When we love someone do we love them because of or despite of their qualities/quirks?

[Pearl222]

[ohsheeT]

I believe that is the reason why we are allthere are so many different levels of love

We're supposed to become one with self
one with others ,
and one with this universe

When you can do this you look deep with in someone and love is unconditional from the inside out.
For every reason, good or bad it's because of who they are who's their heart? Who' your heart is
The way they look and speak to you with out words what they do when they think nobody's looking. It has to be everything about them, the way they breathe comb their hair doesn't matter. The\nWay that they might be afraid of an ant or spider it's everything wrapped up to the inside of their body from the inside out

[Zack-Bann]

I would say true love is despite the quirks


Because it’s easy to “love” the qualities
And important to have them of course


But loving a person is choosing to be around their human weaknesses


I think we live in a time where that’s mostly lost. These days it’s all or nothing all the time.
People get together and then break up at the earliest inconvenience


One thing is for certain: there WILL be an inconvenience at one point.
So if that’s all it takes to break up love, then a breakup is guaranteed.

[Pearl222]

Very true, I agree with everything you said. It’s easy to leave at the slightest inconvenience but difficult to continually choose a person over and over despite knowing their human flaws.

[Zack-Bann]

Well some flaws shouldn’t be overlooked. It’s important to gage the underlying nature of a person

A flawed good person is a better partner than a seemingly perfect but secretly evil person

And by evil i don’t mean like a cartoon villain. More like pathologically selfish and self absorbed

[Pearl222]

Cartoon villain haha…. No, I get that and you’re right of course; has to be a good balance of both. Like you said, a flawed but essentially good person is what I meant.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, my aim here is to sprinkle a bit of love wisdom with a cheeky smile! 🌟 When we fall head over heels, it's usually because of a sweet cocktail of both their quirks and qualities. Those quirks can be like that irresistible cherry on top, making them unique and keeping us on our toes. But sometimes, we love despite those odd habits. Love sure knows how to keep us guessing, right? 😄

[HawkPerception]

You can love someone because of their qualities or quirks. They can literally be the thing that makes you love them. But you can also love someone despite them. Their qualities and quirks may be seen as flaws in your eyes, but you love them for other qualities they have.

[aaron13547]

Both. Love is selfish and selflessness fighting. You have to love yourself first because that's like the "height" of the scale you are able to love someone else. Love is like the ability to make yourself happy. Loving someone else is giving them the power to make you happy or not... now it's awesome and all when someone chooses you over what they want. But if they always choose you over themselves it makes it hard to love them because you are all they want. When you are the only choice it's like no choice at all... I try so hard to understand how 2 people are suppose to be able to balance loving themselves and another. The idea is like 2 become one but if two successfully become one then they are one... and then want more again... Let me know the secret to the balancing act when you figure it out please. The harder I try the balance everything; the more there is to balance!

[Pearl222]

Lol, I’m no expert myself, but if I figure it out I’ll let you know for sure.

[AvaRay]

Love isn’t selective admiration nor blind tolerance..

It’s the fierce acknowledgment of someone’s entire spectrum their brilliance, their flaws, the chaos they carry, n the shadows they hide..

Loving them is an act of courage, not convenience..

N only the bold can stay fully aware n still choose them..

[Purpleronnie]

Impossible to answer… both or neither or either


Loving someone is subjective and so much more.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

We love them because of how they make us feel, which is deeply ironic because it still always boils down to our own selfish nature.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Their qualities are how you fall both in and out of love with someone

[Anonymous]

I would say its a combination of both. You should recognize their flaws, becaude everyone has them. Some of their quirks also might make them more attractive.

[jamesgoldman]

I don't know, I've been in 2 relationships

I loved everything about my first girlfriend

The second time round, money was a slight issue

[Ironco]

This may sound weird or unusual, but on a physical level, I actually like imperfections. Stretch marks , cellulite, sagging, etc. Just what I prefer, an all natural lady.

Just me...

[exitseven]

I think that somebodys quirkiness can be a big plus.

[Anonymous]

Neither. When you love some one after a while thier quirks can become endearing. But that doesn't ever really mean you love them because of their quirks. You just accept the person as a whole.

[AgentG111]

I believe it's both that make it a well rounded love !

[Cassie8_]

Yes, that's their best part. It’s what makes them who they are.

[Nikki1989]

It could be both.

[katiesmuff]

Despite of the qualities and quirks

[Anonymous]

Depends, it can be either.

[beenherebefore]

Because of what?

[dudeinohio]

Because of

[Jessicasmith243]

Nope

[Anonymous]

Love is blind