but I also see you in between 18-24 and almost every girl thinks like that until it happens lol. Then I hope you get used over and over again 👍🏽 there are some rude things I want to say but I’ll refrain as this is your choice to be used, but to be used is to be abused so have fun with that

[Opinion Owner]

No i just care about my husband. If he needs to "use" me then he is free to do so. And I like when he objectified me, I love that he finds me sexually attractive and men are so easy pleased. Cuddles afterwards are the best.

[Asker]

It’s nice that you like to be objectified, hopefully by the wrong person too. But hey if you married this early, just for of course encouragement towards you I hope he.. well nevermind. But have fun being a slut :)

[Asker]

Hehe he’ll probably end up putting his hands on you and not in a positive way if you continue to let him have control over you, which is good for you since you know. You enjoy that

[Opinion Owner]

I do enjoy the spanking and being dominated. If anything is control him.

[Asker]

No I men beating you to the point you go to the hospital

[Asker]

“If anything is control him”? Not sure what that means

[Opinion Owner]

No he's not like that and the men that are like that are like that not because they were allowed too much sex but because that's who they are.

[Opinion Owner]

Means exactly what I said.

[Asker]

Hmm.. no it happens with both men that are like that and men who get way too much sex. But hey like I said if you want to be used like your nothing that’s on you. Would never be me, I have more respect for myself than you do obviously. We’re in the same age range, you were raised by whatever raised you to believe you have to give your “husband” your body whenever he wants, while both my parents raised me that would beat the shit out of a man who thinks that he has a right to my body whenever he wants and thank god for that or I’d probably be slutting around right now

[Asker]

But hey when your at the end of your life, and realized that you spent all of you giving to a man. Maybe then you’ll realize that you should’ve lived for yourself first and not a man regardless if he is your “husband” or not. You deserve to be able to do the things in life you aspire to do, not cap yourself to a man. But hey if you aspire to be used for sex and slapped around like your some sort of dog, be my guest. But don’t go crying to the police if he does start beating you, you chose that path yourself.

[Opinion Owner]

Seems you are projecting. I live for others, my children, my husband.
My husband is a good husband, good father and good man. Why should I not show appreciation and reward him for all he does and show him love? My own father died and left my mother devastated, showed me the importance of letting the people in your life know everyday how important they are.

[Asker]

Oh I let my parents and my brother know how important they are every single day, my mother and grandma had cancer grandmother died to the cancer while my mother barely survived I definitely know the importance. Definitely not projecting lol, that’s fine that you started you life off wayyy earlier then I would lol. Different parents teach different things leading to different mindsets. I would never show a man appreciation by allowing him to use my body anytime he would like. I will never understand why certain people think allowing a man to use your body to his liking as showing love lol. It’s repulsive to me.

[Asker]

But also at the same time you’re probably with a good man, will I say he’s a good man based off of what you say? Hell no, that’s because everyone has there one open and are able to judge everyone based off of what they want to. Plus I don’t know you thankfully so. But as a conversation ender, I’ll block you. I will no longer have a young women who is slaving away like she’s on a cotton field for a man and letting him use her body whenever she wants continue to converse with me 😁 you can continue to be used, and be stuck with child and a user who meets you expectations.

[Asker]

Damn your anon which means I can’t block, so said.. but I can let my parents make fun of your comments tho

[Asker]

But also at the same time, this is my burner account… so I could just not log in and stay on my main lol

[Opinion Owner]

I feel bad for your father.

[Asker]

Uh… why do you feel bad for him? He’s the one who taught me not to give my body to a man for him to use as he pleases

[Asker]

I was actually going to retort saying something about your father but because of what you said earlier but I’ll be nice and not say anything unless you say something about mine. And trust me I love to get mean when people say something about my father.

[Opinion Owner]

My father was a strong intelligent hard working Christian man. He set the bar high for any man id marry.

[Asker]

But go ahead, comment back faster so I can throw at you if you decide to cross the line 😁

[Asker]

That’s fine, don’t really care. My father is also a Christian man and is also hard working. And also has my bar set very high. I’ve never had to “reward” him for anything he’s done for me neither have I ever had to give him my body lol. He taught me to never give a man full access to my body whenever he pleases, which I feel is true. It’s not true for you, good job. Don’t care that’s what you decide to do. But notice how both have Christian fathers who work hard, have set the bar high and are intelligent and can’t say your father was intelligent or the other things because I did not know that man but I’ll take your word on it. But two different women turned out very differently, I spent every waking moment that I could attached to my father’s side. Even as a grown adult, oh I have 2 days off in a row? Time to back a flight to dad’s house.

[Asker]

Now even my dad tells me even if I am married and love and care about my “husband” that I do NOT by any circumstances let him use my body when he feels like it as some sort of reward because that turns the relationship into a transaction. Which I completely agree with him on that, I mean he is a man after all has had friends that he’s seen there relationships who to get better advice from on relationships/marriages then from a man since I’m interested in men. I won’t take relationship advice from a woman, unless they know they’re worth which only I can judge and decide when someone talks of I’ll take it.

[Opinion Owner]

But according to you your father is disrespected and has rarely had sex with your mother.

[Asker]

Uh.. nah.. that’s not how that works, they have sex when they both decide to not whenever he wants to. But since now you refer to my father as disrespectful (had to correct your spelling cause it’s not disrespected) you father obviously didn’t get to teach you enough sadly. But at the same time it seems like your entire marriage revolves around sex, sad. Your being used and well don’t have a man to guide you, cause your husband isn’t a father to guide you. My mother had cancer were sex was causing her pain. Why the fuck would they have sex during the 3 years she was going through chemo? Dumbass lol. But now I want to disrespect you. You lack the man in your life that you actually need. And again it’s not your husband, you offer your body up so easily because you didn’t have him to tell you that you shouldn’t.

[Asker]

Where exactly did I say my dad was disrespected? And when did I say my parents rarely have sex? I don’t live in there house anymore I don’t know how much they have sex, stupid. Want me to invite you to his house so you can listen to them like a sex freak you are?

[Asker]

Maybe also think about how not everyone’s relationships revolve around sex like yours does. Not everyone wants sex all the time lol. My ex boyfriend and I only had sex 1-2 times a week, which we were both okay with because sex doesn’t rule our relationship. Obviously it rules your relationship and if you think it’s disrespectful that someone isn’t have sex with there partner every single day you definitely should’ve had a dad longer. Even my mother says a relationship shouldn’t be ruled by sex, and that I shouldn’t be giving my body away to a man I’m with whenever he wants it. Notice how you said my dad doesn’t give my mom enough sex? (Weirdo) she says exactly the same thing, why? Cause there marriage isn’t ruled by sex. They respect each other and don’t feel like they need each others bodies all the time. Unlike you that has been conditioned to give your s away, maybe going to therapy might help for you? I mean I’d even pay for you to go to therapy, sounds like you need it. I pray that if you have a daughter she doesn’t grow up to be like you where she gives her body away at any given time.

[Danny_dan92]

Those are insecure.




I never felt this way with my ex’s.




Rather when in a relationship, experiencing each other is mutual

[Anonymous]

Nah i never once thought i was entitled to her body she's her own person and i love her