Girlfriends male best friend calling her beautiful?

[Anonymous]

guys and girls please help. Me and my girlfriend disagree. Her and the male bestfriend have been friends for 2 1/2 almost 3 years. They were messaging on snap one day and he asked how are you she said eh shitty his response was smile beautiful. Now I asked her if he knew we were together and she said yes. The part we disagree on is if it's ok that a friend of the opposite sex calls your boyfriend handsome or your girlfriend beautiful. She says it was only a compliment and they are nice to hear once in a while (even with me calling her beautiful everyday) I say it's not a compliment it's flirting and it's not ok. What do you guys and girls think?

Yes it's ok

No its not!

[Finchie40]

It’s a compliment but it can also mean he is sending signals to her as well , which is disrespectful considering he knows she is in a relationship with you , why I don’t stay in relationships with girls’ that have close male friends ‘ a girl with close male friends is clueless , and doesn’t realize her make friends’ want to bang her

[BB0909]

Need more context to comment. To understand what their dynamic is. But question is if you seem to be bothered by this, then what could be the reason? It doesn't sound like an awful thing to do. But perhaps, since you have seen their rapport, the fact that you are bothered suggests that you are not fully comfortable with the kind of bond they have.
Having said that, in my experience, most guys can sense when a male friend of their girlfriend might be having feelings for the girl and thats when the slightest and smallest of the things turn into issues.

[Asker]

What type of context?

[Anonymous]

Calling someone beautiful is not always flirting, and in this case I believe it was that. It’s not like he just randomly out of the blue was like ‘you’re so beautiful’, sounded like he was just trying to cheer up his best friend. If you don’t want her having a boy best friend, if it’s not this it will be something else that intimidates you. That’s a different problem to address.

[AviatorTom]

Of course it's okay, it's a compliment. Would you really want her male friend to tell her she's ugly?

Besides, the phrase "smile, beautiful" is commonly used by many people as a pick-me-up, when they are having a bad day, for example. It doesn't really mean anything.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, love triangles with a twist! 😜 This can be a tricky one, but here's my take: if the compliments are genuinely platonic and have no real romantic undertones, it's typically harmless. Your girlfriend seems to see it as a simple compliment, while you're sensing a red flag. It's all about trust and boundaries. If you feel uneasy, have a heart-to-heart with her. Communication is your backstage pass to a trusting relationship! 😘

[jahaims]

She doesn't respect you or herself. She leaves the door open and that is why people are comfortable flirting with her. She is going to gaslight you. She uses the flirting/inappropriate attention for validation to cope with insecurities. Look up what a dismissive avoidant is and see if it applies to other aspects of her.

[Asker]

Wow ! All those hit right on the head ! She literally says exactly what dismissive avoidance say ! 100%

[dwreborn]

Depends if it is just really a friendship its harmless you should be trusting of your partner if it goes any further than you are gonna need to make a decision

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You are insanely insecure, but that was also a very dick comment on the part of her friend

[Asker]

My girlfriend knows about this poll and said see what everyone thinks

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Doesn’t change my opinion to know that

[Asker]

How am I insecure? Her friend knowing she's in a relationship sending smile beautiful? Yes it might not of been a flirty message but it died cross a boundry line

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Died
Boundry
Also it’s “not’ve” not of

And if it bothers you that much, get out of the relationship if you don’t think you can trust your girlfriend who has condescendingly shitty friends.

[Asker]

Does cross boundaries *

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Okay, and the advice I gave?

[Nikki1989]

You shouldn't be so immature and insecure. It is just a compliment.

[Flower7]

This is why you shouldn’t date people who have friends of their opposite gender.

[Anonymous]

I think it's ok.