When a relationship breaks down, when should your ex give you back your personal belongings?

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately due to a domestic situation I had to call the police. He was charged with common assault. That same day I packed up as many things as I could and got the hell out of there. That was the 31st of July. There is an injunction in place. This prevents communication between the two of us for 3 months. He asked for his mother to be appointed as the middle person, she has been collecting and dropping off our son between us.

I have asked 2 or 3 times now for my personal belongings, the first time I asked she told me that she was only required to provide access to her son. The 2nd time I got the police to confirm with me that this could be organised between family members and she insisted that they need to speak to her son first. Now I've spoken to the police again and they've said if you struggle then book an appointment with them and they will come with me to get the things. My sister has told me to try again with the mum. But she hasn't responded to communicate what is going on, i made a list of the things I require so they know exactly what I need. I feel like just by passing them which was my first instinct and just got through the police.
He's holding my things hostage and I need them back. I return to work at the end of October. Clothes, dog food, toys bought by my family for the baby. I will be starting work soon so I need to get these things to so I don't have to rebuy things as this is an expense I could do without. What would you do?

[Wuai201]

My ex just set up a glass case to display some of his stuff
One of the presents I gave him is sitting in there
We broke up 4 years ago...
I think if it sentimental, they should keep it to remind them they lost a good person
If it's not, then take it back after the problem settled down
If you still like the person, then get it quickly
You don't want to reopen the wounds

[Asker]

I do still like him but I was very clear to his mum. If we are ever to stand a chance at getting back together he needs to seek professional help. A few months back he said I needed counselling because I had poor communication skills and was showing odd moods. I mean I did just have a baby. But whatever. I went to my GP and they made me a priority to get professional counselling. He has no excuse. He has nothing but time to work on this especially on the days I have our son. But as you can tell, this is just another way for him to try and control the situation

[Jennz6]

You’re probably never going to get them back

[Jennz6]

Thank you for the MHO

[AviatorTom]

Have you heard the expression...

Do what's right and ask forgiveness later?

Ask his mom to accompany you to his place, when he's not there, and pick up your stuff.

[Asker]

If his mum was able to work with me that would be fine. But she seems to be happy in allowing her son to hold my items hostage. Unfortunately because he works from home, he is there most of the time.

[AviatorTom]

If your things are worth it, and you can afford it, your need to hire a lawyer.

[Asker]

I will take this route

[dudeinohio]

Call the police and go over and get your things. Simple.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating such a tough situation requires patience and strategic action. Since there's an injunction, it's crucial to follow legal guidelines. You've made your requests clear, but given the lack of response, coordinating with the police might be your best bet. They can ensure the exchange of your belongings goes smoothly and safely, minimizing the drama and tension. There’s no need to add more stress by lingering in these murky waters of mixed signals and unavailable responses. Prioritize your peace and well-being above all. Good luck! 😇🛑

[Anonymous]

Yes I believe so.